Sorry, this is a total moan...

[SaraPeanut]

Really sorry but this is a total moan alert. At 34+4 I'm totally fed up my hands and feet are swollen, I'm totally shattered yet can't sleep & my OH is totally useless, unsympathetic and selfish. He went out last night drinking (even though he said he would stay in and cook dinner for me getting home from work) and came home stinking of booze and stumbling around. Yesterday morning I'd been really upset (hormones and tiredness) and just needed him there as support but instead came home to an empty house.

I went to bed and have managed about 3 hours sleep and he's now come to bed, snoring and breathing alcohol all over me. No more sleep for me & I'm up for work at 6.

Sorry for the rant. Hope everyone else's partners are a little more understanding x

[Hidden]

Men! They Are selfish well alot of them I would of give him a few digs in the night and kept waking him up so he had a crap night too

[mamacool]

Yes and no, men are strange creatures at the best of times. Bottom line is they don't really understand what pregnancy is like, they simply don't have the capacity, so at times they are completely devoid of empathy That said other times they can wonderful. Try to take this with a pinch of salt, you can't help being hormonal (or 'moanal' as my OH frequently describes me - which says it all really!). But you can choose not to let this get you down today, its not worth the stress, and rest during the day if you can. I hope you feel a bit better soon

[suzie_27]

I hear ya there! Sick to death of being pregnant now, in at 33+4 still throwing up several times a day, suffering from anemia and can never get a decent sleep, as for my OH he doesn't even know where the kitchen is, despite me working 5 days a week ive made tea like everyday for the past year haha! Hope you feel better soon xx

[Hidden]

I am really sorry you had to go through this.

Was your OH like that before pregnancy?

If not, he may feel lost and left out. Talk to him, watch videos about pregnancy with him and make sure there is something about partner's role in pregnancy. Maybe your midwife can give you more support and information about dad's role. Also, book pre natal sessions, they are great for dads because they can talk to other dads about pregnancy.

You don't have to go alone in this.

He has responsibility too!

If he doesn't change.... well book an hotel, a spa and other treats for you for at least a weekend

[SaraPeanut]

He's really excited about having a baby and being a dad. I know he's scared because he grew up without his dad around and he didn't have a role model so I think he's a bit unsure of his role. I think he'll be fine once the baby's here and he'll be a brilliant dad, I think he just forgets that I need his support too.

My first antenatal appointment's tomorrow and he can't come as he's working but he can come next week and we've got a tour of the hospital then as well so hopefully that'll help.

Thanks for the support guys, just what I needed x

[Ljameson]

To be honest, I wouldn't put up with midweek drinking at all, I'd be more understanding of a drink at the weekend. He shud be more considerate to u wen ur having to get up for work. I hope it improves soon!