What makes a good friend and why? M... - Positive Wellbein...
Positive Wellbeing During Self-Isolation
What makes a good friend and why? Multiple choice.
Please select all that apply:
Also someone, who makes me think!!!Visa vee, interested in things outside of my own, interests. I love being educated.
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This is fantastic! Thank you for sharing that with us! 
I know someone who is interested in the planets. So I have learned them in the right order in the sun's orbit mercury , venus, earth, mars, jupiter , saturn , uranus.Also it got me thinking about the molten core of the planet and how magnetic north had shifted. So my theory about earth is that the axial tilt has shifted as well. Giving us more hotter and colder conditions. If you can imagine the earth is now showing more of it's surface face than ever before. So the tides will be greater as the magnetic pull of the moon sees more of earth. All this came about in my thinking after illuminating all other possibilities. Any astrophysisist' s out there. Much good will to you all. Amber
Good one.
A good friend are hard to come by but when you find one you will know because of all these qualities and more and a shoulder to cry on . Clive X 🤗
That's exactly right, Clive. Most of my friends have these qualities in them and a lot of them are on here-- and HU.
Being there when needed 🤗
That's a wonderful quality in a friend.
All the above but Most Importantly you can be YOU and I can be ME ,together we can Bend ,Mend ,and no matter what if we need to , make AMENDS complimenting and accepting our differences as The Blend to make a real and true FRIEND !
That's how I see a true friend, as well. Someone who is always there and understands no matter what the situation happens to be.
YES ....FRIEND !
That's right!
... someone who may not understand, but is always there for you...
This is true! 😀👍👍🌈
Loyalty is of prime importance in any form of friendship.
That's right and always tells what is on his/her mind.
Yes honesty in a friendship for me is of next line in importance.
Hi Leah
Excellent poll and I've chosen humourous, optimistic, forgiving, loyal, generous/willing to help. These are all traits I feel are most important. 👍🌈😊
I picked everything except Other! Thank you for saying that about the poll, Alicia.
All of the above plus their there when you need them, I can call and as soon as she can she / he'll be there whether to talk or hold you while you cry just being there for you!
Absolutely! Those are true and real friends that you know you can count on all the time.
Someone who is always there and is prepared to listen and also give an honest opinion too
Honesty is important!
Yes honestly in a friendship is for me of next line in importance.
I am very inquisitive and love to learn and read about things that are new even if I can't participate if it's an activity.I have a picture with the words "remain curious" which sums me up and my friends think it's funny but that's me lol.
The biggest thing I like in a friend is honesty as I would rather be hurt with the truth then lies and trust without either there's no friendship.
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This is exactly one thing that I look for in my friend(s). Honesty is very important to me.😀👍🌈
I have many good friends but my true ‘bestie’ is always there for me as I am for her. We have been friends now for over 58 years, seen each other through marriages and divorce. Her son was less than an hour old when she gave him to me as my wonderful Godson. I never had my own children but feel blessed to share my friend’s children and grandchildren. That is true friendship.
One of my friends I’ve known since 9th grade is still my friend and she moved before we started 10th grade. To this day, we still keep in touch with each other. She has a son, now.😀👍🌈
A good friend is someone I can ring at four in the morning, and, after they have loosed off some very rude words, will get out of bed to help me. I recall that when my husband died at about 1am, I waited until 6 am to let my friend in Scotland know (she was also a friend of his), she got on the next plane down to London. During that time I had dealt with the Death certificate, but she was there to help with all the rest, that is a friend.
Loving
Honest
compassionate/kind hearted
loyal
trustworthy
easy going
down to earth/relatable
Fun/humorous
The defining criteria for me is someone that is actively willing to be part of your life through the ups and downs. Someone that will celebrate your triumphs and successes. Also, compassionate enough to provide comfort, advice, help, a shoulder to cry on and is there through the difficult periods of life.
