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What permanent lifestyle changes do you think will be a part of your life now and in the future?

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Oldjock profile image
Oldjock

I’ll be maintaining social/physical distancing for the foreseeable future, there’ll be no guarantee that someone might not be a carrier of cv19

Jennyank777 profile image
Jennyank777 in reply to Oldjock

I will not going to my gym any time soon. I will continues workout at home . Going on date less as well.

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Oldjock in reply to Jennyank777

What is this “gym” of which you speak? 😆

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Jennyank777 in reply to Oldjock

Lifetime in westchester county

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RobbieT in reply to Oldjock

Funny!!😆

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ishkabobly in reply to Jennyank777

could you imagine trying to deadlift in a hazmat suit......

(trying to be light hearted in our grim situation)

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Feefeetee in reply to ishkabobly

😂😂😂

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Aldebaran25

Limit flights

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Radley3941

Staying with the stay home regulations as shielding and when allowed to mix be more vigilant.

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agingfeminist

Nothing will change

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ninjananna in reply to agingfeminist

I actually thought the same, as I'm pretty much doing all of the above anyway! (Although alot of them, are not my own choice) I have, however, been making funky face masks for friends and family to wear!! 🎭😷

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twinks in reply to ninjananna

Hya no ninjananna

Have u an easy pattern to follow

Could u pm me please thanks

Catmad10 profile image
Catmad10

My ‘other’ is to be more contained and be content with my own company.

MydogBrandy profile image
MydogBrandy in reply to Catmad10

Same here

Girlinmy_soup profile image
Girlinmy_soup in reply to Catmad10

Absolutely.... it’s like being trained to go inward in the last 3 months.... is not necessary to go outside to be entertained..... develop resilience, and become more self reliant

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Alex9621 in reply to Catmad10

Excellent

Big_Dee profile image
Big_Dee in reply to Catmad10

Yes, if you don't love yourself, no one else will either. We do not have to be entertained 24/7.

in reply to Big_Dee

That's what I thought last Sunday when I was coming back from my daily walk that it was up to me to find something constructive to do when I got home as you can't be reliant on others to entertain you all the time and that I did as well!

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Longbridge

I use FaceTime & Zoom a lot to keep in touch with my Siblings, Family & Local Headway!

in reply to Longbridge

I will keep on with video calls to my friends for things like virtual dinner parties.

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orange33

Learn more about my camera and iPad!

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starveycat

Permanently wear a mask in public until a cute us found

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Dj1962

Been doing all of the above all my life, just adapted it a bit for the moment

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starveycat

Should read cure

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Rosepetal60 in reply to starveycat

You can edit it yourself by clicking on more and changing the spelling

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Brixhamhampster

Have a bigger store cupboard

qwen profile image
qwen

Try stay more positive, lockdown is not good for mental wellbeing.

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Challiefan

Do more - we're only here once. Take more exercise.

What I will carry on with even when this has lifted is when I feel like going to the shops especially the supermarkets is the trip necessary and if the answer is no it isn't then I won't be there unless I really do need to be there.

Also with car and public transport trips asking are they needed and if the answer is no then not to take them same as with unnecessary trips into the city centre say to go to the shops just because I have nothing else to do.

Another thing is avoiding places like bars, clubs and coffee shops as I haven't really missed them as they like to rip people off but carry on with getting takeout delivered every now and again.

Also the restaurants as well that like to rip you off.

My bank manager will be happy with me when he finds out what I'm planning to do!

Yes I will carry on with my new interests even after this has lifted.

Last week myself and my friends had a dinner party via zoom and I had said about having gone past the offices where that toxic job was last Thursday after a trip to the pharmacy and heath park and how I was glad I wasn't there anymore and without spite had decided that should I really really have nothing better to do than perhaps I might visit or write to them and one of my friends said not even to do that and due to the way they treated me I should put them out of my mind and act like they don't exist and concentrate on those who do care about me!

Yesterday I did get in contact with a colleague from there who was nice and she is having a horrible time with everything having gone wrong at the same time as it always does!

