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My husband, who had a heart attack some years ago and stents inserted, is having mild chest pains and has a slightly elevated temperature.

He has felt slightly unwell for the past couple of days, and not his usual energetic self.

He refuses to let me take him to A&E but conceded to having a Kardia reading which showed Normal, and 74 bpm.

He seldom is unwell, but tends to overreact to even mild discomfort, (most wives will recognise this),

Although he’s sleeping at the minute, he has been up and dressed a couple of times, and performed a few necessary tasks.

He has COPD but no long term effects from his heart attack.

Any suggestions? Could possibly be the heat?

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I would go along with what HappyJo has said. Don't take chances. It might just be the hot weather but that can cause problems in itself .

Sandra

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Finvola

It’s so worrying to feel you need to help but he won’t agree - same in our house.

It might be an idea to ring Dalriada out of hours care for advice, which might be to go to A&E. It could be the heat but then again, it’s better to be sure.

Best wishes to both of you. xx

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JaneFinn

I’m so sorry for this worry - hopefully it’s nothing significant, but like the others, I’d say it’s definitely wise to get medical advice. Maybe he’d be happy with a call to 111 first, rather than straight to a&e?

Really hope it’s nothing, and you can both be reassured. Thinking of you, P0rtnahapp1e ... Do let us know how he gets on. J x

Better safe than sorry, of course the heat doesn't help but with his history, it makes sense to get checked out.....Us men always know best of course, but if he's being really stubborn, do you have a daughter, or even better a granddaughter who can help to make him see sense.....

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jeanjeannie50

As others have suggested, it's best to get him checked out at A&E. I'm surprised after having one heart attack that he's not keen to get how he's feeling assessed.

People go to A&E for all sorts of minor things. Heart discomfort and feeling unwell is a major need to go.

Please let us know the outcome.

Jean

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Jollies

Ring Dalriada, they may say go to A and E or they may even send an ambulance. X

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meadfoot

Ring 111 if in uk. Please dont let him risk not being checked out, better safe than sorry. I would insist he went to a and e but I know it's not easy when someone is resisting, however it's not something to leave to chance.

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P0rtnahapp1e

Thanks so much everyone for your helpful comments.

Friends called and tried to persuade him to go to A&E to no avail, even though my daughter, who works there, said they weren’t busy and he would be seen quickly.

He insists that he will let me take him in the morning if he still feels bad. He went to church earlier and also enjoyed our visitor’s company so I’m hoping it’s something simple although Google isn’t my friend in that regard!

Thanks so much again.

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jeanjeannie50 in reply to P0rtnahapp1e

The thing with heart problems that make you feel ill and your husbands past history of a heart attack, is that waiting until the next time may be too late! If he goes to A&E today they will be able to do a blood test to see what was happening yesterday, but leave it longer and I'm not sure they can.

I had a dear friend call me early one morning to say that her husband was having extreme chest pain. You must call an ambulance right now I told her and she said she would, but then decided they'd wait and see their GP. Well, she's a widow now.

Some bodily aches and pains we can ignore, but chest pain or discomfort in that area and feeling unwell just has to be checked out. Your husband could be in need of another stent.

Wishing you and your husband well.

Jean

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P0rtnahapp1e

It’s making me anxious now so I’m giving up. My constant nagging is irritating him which isn’t good for him. So much for promises about going to hospital this morning.

I have my faults, but throughout my history of AF, HF and cardiomyopathy I’ve taken myself to A&E to be checked out so that I don’t worry the family and have a diagnosis before telling them, whereas he’s doing the exact opposite.

Has there been a divorce on this forum before? 🤣

I’m looking after two toddler grandchildren today so I need my strength for that and hopefully when I get back he’ll be better.

He says I’m after his money. 😂 Not really a logical thought as, if that was the case I wouldn’t be trying to keep him alive.

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Buffafly

Bit late now but once when I phoned 111 for advice they said I should go to A&E but I said I wouldn't. Soon after an ambulance turned up, checked me out, scooped me up and off I went. Maybe worth a try?

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Obviously I mean the ambulance crew, robot ambulances not having been invented yet 😊

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