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What makes a good friend and why? Multiple choice.

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Also someone, who makes me think!!!Visa vee, interested in things outside of my own, interests. I love being educated.

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Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Flipin9

This is fantastic! Thank you for sharing that with us! :-)

Flipin9
Flipin9 in reply to Activity2004

I know someone who is interested in the planets. So I have learned them in the right order in the sun's orbit mercury , venus, earth, mars, jupiter , saturn , uranus.Also it got me thinking about the molten core of the planet and how magnetic north had shifted. So my theory about earth is that the axial tilt has shifted as well. Giving us more hotter and colder conditions. If you can imagine the earth is now showing more of it's surface face than ever before. So the tides will be greater as the magnetic pull of the moon sees more of earth. All this came about in my thinking after illuminating all other possibilities. Any astrophysisist' s out there. Much good will to you all. Amber

lovemydoggy
lovemydoggy in reply to Flipin9

Good one.

Good one.

A good friend are hard to come by but when you find one you will know because of all these qualities and more and a shoulder to cry on . Clive X πŸ€—

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Littleboy

That's exactly right, Clive. Most of my friends have these qualities in them and a lot of them are on here-- and HU. :-)

Being there when needed πŸ€—

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Tigger1306

That's a wonderful quality in a friend. :-)

All the above but Most Importantly you can be YOU and I can be ME ,together we can Bend ,Mend ,and no matter what if we need to , make AMENDS complimenting and accepting our differences as The Blend to make a real and true FRIEND !

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to faithhope421

That's how I see a true friend, as well. Someone who is always there and understands no matter what the situation happens to be. :-)

YES ....FRIEND !

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to faithhope421

That's right! :-)

... someone who may not understand, but is always there for you...

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Hobbledehoy

This is true! πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Loyalty is of prime importance in any form of friendship.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to HissingSid

That's right and always tells what is on his/her mind. :-)

Yes honesty in a friendship for me is of next line in importance.

crazyfitness
crazyfitnessAmbassador

Hi Leah

Excellent poll and I've chosen humourous, optimistic, forgiving, loyal, generous/willing to help. These are all traits I feel are most important. πŸ‘πŸŒˆπŸ˜Š

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to crazyfitness

I picked everything except Other! :-) Thank you for saying that about the poll, Alicia. :-)

crazyfitness
crazyfitnessAmbassador in reply to Activity2004

Friends are so very important.

You're welcome, it's really good.πŸ‘πŸ™πŸŒˆ

Sops
Sops in reply to crazyfitness

Me too

crazyfitness
crazyfitnessAmbassador in reply to Sops

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All of the above plus their there when you need them, I can call and as soon as she can she / he'll be there whether to talk or hold you while you cry just being there for you!

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to kycmary

Absolutely! Those are true and real friends that you know you can count on all the time. :-)

Someone who is always there and is prepared to listen and also give an honest opinion too

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Bingo88

Honesty is important! :-)

Yes honestly in a friendship is for me of next line in importance.

I am very inquisitive and love to learn and read about things that are new even if I can't participate if it's an activity.I have a picture with the words "remain curious" which sums me up and my friends think it's funny but that's me lol.

The biggest thing I like in a friend is honesty as I would rather be hurt with the truth then lies and trust without either there's no friendship.

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Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Dizzy64

This is exactly one thing that I look for in my friend(s). Honesty is very important to me.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

I have many good friends but my true β€˜bestie’ is always there for me as I am for her. We have been friends now for over 58 years, seen each other through marriages and divorce. Her son was less than an hour old when she gave him to me as my wonderful Godson. I never had my own children but feel blessed to share my friend’s children and grandchildren. That is true friendship.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to kitchengardener2

One of my friends I’ve known since 9th grade is still my friend and she moved before we started 10th grade. To this day, we still keep in touch with each other. She has a son, now.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

SORRELHIPPO
SORRELHIPPOReading Rabbits

A good friend is someone I can ring at four in the morning, and, after they have loosed off some very rude words, will get out of bed to help me. I recall that when my husband died at about 1am, I waited until 6 am to let my friend in Scotland know (she was also a friend of his), she got on the next plane down to London. During that time I had dealt with the Death certificate, but she was there to help with all the rest, that is a friend.

Loving

Honest

compassionate/kind hearted

loyal

trustworthy

easy going

down to earth/relatable

Fun/humorous

The defining criteria for me is someone that is actively willing to be part of your life through the ups and downs. Someone that will celebrate your triumphs and successes. Also, compassionate enough to provide comfort, advice, help, a shoulder to cry on and is there through the difficult periods of life.