She had been bullied by management there as well as have lots of colleagues!

They had disciplined a colleague there for kissing his girlfriend in the office! All it was was pecks on the cheek and holding hands that they were doing!

If it was heavy petting in the store cupboard then I can understand them having a telling off but that was childish and petty!

MeddieB profile image
MeddieB

None

Actonian profile image
Actonian

Definitely order groceries online, never did this before.

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Jayhawker in reply to Actonian

Me either and I’m loving not having to grocery shop anymore. I’ll have more time to take walks, ride my bike. I really enjoy spending time out in nature.

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Berrytog

The only change at the moment as I am shielded is that my once a week shop is done by somebody else. If the Coronavirus pandemic is cured or a suitable vaccine is found over the next few years then I expect the shielding will be lifted and I can once again go out to food shop. Other than that my lifestyle has not changed during this pandemic as in general I do not undertake any of the activities currently banned and listed.

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Tudee

I shall continue to self isolate, as this is my normal, I love the life of an eremite, no change here.

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Greenthorn

Concentrate on getting tasks done. Do not put off what you can do today. Keeping the house clean and aerated.

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Joliv61

One thing is for shopping, rather than a lot of short trips to the shops with nothing in mind is to make a list by the kettle. That way we have a plan when attacking the supermarket and give half the list to my daughter. In and out in half the time with just what we need. Also walking there as it’s just 10 mins along a footpath next to a brook.

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SheilaC

We have a holiday booked in India for next December. We will not be going and I doubt if we will go abroad again. (We had three holidays abroad last year - Cuba, Turkey and India) We choose holidays in quiet, unpolluted areas next to the sea and my lungs appreciate this.

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MydogBrandy in reply to SheilaC

My relatives are in Austria, I am now wondering if I will ever see them again?

Jayhawker profile image
Jayhawker in reply to MydogBrandy

Yes, I have relatives who live quite far from me in the United States and have wondered the same. We connect using zoom. But I truly may never see them in person again.

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HeronNS in reply to Jayhawker

My daughter lives a couple of provinces over in Canada and we too wonder when we will see each other again. I have been watching my (only) grandchild, now 9 months old, growing up on Skype. So glad we met her when she was still a newborn and then again a little bit before Christmas, before pandemic broke upon us.

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Cat33

At the moment nothing will change for me and my husband I worry about a second wave of infection I'm finding lots of simple pleasures each day

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herdysheep

I could not find how to record in comments for 'other' on voting form. I will not be cruising for the foreseeable!

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JasperDylan

You can’t be 100% safe in areas of busy public venue pubs or even large shopping malls

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Elt79

Currently shielding - can’t wait to see my daughters been 8 weeks now. Only time I’ve been out is to hospital 3 times for treatment, but I have got my driving licence back so take myself now! Got to know neighbours well and all have been really kind. Enjoy doing my little bit to help NHS donating towards ‘wobble’ rooms in my local hospitals where I worked until last year, making baby hats for neonatal and now knitting rainbows. Enjoyed spending time working in the garden as well. People are kind and my regular calls from Jessica at the Foundation is always a laugh! Local council also rings me regularly too so I’m coping ok.

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ninelives

Be more thankful for every day that I have.Be thankful for the things I can do mentally and spiritually and try to stabilise the decline in lung function.

Appreciate sunrises ,sunsets ,happy news ,good food ,friends and be grateful.

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afternoonpm

To find a every lasting partner.

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Susan1200

Being more Positive in trying times and to be extra careful in social distancing.

I have always been extra careful in hygiene as I don't have any immune system.

Hermes123 profile image
Hermes123

Too many crises to formulate an opinion at present. myself an emergency MRI. spinal scan next Tuesday, yesterday we lost a family member to corona virus, a dedicated care home worker. RIP. Lou.

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Hobbledehoy in reply to Hermes123

XxO

DiHi profile image
DiHi

Working from home is tricky,I’m involved with the homeless of this country.

