If anyone can give me ideas / boosts/ pointers for advice etc this will be greatly appreciated!!
I'm feeling a bit down and a bit lost really at the moment. Have been through IVF - 2 1/2 years of that, three years and had loads of support through the unit, Fertility network, GP practice. Any questions, queires , there was always someone to ask and point me in the right direction.
Finally got the very much longed for positive result and am now 23 weeks - the actual pregnancy has been very easy - no symptons as such apart from getting emotional as such and am starting to show my bump.
The only thing is, I feel totally out on a limb. In the first trimester whilst happy, I also found it surprisingly hard to adjust to suddenly being pregnant after so long - I have no sisters and my mum died years ago so-one close that I can talk "girly preganacy stuff" with.. My aunty, whilst close, and who is normally my go-to person doesn't have any point of reference really for our situation so is hard to open up without being told off (nicely) for worrying/getting anxious and she's lives about hour's drive away. My close friends don't know about our ivf history and unfortunately the gossips at work were in full force and made the difficult situations of failed ivf/ivf loss worse causing un-needed anxiety.
This is my first pregnancy and feel there is just so much I don;t know about or where to look. A lot of the time it feels like "what do I do now?" and it has taken time to adjust. I spoke with someone from NCT on the phone about local NCT antenatal classes but it is fully booked for our due date so I've obviously left that too late. (am on the waiting list but know it's unlikely we'll get on. ) Is it too late to go to their other pregnancy groups?
Midwife suggested Hypnobirthing at an earlier appt but its quite expensive - are online courses any good?
Being 23 weeks now have I left it too late to join things now/take full advantage? What other things have people found helpful? Hubby is very laid back about getting organised and am just starting to get my head around the practical stuff - we also have a new kitchen getting fitted in a month and so nursery getting done straight after that (am trying to start getting prepared for all of that!)
Our local fertility network lady has mentioned about about setting up an ACE babies group - am seeing her at the weekend at a wee event she's organised so will ask further about that.
Am just feeling overwhelmed just now and worry I've left things late ......physically I can't complain tho about the pregnancy.
Sorry for the long post but any suggestions about helpful things / where to look / any advice at all about practical stuff would be greatly appreciated!!!
Snowy x