I'm blessed to have some childhood friends

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to LadyHypo

This is a fantastic list for friends and their qualities. Thank you for sharing this with us.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

non judgemental

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Noosat

Yes, this is a fantastic quality in a friend.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Another great poll... YOU are being a good friend to us.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Hobbledehoy

Thank you! You all are wonderful, too! You all make my day a lot better.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

And honesty. So important to me.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Becksagogo

Yes, honesty is a very important thing to me, too. πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

I have a best friend who has cried with me laughed with me went through dad times with me and we have been thick n thin over the years still best friends Thank God I have her as we have had great times together long may it continue πŸ’‘

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Zephre

That’s fantastic to hear about your friend and yourself. My friend from high school is that way with me, too. She knows when I need to talkβ€” even before I get a message to her on my phone.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

A true and valued friend is all of the above, will be there for you anytime of day or night, through thick and thin. Also is honest and trustworthy, I am lucky enough to have many close friends, we have been there for each other through thick and thin. A good friend is nonjudgmental, he or she will laugh/ cry with you, a shoulder to cry/lean on. I have lots of friends on here too. I didn't think that this would happen when I joined but it certainly did happen. I feel honoured to have such true and valued friends, we need friends as well as family. Family can also be your friend and friends who also become part of your family.Lots of love and hugs Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸ’œπŸ€—

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Oldham65

That’s right, Lynne! Some family members can also be friends. My Cousin is one of my friends. πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

. . . brings medicine . . . & even (C-19 free !) . . . cuddles, . . . . !

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Sid_Arthur

That’s right! Friends are going to be there even if you don’t feel well and try to make you feel better.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

also sincerity, patience, intelligence, compatibility, the courage to tell me I'm wrong and why!

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Adlon57

This is very important in a friend. I also appreciate a friend that who will explain anything that I may not understand or not know.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Hidden
HiddenReading Rabbits

I think all the above

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Hidden

Thank you, Hidden ! Those are all the same things I feel that makes a good/great friend, too.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Throughout my health problems, I can count on one hand, four people who have been loyal, forgiving, helpful and humorous. I rather have only four great friends with these qualities than a dozen who love only in word but not in truth and in deed. As the Bible says.

Loyality is the most important because you need someone who you can always trust to have your back.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to cljones

Yes,someone who is trustworthy and has your back is very important in a true friend.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Midori
MidoriVisually impaired

I would add non-judgemental to that list.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Midori

Exactly! Non-judgemental is another great quality for a friend.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Honesty

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to daniellebrooks13

Absolutely! Honesty is very important.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Someone who accepts you for who you are.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Greenthorn

Acceptance for who you are to a friend is very important. That’s a true friend if they can do that.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

A friend in need is a friend in deed..we all need to feel and to be needed.🀩

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Patricia88

That’s exactly right! I always try to help my friends anytime they need it!πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Jerry
JerryAdministrator

Hey what a great poll Leah and I’m very pleased to see Loyalty generous/benevolent and forgiving as the top 3 as these are important. It’s also nice to make our friends happy and feel appreciated.

I appreciate your friendship and that’s a fact. 😊

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Jerry

Hi Jerry,

Thank you for saying that about the poll. :-)

That's exactly right and how I feel about what is important in a true blue and loyal friend. I picked: Brave, Believable, Humorous, Optimistic, Forgiving, Loyal, Generous/Willing to help. These are how I see you, too. πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆπŸ‘¬

Jerry
JerryAdministrator in reply to Activity2004

Thank you 😊

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Jerry

You’re welcome, Jerry! Enjoy your evening.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

BrentW
BrentWArtist

Somebody whom I can trust when I confide in them.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to BrentW

That's a very good quality to find in a friend. :-)

A great friend is hard to come by. When you find one treasure the friendship and remember, you're there for each other!

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to lgd333

That's right! When you find a friend, then treasure the friendship and be there for each other. :-)

A good friend must be a good listener and always there when needed, but it goes both ways and we should be willing to do the same for our good friends.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to glo42

Yes, a good friend always is there and will be willing to listen to all what you want to tell them-- even if it's something hard to say. Being honest is also very important. :-)

Callendersgal
CallendersgalAdministrator

I think all of the above are good qualities in a friend but I selected the ones which are the most important to me. Top of the list always turns out to be loyalty for me. It's the dividing line between any old friend and the true, 'got your back' friend who sticks with you when the chips are down, defends you to the limit and forgives you when you did something wrong. This is a very rare sort of friend and when you find one, you are lucky indeed and should nurture the friendship and offer the same to your friend.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Callendersgal

That’s exactly right, Sue! Loyalty and having their back in situations good or bad is on my list always. Honesty is also very important to me with friends.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Hermes123. My American Friend John has been the best Buddy for over fifty nearing 60. years, he came to us in what we now call a gap year touring Europe and the Middle East. At that Time my wife work for a part owned American company, John's Father one day ask do you know any one local who could put my son up for two or three weeks, my wife replied, if you get stuck we will put him up, Her boss "Oh" thank you very much took it as signed & sealed deal. That was that I think the reason for hitting it off. ! was the same sense of Humour, we still Face Time once a week. That is Friendship for you. Hermes.