Adlon57 profile image
Adlon57

I would emigrate if possible?

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secrets22 in reply to Adlon57

But where would you go as the whole world is contaminated with this virus.

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Adlon57 in reply to secrets22

It is not the virus, it is the way that British society reacted, England on their 'high horse' as usual, Northern Ireland, the first thing they want is to go back to their bloody churches, private services indeed? Coronavirus and Brexit have opened my eyes, I want a country that has it's own personal identity, not ruled by skeleton of separate identities or run by two so called christian religious beliefs, when somebody puts a gun to your head and says "Prod or Taig, which?" I would die with a smile on my face saying "Neither!". When they say "God save the Queen!", sixty five percent, especially in our 'ruling' nation, are not even pure English, most are not even "christian", no offence to the Queen, she is no spring chicken, who will take her place? This virus has shown there are four distinct provinces, and people will die because of the distinct differences, that I positively believe! [This I doubt will be shown, but there are a lot of people believe this and like me want to emigrate, I am near the end of my 'reign' but these 'pandemics' have opened my eyes to this situation, it is doubtful I will get my wish, as I have just finished 7 weeks of my 12 week isolation, not a lot to look forward whatever happens!]

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HamishBoxer

Wash hands a lot more.

QandA profile image
QandA

Praying more

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Tilly2402 in reply to QandA

Praying given me a lot of comfort. X

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Little_River

I will be avoiding large groups of people and maintaining social distancing for people other than immediate family

We have to get back to normality, or as near normal as we are allowed to. Restrictions are not a normal way of life, albeit they were needed for a while. I am worried that so many people have been scared by the media, government etc, that they will probably never enter back into society fully. I intend to see as many of my friends as possible, and share in as many years of my grandchildren's lives as possible, as life is short.

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S11m

None apply to me.

Will people work from home more?

Will firms and politicians teleconference more instead of flying?

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Joetcalr

Take every opportunity that comes my way

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kitchengardener2

One weekly shop at supermarket and use local traders more.

in reply to kitchengardener2

That's what I will carry on with use the local shops for things like bread and milk and only use the supermarket when I'm really desperate with no other choices.

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HissingSid

More exercise in future for me as my steps averages have fallen drastically due to only going outdoors as necessary.

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Brantuk

We're going to continue shielding for the forseeable future (only got my letter last week so at least 3mths). And after that we'll be avoiding people as much as possible until zero new cases are reported for a good while (3-4wks at least). They seem to think the number of deaths is the important figure - but that's just a statistic and has no bearing on wether or not I will catch it when I go out. It's the number of new infections reported which is important - that has to go down to, and stay at, zero for a month before you're reasonably safe. We're also going to continue online shopping and food delivery, rather than risk mixing it with the rabble in the supermarkets. And instead of taking the car for service and mot, we'll be getting it picked up and returned by the garage and pay over the phone. :)

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secrets22

i will have to get used to more isolation and not being as social as i was,and i'm pretty sure i wont go abroad again,in fact i doubt i will go far at all.

The main downside is i will get as fat as a whale,even my elasticated waist trousers are bursting at the seams.

Jayhawker profile image
Jayhawker in reply to secrets22

Yes!

diannetrussell profile image
diannetrussell

Valuing all people more

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Jayhawker in reply to diannetrussell

Yes!

Kblaisel profile image
Kblaisel

Lean on God more. Trust in His provision and love for us. Worship, glorify and give thanks in ALL circumstances. Be grateful that the inhabitants on this tiny planet spinning in the universe may have learned the lessons of cooperation, preparation and protection of His creation.