I'm blessed to have some childhood friends
This is a fantastic list for friends and their qualities. Thank you for sharing this with us.😀👍🌈
non judgemental
Yes, this is a fantastic quality in a friend.😀👍🌈
Another great poll... YOU are being a good friend to us.
Thank you! You all are wonderful, too! You all make my day a lot better.😀👍🌈
And honesty. So important to me.
Yes, honesty is a very important thing to me, too. 😀👍🌈
I have a best friend who has cried with me laughed with me went through dad times with me and we have been thick n thin over the years still best friends Thank God I have her as we have had great times together long may it continue 💑
That’s fantastic to hear about your friend and yourself. My friend from high school is that way with me, too. She knows when I need to talk— even before I get a message to her on my phone.😀👍🌈
A true and valued friend is all of the above, will be there for you anytime of day or night, through thick and thin. Also is honest and trustworthy, I am lucky enough to have many close friends, we have been there for each other through thick and thin. A good friend is nonjudgmental, he or she will laugh/ cry with you, a shoulder to cry/lean on. I have lots of friends on here too. I didn't think that this would happen when I joined but it certainly did happen. I feel honoured to have such true and valued friends, we need friends as well as family. Family can also be your friend and friends who also become part of your family.Lots of love and hugs Lynne xxxx ❤️🤗💜🤗
That’s right, Lynne! Some family members can also be friends. My Cousin is one of my friends. 😀👍🌈
. . . brings medicine . . . & even (C-19 free !) . . . cuddles, . . . . !
That’s right! Friends are going to be there even if you don’t feel well and try to make you feel better.😀👍🌈
also sincerity, patience, intelligence, compatibility, the courage to tell me I'm wrong and why!
This is very important in a friend. I also appreciate a friend that who will explain anything that I may not understand or not know.😀👍🌈
I think all the above
Thank you, Hidden ! Those are all the same things I feel that makes a good/great friend, too.😀👍🌈
Throughout my health problems, I can count on one hand, four people who have been loyal, forgiving, helpful and humorous. I rather have only four great friends with these qualities than a dozen who love only in word but not in truth and in deed. As the Bible says.
Loyality is the most important because you need someone who you can always trust to have your back.
Yes,someone who is trustworthy and has your back is very important in a true friend.😀👍🌈
I would add non-judgemental to that list.
Exactly! Non-judgemental is another great quality for a friend.😀👍🌈
Honesty
Absolutely! Honesty is very important.😀👍🌈
Someone who accepts you for who you are.
Acceptance for who you are to a friend is very important. That’s a true friend if they can do that.😀👍🌈
A friend in need is a friend in deed..we all need to feel and to be needed.🤩
That’s exactly right! I always try to help my friends anytime they need it!😀👍🌈
Somebody whom I can trust when I confide in them.
That's a very good quality to find in a friend.
A great friend is hard to come by. When you find one treasure the friendship and remember, you're there for each other!
That's right! When you find a friend, then treasure the friendship and be there for each other.
A good friend must be a good listener and always there when needed, but it goes both ways and we should be willing to do the same for our good friends.
Yes, a good friend always is there and will be willing to listen to all what you want to tell them-- even if it's something hard to say. Being honest is also very important.
I think all of the above are good qualities in a friend but I selected the ones which are the most important to me. Top of the list always turns out to be loyalty for me. It's the dividing line between any old friend and the true, 'got your back' friend who sticks with you when the chips are down, defends you to the limit and forgives you when you did something wrong. This is a very rare sort of friend and when you find one, you are lucky indeed and should nurture the friendship and offer the same to your friend.
That’s exactly right, Sue! Loyalty and having their back in situations good or bad is on my list always. Honesty is also very important to me with friends.😀👍🌈
Hermes123. My American Friend John has been the best Buddy for over fifty nearing 60. years, he came to us in what we now call a gap year touring Europe and the Middle East. At that Time my wife work for a part owned American company, John's Father one day ask do you know any one local who could put my son up for two or three weeks, my wife replied, if you get stuck we will put him up, Her boss "Oh" thank you very much took it as signed & sealed deal. That was that I think the reason for hitting it off. ! was the same sense of Humour, we still Face Time once a week. That is Friendship for you. Hermes.