Someone who has lots of friends but still has time for me. Bx

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Batteria

That’s right! A friend who is always going to make time for you is a great quality!πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

I am unable to trust anyone, therefore I don't have any close friends. It leaves me very sad and lonely. I am trying to work on this. It is part of the way Complex PTSD affects me.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Marnie22

You’re a good friend, Marnie! We/I enjoy talking to you and seeing what you’re posting on here.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Thank you.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Marnie22

You're welcome. Anytime you want to talk about anything, let us know and we'll be here to listen. :-)

I appreciate that.

Like this one

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Sops

Thank you, Sops. That’s very kind of you to say about the poll.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

My best friend and I have sat together in a choir for about 20 years. We were practising to perform a very emotional piece music, and there was a line which made both of us cry in rehearsal, for both of us, upsetting and personal reasons. Clearly this would not do in a concert, so we marked our scores to say pinch each other when we reach the next line. We did this, and it hurt and we were composed. serene and well on note.

I cannot think of anyone else in the world I could have had this relationship with and untimate trust.

She collects me for a distanced walk each week, does all my shopping and is always positive and humorous.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Sops

This is fantastic to hear about you and your friend. 20+ years knowing someone who is a true friend is very special! I have a few friends that I have known since I was really young. To this day, we have stayed friends. One was 7 years old and I was 8 years old when we met.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Sops
Sops in reply to Activity2004

I am still in touch with my friend though school, we met in infants, passed for the grammar, she went off modelling, I went to uni, next year she joined the same college as me.. We still correspond and we are now in our 70’s!

Sops
Sops in reply to Activity2004

That is brilliant. I lost touch with most of mine when i moved abroad.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Sops

There's one friend I have to this day and she got married a few years ago. We were friends since I was 6 years old. We met at a day camp and been friends ever since. She and I use to have sleepovers when we were younger. :-)

Sops
Sops in reply to Activity2004

Wonderful memories, to stay friends for so long is a special relationship.

Understanding, a good listener, supportive, kind

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to purple64

Yes, understanding, a good listener, supportive and kind is very important in a friend. πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Just being there

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to 2003UK

That’s a good quality!πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

I would love to have a good friend with these traits. But from my personal experience good friends are hard to come by. Great Survey.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Lotus-Blossom

Thank you for saying that about the poll.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Yes, there’s a lot of terrific traits in what a friend can be. I picked all of them along with Other.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

I think being understanding and non-judgmental are qualities I need in a true friend

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to shoppaholicsue

Nonjudgmental is important for a good friend.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

I think just being there for you means a lot

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Kainan_li

That’s exactly right! A good friend is there no matter what happens.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Always there through good and bad times. Giving of their time

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Madmolly

That's right. A good friend is always there during good or bad times. They're the ones who you never have to say anything. They just know that you want them to listen to you when you want to talk about anything that's on your mind. :-)

Great Question!!!*Honest* (maybe β€œBelievable” ... ?)*Supportive* of other person’s emotional needs

*Accepting* (even faults!)

*Kind*

*Fun* (same as β€œHumorous”)?

*Positive* Attitude

*Available*

*True Friends don’t need constant attention to maintain their relationship. You may not talk or visit for β€œages” but can pick back up, right where you left off!

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to BaffledKaffy

This is a fantastic list of what a friend can be. Thank you for sharing it. Yes, any friendship that is real will be able to be kept for years to come and even when the friends don't see/talk to each other for sometime. :-)

Dear activity 2004 thanks for your replys. Much appreciated in these lean times.

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to Flipin9

You’re welcome! We will have more polls and BRAINWORKS postings in the next few days. Keep your eye out for them very soon.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

How’s it going for you this evening?πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ

Someone who listens and genuinely cares

Activity2004
Activity2004Administrator in reply to HenningLob

These are exactly how I see what a good friend is, as well.πŸ˜€πŸ‘πŸŒˆ