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Adlon57 in reply to Kblaisel

May your god go with you? but don't congregate in a place of worship, because you think your god will protect you? When there is another pandemic, and there probably will be! Make sure the people who are most vulnerable to the particular infection/condition are protected first, NEVER mind jobs and employment, protect the most susceptible FIRST! It was known at least by February that the old and sick would be infected the worst! Pandemics like this show that no matter how much 'politicians' like to cut financial corners, make sure as in Northern Ireland, NHS were still on strike at the beginning of the year, just before the pandemic started? Make sure the NHS is at the bottom of any financial cuts. The human spirit via lessons of good old cooperation, brought out the best of people, shown akin the wartime spirit, that was brought to the surface in the 75 VE day celebrations! Nice to see, then like now, bringing out the best in people! Waving to neighbours who lived beside me for decades, on a Thursday evening, they can actually smile! Nothing to do with your 'Almighty God', too many different religions now in Britain to appeal to just "him"?

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Ianc2

I am 75. I either lock myself in and decorate my house or I try and get back to my former lifestyle if I can. I still walk about 8-10,000 steps a day but I am getting a bit bored with the current set of paths.

Not being able to nip into a café at the half way point for a coffee , a GF cake and an ablution is very annoying so I would like to get that fixed. As soon as the youngsters get back to work places will be less crowded and a café with a patio might be worth thinking about.

I am looking forward to a mid week perambulation along a seaside promenade with an ice cream in my hand, and an independent air, away from the madding crowds.

I would like to drive to Arboretums, or old castles, or national trust stately piles, or mountain centres, or garden centres . The national trust/ English heritage might also get my cash and so might their coffee shops. In the meantime my trusty flask will have to do.

Long haul flights and cruises are now beyond the pale, but masks and gloves might get me to Austria or France so I can walk amongst the mountains and admire glistening peaks.

With a bit of luck their lifts will be open to enable me to zoom up the hills, stand amongst the clouds, sit on the terraces, enjoy a meringue and a coffee or a radler (shandy), followed by a wander down to bottom of the valley back to my hotel and a swim.

On the dark winter nights I would like to meet with friends and go dancing but that will be problematical for a fair while yet, so I will have to think about that. A masked ball or two perhaps?

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Knittingrunner

I think I will be taking more holidays in the uk I think. I have no desire to use planes. Plus we have so many lovely spaces to explore. 😊

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Schenks

I will be decontaminating all goods coming into our home. I will be shopping online to a greater degree, socialising less and travelling less. I will be highly vigilant concerning social distancing and, sadly, expect to become even more insular and isolated

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Jessie8ruff

I got my letter to isolate from NHS right at beginning so this would be till mid June, I am due to go on holiday in a caravan with an older friend who also should be isolating but I know he hasn’t! More to the point the holiday company (Parkdean) are saying that the site will be re opening as from 1st June unless further advice from government! Now I have to wait until 26th June to know if the park lockdown will extend! I really can’t see me wanting to be there & therefore will not get my money back! What can I do?

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Rosepetal60 in reply to Jessie8ruff

I’m not sure but I think the caravan parks date for opening is at present July 4th.. I’m watching it closely because we are booked in sometime in September and have paid in advance.

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Jessie8ruff in reply to Rosepetal60

Yes I know that as this morning I got an email from Parkdean offering me a choice between voucher & refund as my holiday 15 June! In my comment I said I had to wait till 26 June, I meant 26 May! Which until yesterday is the last time I had response from them!

Now I have to look forward to a later holiday booked & paid for in September!!

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ddmagee1

I fail to understand why so many people don’t seem to understand the true nature of the seriousness of the contagion factor, with the Covid-19 Pandemic! This is not like the flu! I think of it like a plague.

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petejmarshall in reply to ddmagee1

I agree with you ddmagee1

But what I would like to see when the coronavisus outbreak is under control as I and my Disabled son have to isolate ourselves because we have medical conditions that make us a very high risk of catching the coronavisus. But what I would like to see is this country people support the elderly and high risk persons who can't get out much because of their own health problems or disabilities I think the community spirit of this great Nation of ours has got better since this coronavisus lockdown has been in force, as we hear of unselfish acts of love and understanding and kindness that a majority of people have shown others. Especially the emergency services workers who have put there own life's at risk to care and protect the people of this great nation of ours. I know a lot of people may not agree with some of the things that I have said. But one day in the future we are self 'a may need the help of the emergency services who ever they maybe. And one thing for sure a lot of us may live to an old age person I am there now I mean being elderly. But I myself can show someone else love and understandings of there problems and I think that we should still support our Wonderful NHS not many other countries have a free health care system like we take for granted in this country. And people find comfort in taking to GOD in prayer or meditation And worshipping him in There own way. So it's wrong for people to judge their fellow human beings who believe in a God no matter what they believe as long as it doesn't put pressure on their way of thinking about God. I just want people to continue helping others after the lockdown as finished. Take care and stay safe always. Peter

