Hi Moms, I am 29 y/o when I found out that I was pregnant with my first baby. My hubby and I we're so excited to be new parents and felt so blessed to go through the pregnancy with no complications not until my 36 weeks regular checkup that I was diagnosed with PIH (pregnancy induced hypertension). We tried to follow all advises of our doctor and went on our regular checkups. Everything was going fine and monitored as I progress but one morning of my 38th week, i felt really painful contractions that really made me think I am going into labor. So I got ready and everything, so excited and all especially I will be celebrating my 30th birthday with her in my arms.
As we went to hospital it was so traffic and because I live here in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia, most nurses in the hospital didn't speak to me in English about my condition. They just go back and forth my room without saying a word to me. So I waited and waited, and then my OB arrived. I was examined and all then she wanted me to see the ultrasound... She told us that our baby's heart rate is really going down and went straight to the point that even if we did a emergency CS that time, our little Cielle will not be able to make it. Even if she was explaining, I cannot digest what she is saying. All I can say is, please doctor, try again... open the utz again and try to locate my baby's heartbeat again.. I couldn't comprehend everything. My hubby and my friends are all there to explain to me what was happening. The doctor held my hand and said there is no use for us to do the emergency CS and we will just wait for my spontaneous delivery.. I don't know what happened next but then told me that I fainted and as they checked all my vital signs are showing critical.. Next thing I knew they had to take me to the OT and do emergency CS because it will cause my life.
And so I woke up with all the pain and stitch in body but no baby Cielle.. I came to a point that I questioned God.. all the why's and "what have I done to deserve all this pain"... Why I carried her in my body and be taken away without hearing her cry.. I have all this when I woke up then my hubby and friends were all there crying with me but still very happy to see I was able to make it. Then all words of encouragement came.
Not long before I woke up, one of my friends told me that we needed to arrange the burial of our angel Cielle. Even if I was still in pain physically , I did not think of that anymore because all I wanted is to see my angel have a proper place.. We called for a priest to bless her as I was holding her cold in my arms. She was so beautiful, she looks so peaceful sleeping.. I cannot blame God and I said sorry for getting angry and questioned him.. I know he has a reason for all these and all I want is for him to get my angel and take good care of her. We opted for cremation for our angel Cielle and now she stays with us.
Cutting my long story, we went home without our baby Cielle. I had to recover longer as I had emergency CS..My hubby and I struggled a lot in saving our relationship.. We had lots of misunderstanding to the point of breaking everything off. I prayed and asked for guidance. We worked things out by going out again, trying our best to communicate more, doing things together and keeping each other healthy...
After 6 months, I just found out today that I am positive doing the PT. I did it twice to be sure. 2 (+) and I could not believe it.. Now I do have a lot of mixed emotions. Happiness , excitement but the most of all, I am worried. I called my previous OB and they said she resigned already for further studies. Now it's adding to my worry to explain my previous condition to the next OB.
Any advise or words of encouragement will be out most appreciated mom out there ....