I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Lilmossy]

When I first found out I was pregnant I was planning to move in with my boyfriend up Leicester but problem being money we agreed to save up when we told my mum I was expecting to be kicked out but she’s offered us both the bigger room and the spare room as a baby nursery for what I pay now being my basic rent. But now my boyfriend is moaning about the whole situation and I don’t know what to do I’d like to stay at home but being 70 miles away from my boyfriend is gonna be a hard 8+ months as he can’t move down to live with us yet because of his job and thinking of it now I don’t want to leave my job because it’s gonna be harder trying to find another job being pregnant. I’m just trying to keep the peace with everyone to try not to stress but it doesn’t seem to be working as now my boyfriend wants me to sit down with my mum and talk about cutting back on rent ☹️ I’m sick of the pressure it’s bringing me down but when I tell him that he just says that his feeling depressed too because of being so far away from me if anything happens I mean I Pay £250 to my mum a month I can’t turn that down

[roxannacar]

I think a few things to consider ... if you change job at this point you're unlikely to get all the benefits from work.

However having two households (your bf & your rent) is obviously more expensive. Would he be happy to continue paying his own rent and you live with him?

How did you manage to see each other 70miles apart before getting pregnant?

Maybe he can start looking for a job closer to you, or.you could move there once you're in maternity?

I think you just need to sit down with your bf and iron out the details, as you cant expect dad to be so far away from baby either.

[Lilmossy in reply to roxannacar]

I know and I understand that I wouldn’t like it either we’ve discussed it and he lives with his parents like me we’ve tried but at the moment everything is new and stressful it’s gonna be hard for both of us having to leave family behind either way x