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ddmagee1 in reply to petejmarshall

Great commentary! Thank You!

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petejmarshall in reply to ddmagee1

Your welcome

Fireleigh profile image
Fireleigh

Continue with home deliveries of food

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Girlinmy_soup

😀..... good of you to run this survey.... see how it matches up to one run in a year’s time, when hopefully a vaccine has become available.... 😊

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CraftypersonReading Rabbits

I'll just live each day as it comes nothing is a given so make the most of what you've got

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arvine

have a daily walk weather permitting

jcms profile image
jcms

crying more

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Oldjock in reply to jcms

Crying can be cathartic if that’s what you mean. Hope that there’s someone you feel able to talk to.

in reply to Oldjock

I find myself how a good cry does me the power of good.

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topaz1

Since I have chronic fatigue syndrome and my life is mostly in lockdown anyway I wont be making any changes!

in reply to topaz1

It's strange seeing how people react to what's been my normal life, for so long.

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topaz1 in reply to

My nearest relatives are in Shropshire and if they want to see me they drive down. Other than that I more or less live my life on my own. Not wonderful but 'we' do get used to it dont we!

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Adlon57

Having lost all confidence in the 'British' society and identity, right across the board, I think it is time for a clean break, although one of the things I will miss is the NHS, I want to emigrate!

in reply to Adlon57

Bye Bye

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Halestone

I am probably going to retire from my NHS employment post - at 81 years old, I think it's time

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ninelives in reply to Halestone

Bless you Halestone -you are an inspiration

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sassykitty

My life will remain a shelter in place even when things open up here. When I do go out for necessities I will take extra precautions of a mask, gloves, etc.

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jhorsf

people are going to internet shop even more than before, I see a grim future for a lot of shops

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Adlon57 in reply to jhorsf

I'm afraid that's what the internet does for society as well, to actually meet people is a basic human want, but the internet is "so convenient", to rely on it so much will mean the older and less computer friendly will suffer the most, and unfortunately as this particular pandemic shows they have suffered the worst! Less human interaction. That's what "technology" does for you! Bring back the horse mail coaches, and the quill pens?

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purple64

Continue to order my shopping online rather than go to the supermarket

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pigeonCl-HU

I am shielding, and shall continue to do so as long as I feel it is necessary.

This virus is still very much a dangerous, largely unknown entity.

I shall use my own judgement when to come out of shielding, rather then just blindly follow the government's 'directives'.

In the happy future when this virus is history, my life shall return to just as it was before, no special 'lifestyle changes' at all.

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Hobbledehoy in reply to pigeonCl-HU

I'm shielding too and agree that the virus is still a great threat, maybe always will be for the thing is mutating & vaccines in production will not be effective against all. Somehow we have to live a life of sorts again. Like many of us, I have other conditions & risks which need addressing also. I will continue home deliveries and keeping out of town, but I have just started wee walks out in quiet places, which are uplifting. (The cemetery is nice!). Can't see my U3A getting going again in the foreseeable future, but folk keeping in touch with mutual support & humour is a lifeline. Good luck & God bless.

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Sara_2611

Wear my mask when going shopping at all times, wearing latex gloves, & wipe down more . wear it when mum & dad com down for any reason (or one of them)

(Because I have ILD & on medication which lessens my immune system & more prone to infections

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Kharina

Really sad to see so many people saying use less public transport :( - unless they are replacing this with walking/cycling of course! Yes in the short term probably a good idea but not long term. Climate change is a much more concerning crisis than coronavirus, even if less fast/immediate. Once it is safer I would urge people to go back to public transport if the alternative is going by car- just not a good idea over the next few months, maybe year, not permanently! Also I'd like to add buying less things that I don't need- not missed shops being shut at all really.