Someone who has lots of friends but still has time for me. Bx
That’s right! A friend who is always going to make time for you is a great quality!😀👍🌈
I am unable to trust anyone, therefore I don't have any close friends. It leaves me very sad and lonely. I am trying to work on this. It is part of the way Complex PTSD affects me.
You’re a good friend, Marnie! We/I enjoy talking to you and seeing what you’re posting on here.😀👍🌈
Thank you.
You're welcome. Anytime you want to talk about anything, let us know and we'll be here to listen.
I appreciate that.
Like this one
Thank you, Sops . That’s very kind of you to say about the poll.😀👍🌈
My best friend and I have sat together in a choir for about 20 years. We were practising to perform a very emotional piece music, and there was a line which made both of us cry in rehearsal, for both of us, upsetting and personal reasons. Clearly this would not do in a concert, so we marked our scores to say pinch each other when we reach the next line. We did this, and it hurt and we were composed. serene and well on note.
I cannot think of anyone else in the world I could have had this relationship with and untimate trust.
She collects me for a distanced walk each week, does all my shopping and is always positive and humorous.
This is fantastic to hear about you and your friend. 20+ years knowing someone who is a true friend is very special! I have a few friends that I have known since I was really young. To this day, we have stayed friends. One was 7 years old and I was 8 years old when we met.😀👍🌈
I am still in touch with my friend though school, we met in infants, passed for the grammar, she went off modelling, I went to uni, next year she joined the same college as me.. We still correspond and we are now in our 70’s!
That is brilliant. I lost touch with most of mine when i moved abroad.
There's one friend I have to this day and she got married a few years ago. We were friends since I was 6 years old. We met at a day camp and been friends ever since. She and I use to have sleepovers when we were younger.
Wonderful memories, to stay friends for so long is a special relationship.
Understanding, a good listener, supportive, kind
Yes, understanding, a good listener, supportive and kind is very important in a friend. 😀👍🌈
I would love to have a good friend with these traits. But from my personal experience good friends are hard to come by. Great Survey.
Thank you for saying that about the poll.😀👍🌈
Yes, there’s a lot of terrific traits in what a friend can be. I picked all of them along with Other.😀👍🌈
I think being understanding and non-judgmental are qualities I need in a true friend
Nonjudgmental is important for a good friend.😀👍🌈
I think just being there for you means a lot
That’s exactly right! A good friend is there no matter what happens.😀👍🌈
Always there through good and bad times. Giving of their time
That's right. A good friend is always there during good or bad times. They're the ones who you never have to say anything. They just know that you want them to listen to you when you want to talk about anything that's on your mind.
Hi Hidden ,
Thank you for saying that about the poll.
That's exactly right and how I feel about what is important in a true blue and loyal friend. I picked: Brave, Believable, Humorous, Optimistic, Forgiving, Loyal, Generous/Willing to help. These are how I see you, too. 😀👍🌈👬
You’re welcome, Hidden ! Enjoy your evening.😀👍🌈
Great Question!!!*Honest* (maybe “Believable” ... ?)*Supportive* of other person’s emotional needs
*Accepting* (even faults!)
*Kind*
*Fun* (same as “Humorous”)?
*Positive* Attitude
*Available*
*True Friends don’t need constant attention to maintain their relationship. You may not talk or visit for “ages” but can pick back up, right where you left off!
This is a fantastic list of what a friend can be. Thank you for sharing it. Yes, any friendship that is real will be able to be kept for years to come and even when the friends don't see/talk to each other for sometime.
Dear activity 2004 thanks for your replys. Much appreciated in these lean times.
You’re welcome! We will have more polls and BRAINWORKS postings in the next few days. Keep your eye out for them very soon.😀👍🌈
How’s it going for you this evening?😀👍🌈
Someone who listens and genuinely cares
These are exactly how I see what a good friend is, as well.😀👍🌈