This is an IF, WHEN and NOW thought process.
I know many of you have already been through this stage because of your cancer but a few people ( new members and a few regulars) haven’t embraced these ideas.
How many of you have probably said to yourself IF this treatment works we’re going to go on a trip or something else. Of course only a few of us ever get to that point.
Knowing how cancer can evolve when we got his diagnosis we planned a trip to Japan he listed everything he wanted to do. I told him no more IF’s it was WHEN we get there before he got to the point he could not be able to get around easily. Then Covid started and all our plan went awry.
During Covid he started going downhill so I started trying to find things he could do NOW. Since we couldn’t get him to Japan, I found the closest Japanese Garden and took him to it. Then I learned that even as an avid Buffalo Sabres fan he had never rode on a Zamboni. I found an ice hockey rink near us and arranged for him to ride on the Zamboni. Even now in his declining health he remembers the ride. So if you can DO IT NOW don’t wait until it’s too late.
Now I already had this philosophical attitude about doing things NOW because I made the mistake of not seeing Mt McKinley (yes, before it was renamed to Denali) and regretted it ever since. Hubby used to say I was kidnapping him when he was working on his MBA because I would get him and haul him off somewhere like Yosemite or to the beach or a park. I told him that we might not be “here” again.
So IF, WHEN and NOW are in your thoughts try doing NOW and lick the spoon and nourish your soul!
(Þvörusleikir- Spoon-Licker-Steals and licks wooden spoons. Is extremely thin due to malnutrition. an Icelandic Christmas character)
Emergency spinal surgery 3 days from starting the car t trial at Dana Farber. 
Newly diagnosed and BRCA2 mutation
My father diagnosed with Stage IV prostate cancer mets to lymph nodes supraclavicular
My dads journey 