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HeronNS in reply to Kharina

Very good points. It's disappointing to see various companies and even some governments using the pandemic to loosen environmental regulations. Climate change and habitat destruction are what got us here in the first place!

in reply to Kharina

More than likely i will go back for days out on public transport in the future just not at this point in time.

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Rosepetal60 in reply to Kharina

I miss the charity shops being closed, whether for donating or buying.

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Jayhawker

I’ll be continuing this extreme hand washing and sanitizing everything I touch several times a day. I actually think this will lead to me having fewer colds, etc.

And no more hand shaking or hugs other than immediate family on the hugs🐶

Jayhawker

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Adlon57 in reply to Jayhawker

I live on my own and am nearly two/thirds of the way through my 12 week isolation, although my GP told me via phone, but NEVER had any "Official Letter". My hands have never been cleaner, despite skin cleanser etc, [I sound like a soap Ad?] although they have probably aged a few years?

I really look forward to a family hug, they are the people that looked after my food needs!

Although my actual house could do with a good deep clean, become a bit of a slob recently?

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Dago12345

We will be staying in more. I’m going outs a lot less and that makes me sorry. However we should be healthier

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Nonna1

As I’m in the sheltered group I will continuing staying at home until I’m confident theirs no more risk-wish will not be anytime soon. I will not be wanting to take a holiday anywhere until there is a vaccine. I have really missed seeing my family especially grandchildren and can’t wait to see them again. This virus has completely changed my outlook on life

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ChrissiG

I was already pretty much a hermit but I do miss calling in a little cafe for a coffee and a cake or walking on the prom with an ice cream. I will probably buy even more things online than I do now. I won’t fly again but one day it may be safe enough to take the ferry and visit France and Spain again. I am retired so it doesn’t bother me much but I do feel sorry for younger folk.

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Adlon57 in reply to ChrissiG

Very similar, I do miss my favourite little cafe in the town, I miss the craic! I am retired, always been a bit of a hermit. I would like to travel a bit, if my health allows it? Essentially now that is what is holding me back, my perpetual bad health!

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JoggingBear

Still thin end of the wedge so I’ll be feeling my way for sometime yet.

Here in the USA,,,so much is still up in the air with our president spreading one super positive message yet the health experts seem much closer to reality that we should be very cautious about reopening the states activities one by one,,,since my hubby and I are in a high risk group,,we will continue to stick close to home,,venturing out with masks weekly for groceries but otherwise,,,staying put,,,,we hear the current time frame for a vaccine may well be 1-2 years so the future is not looking too rosy,,,,it’s a one day at a time proposition right now for us,,,,

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Big_Dee

Hello, do not feel like I will do anything differently.

We started the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) 8 week course and will continue with mediation and yoga. My wife was never interested in either and she’s become a devotee - an excellent change.

As I have a fabulously functioning renal transplant, I already do most of the things on the list above. I’ll add to that, masking in public until Covid-19 is well contained and a vaccine has been distributed widely.

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HeronNS

Like others have said, more physical distancing - until there's a good vaccine and I've had it! That means not going to meetings or lunch with friends, etc., and probably not able to travel across time zones to see my daughter and my little grandchild, or for them to come visit us.

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SunnyWorld

Stay in my new OCD frame about handwashing and germs

I chose be more health conscious, be more public spirited (this I will definitely try with as sometimes I do find it difficult especially when some people can be off towards me), see more of family and friends (I really do need to start phoning my friends a little more as I've been out exercising a fair bit and of course on the phone to my family a lot where I've actually neglected some friends). I also chose other as I haven't even thought of wearing a face mask during flu season but what I've definitely decided to do is clean the supermarket trolley down every time I go shopping from now.

