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Morning all

Hope we all had a AF free Christmas

Well my New Year had started with a downer

Health side I'm well as can be Working still and looking to going full time again

Down side My middle girl has had bother where she lives so mum has been left to feed her cats She has packed a bag and gone with her partner some where Won't tell me where or what's gone on Phone turned off till she contacts me .Problem is she had history of schizophrenia and hasn't been on meds for a few months I'm worried sick a out her Any help or advise to help me cope with the worry would be appreciated I know she is in her 30s but it is so stressful

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Luludean

O I do feel for you!!! It is awful not knowing where one’s child is, even at 30. I hope the partner makes her see sense, daughters ( and sons) can put us through hell.

I hope you hear soon and that she starts taking her meds regularly.

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Vonnieruth in reply toLuludean

Thank you She is with him That's all u know She won't tell me anything but that she ain't going back there Hopefully she is contacting someone over cats but I don't thing she's in the right place at moment both mentally and emotionally I feel so shut out that I cannot help her

Perhaps your best source of advice will be your daughter’s nominated community psychiatric nurse, with whom she will probably have had a long term association.

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She is no longer with anyone Recovery discharged her Months ago

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Here is some guidance that might help.

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Not a good start to the New Year, hope you get some positive news soon....

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Buffafly

I also feel for you, my daughter's partner has very bad mental health problems and we just have to watch the pain - we try to be supportive but advice isn't often welcome and of course we don't know the full details. My daughter is much older than yours but your love is still the same as when they were small, except that then you had the power to help and now you have to let go. I pray your daughter is safe 💜

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Vonnieruth in reply toBuffafly

Thank you so much

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wilsond

Oh dear,nothing as bad as worrying about your child. I do understand how you feel.

Do you have contact numbers of any friends or mental health support team that may be able to get through so you can ask her to just text to say all.is well?

If she's not taking meds she won't be thinking clearly,but at least she is with someone to look out for her.

I do hope things settle back down for you all.

Best wishes for 2019 xxxx

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Vonnieruth in reply towilsond

I have spoken to her but I don't know where she is where she is staying or why she went so quick All she took was a bag with clothes in She loves those cats and wouldn't give them up easily Plus there's her flat I cannot keep going up and it's not fair on the cats

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Hilly22

Poor you Vonnie. Doesn't matter how old our children are they can still give us sleepless nights. I hope you get some news soon so you can get on with your busy life ... if I lived nearby I'd feed the cats for you 💐 xx

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Vonnieruth in reply toHilly22

Thank you Hilly Once new year here in going to have to re home them It's costing me a fortune Had to go and buy food and litter today plus cleaning stuff for flat

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Petrified

Oh dear I'm so sorry. What a worry for you. Doesn't matter what age she is, she's still your 'baby'. You're bound to feel helpless not knowing what's going on, especially when she needs her medication. Unfortunately there's nothing you can do till she gets in touch. I hope that you hear from her soon and things work out.

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Vonnieruth in reply toPetrified

Hope so Thank you for your thoughts

Vonnie , I'm so sorry you are having this awful worry. Mental health problems are to me the very worst to deal with.

I do hope she makes contact with you soon to resolve the issue with her cats if nothing else.

We are very lucky if we are able to have no worries at all over our offspring whatever their age " You're only as happy as your least happy child ".

Best wishes

Sandra

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Vonnieruth

Thank you Sandra She has been InTouch to let me know she is ok She said she let me know when she has sorted something for the cats Still no idea where she is but she is with her partner at least

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Morzine

Oh dear I do understand my daughters ex had schizophrenia, he would go off his tablets because he felt well but it’s a double edged sword as then you aren’t well......we had worries when he went awol. Can you contact his ex health worker?, what a worry, our kids will always be our kids whatever age,

Sue

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Vonnieruth

They sure are Sue The cats need rehoming as I cannot keep going three times a day It's not possible unless I'm in work as she lives near the home I work in She has text me a few times and silly as it seems she has partner Her tv and kettle so I know she is at least inside if I don't know where

Hi Vonnie sorry to here this. Could you ring her partner she's gone off with to see how she is?

And could the cats stay at yours till she's back to save you travelling to v them each day?

Big hugs Sue

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Cats are having to be rehomed IHave a dog who dislikes cats unfortunately.She has text me yesterday after I messaged her partner Still no idea where they are but they must be inside as the TV and kettle went with them Life has to go on I guess so I'm trying to do just that

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Ok that's something anyway. Try not to worry i know that's s easier said than done. I'm trying to adopt a "what will be, will be" attitude because I've been such a worrier, but actually it doesn't change the outcome of things, it just puts my heart under more stress. I hope you can find a way to cope with this.

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Just blanking things out really turn my brain off Got work tomorrow so that will help Hope you have a great New Year x

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djbgatekeeper

I hope things work out for you and your family Vonnie. Sorry to hear about that.

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Vonnieruth in reply todjbgatekeeper

Thank you

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12cupcakes

So sorry to hear. It must be heartbreaking for you. Hope she will let you know where she is or return home soon.

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Vonnieruth

Have spoken but don't know where Got to find homes for three cats now

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