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Its those who are off with you who have the problem not you!

in reply to

Thank you for saying that, that's very much appreciated.

in reply to

At my previous job there was a chap there who was treated by some of the other staff like he was beneath them and like some kind of peasant. I would say how it was the people with that attitude that had the problem not the chap himself!

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Oh most definitely, I couldn't agree with you more. The chap I used to work for had a problem as well, he bullied me and thought cleaners and support staff, I was support staff, were the dregs of society. I now know he was in that category but as time has gone by I'm pleased to say I have stopped being bitter as it isn't good for you.

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I went through a period of grieving after I left that toxic job last year and it's only recently that I have accepted it and the wound has healed after I was bullied by management there.

Last Thursday I had gone to the pharmacy and then decided on a walk up that way and had gone to the heath park where I hadn't been for ages and after Heath park walked down the main street near the offices and it was weird seeing the places shut and then I walked over to a little park I would go to at lunchtimes on my lunchtime walk there and had thought I was going back to work and no I wasn't, walked down my old route and then down the street where the offices are with a feeling of relief that I never have to visit those offices again and thanked the good lord for having given me the opportunity to save up to get out of there and told myself how when I had decided to try out things to save the job like going part time and doing different hours I had made those decisions with the information available to me at that time and how I had only done my best when I had decided on that as no one knows the future.

When I had left that Friday afternoon back in November I had made it my immediate goal that I was going to walk out of those offices with my head held high and that I did as well although I bawled my eyes out at home and also to my friends and had planned to take them to a tribunal which I had ended up deciding against doing so had withdrawn the application which I feel was the right thing to have done!

The bullies had said to me about writing to them and visiting them which had upset me and last Thursday I had felt better and had decided that should I really have nothing better to do then I would see about doing that but other than that then no!

Friday night it was a virtual dinner party with my friends and I talked about that and they said I had been very brave and I said about the bullies saying about visiting and writing and some of my friends said how they would have told the bullies where to go if they had said that to them!

Then I said how should I have times when I really really have nothing better to do then perhaps see about visiting them and writing to them and my ex boyfriend had said to me don't even do that!

He said how the bullies are psychopaths in how they treated me and others there and how I should treat them as if they are dead to me and don't exist!

Wise advice!

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Yes I've decided that life is too short to keep harking back to what's happened before.

Sounds like a lovely walk and yes it's strange to see everything shut. It does feel good to walk past somewhere where you no longer have to go to work.

Not going ahead with the tribunal was probably a good think to do otherwise it would have just gone on and on.

You did the right thing as you can hold your head high.

Sounds like your virtual dinner party went well with support from your friends, that's so lovely.

Very wise advice.

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The bullying had consisted of petty nitpicking behind closed doors and I had thought I was being silly and overreacting in how I had felt but it was nice to know no I wasn't and yes it was deliberate and malicious which my friends had said was driven by jealousy!

It was a horrible experience though at the end when I had my door badge taken off me when I was escorted off the premises the afternoon I had left the place for good but that was the end of it all.

They had another colleague in the office for having eaten a bacon roll at his desk and he has received lots of petty tellings off and another colleague was told off for having taken too long on break along with his friends and had sworn at them and had ended up sacked!

I still write to colleagues when I have a spare 5 minutes that were nice to see how they are getting on.

For me now I am still job hunting as there's still things available for those who are looking and keeping an open mind but one things for certain I won't work at that place where I was bullied again and I feel now they accidentally did me a favour when they never gave me the jobs there I had applied for!

Also I had wanted to have had a house up in that area near the offices as well which I never got and now I feel it was a blessing in disguise and that I had been accidentally stopped from having made a big mistake by not having got the place and had ended up somewhere a lot better!

I am finding myself that often it's the case that not getting what you want is a blessing as its a sign that what you originally wanted wasn't the thing that was best for you!

If something is for me it won't go by me is the way I think!

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Oh it's always behind closed doors so others can't see it hear what's happening.

That's degrading but you are the better person, you're well rid of that place and karma is good.

Well that certainly doesn't seem like the best place to work.

That's nice you keep in touch with the nice ones.

I know it's a strange time but jobs will be out there. They really did do you a favour in the end.

That's what I call a lucky escape.

You certainly are thinking the right way 'what will be will be' and I'm a believer in fate.

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My Mum always said follow your gut feeling as that's your note of truth and integrity.

You don't have to prove anything to anyone-if you don't want contact with these bullies then don't.

You are a unique ,special ,worthwhile human being -that is your true self ,don't give away your power.You will come through this give yourself time and if you want to talk to folk you can trust about it

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I have found how most problems sort themselves out with time.

I will assure you that no under no circumstances will I be contacting those bullies again or speaking to them should I see them when I'm out and about either.

Next week and the week after I have some job interviews and yesterday I got a phone call off a place that had to cancel their March interviews asking me was I still interested and I said yes I was and I am just waiting for them to come back to me with a new date and time.

I have found that lots of other people have gone through bullying as well and at the previous job they had bullied a girl out of there after she had been off sick for ages and they had ended up sacking her for having been off sick and she has ended up in a right mess financially as her house had ended up being repossessed by the bank!

Then they had another colleague in the office for a telling off for kissing his girlfriend in the office!

All it was was pecks on the cheek and holding hands not anything heavy that was being done in the office.

If it was heavy petting in the office then yes that does warrant a telling off but not for holding hands and pecks on the cheek though!

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MidoriVisually impaired in reply to

I agree; it says far more about them than it does about you.

Cheers, Midori

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Linda636

Be more patient and accepting

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Bingo88

Think it will be a while before things are anywhere near normal. Think we have another problem now people in London are back at work. The tube is rammed with no social distancing

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MaxMteliso

Keeping myself to myself and pursue my dream doggedly

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82mf

I am unclear as to your definition of Item B, More Public Spirited.

In terms of more Spiritual in Public, I must say that shall be my answer. You see, I believe that God placed me in this Storm so that I may assist others who suffer from Kidney Failure, as I do with my product development. Someone once asked, "How in the world do you intend to meet such high hopes and goals that you say that you are going to meet in your condition?" I tell them, "I don't. God does. He is just using me to throw rocks at giants."

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RobbieT

I'll be washing my hands a lot more! Was surprised to realise that I actually come home, put groceries away, make a cuppa etc - germy hands & all! Disgusting!! Same for when I return from Doctor or gym. Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene. (And what's worse is that I have a low immune system. Person learned!)

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PamJN

Stay away from large groups of people....it will be a long time before I will go to a restaurant and feel comfortable.

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GKeith

You become more aware of your surroundings and you trust people even less, especially politicians but you also get mad and vow to, somehow, change the societal wrongs to rights.

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MidoriVisually impaired

As I have been in virtual lockdown since mid- February (shielding), when I moved into my new home in Wales, I am already being more health conscious.

Once I get out and about again I shall be volunteering locally (not quite sure what yet, but it will have to be wheelchair accessible).

I shall be continuing with my new hobbies.

I probably will wear a face mask in Flu season (if I can get a reasonable supply, of course).

Unfortunately, I don't get the choice of using public transport; it is that or taxis. I really miss the ability to drive, but failing sight dictates. I would hate to be responsible for injuring a person. One reason I'm not really looking to get a mobility scooter.

I am looking forward to being able to get out and buy goods personally again, (I really dislike relying on others to pick my meat and veg, particularly). Clothing too, I like to feel the fabrics and try on instore, rather than having to send or take goods back. Tactile sense is extremely important to me and I have missed it lately. Interaction with animals is something else missing from my life.

Cheers, Midori

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Susan1200

I shall be more aware of social distancing. 👌

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HenningLob

I plan to continue to be thankful for the many blessings in my life.

(is this where you are supposed to write your comment if you vote other??!)

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Morein

I am not a paragon of virtue but I have always done all of those things except for wearing a mask. I think a flu jab should suffice

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ddwoodham

I will be much more aware of social distancing in the future.