What is the first thing that you will... - Positive Wellbein...
Positive Wellbeing During Self-Isolation
What is the first thing that you will you do when the lockdown is over? This is a single choice poll.
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What I really need is a big long hug.....
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I do too, but unfortunately I don't have anyone to hug me even when lockdown is lifted. π
Maybe when this all settles there will be more awareness and kindness and youll get a hug. I hope so....
Sending you lots of hugs Marnie x
If you live near Bristol, I would come and give you a hug! Sending lots of virtual hugs anyway! I notice you are a cat lover like me! I have a tabby called Bob and a black cat called Carling. ( Both rescues).
Take good care xxxxx
I noticed the cat picture too. I have 3 of them and they're what are keeping me from climbing the wall for lack of hugs. They don't mind lockdown. They love all the attention!
I agree Bella, they are such great company and they donβt mind lockdown at all because they adore attention! Xxxxx
My 3 are:
Lily (black, about 7, we think - she came to me as my failed first attempt at fostering for the RSPCA, heavily pregnant just before Guy Fawkes Night);
Gizmo (also black, about 4 now, I think - came to me from someone who discovered she was allergic, but had given him a wonderful home - he has special emotional needs, he's just not all there and I do mean that seriously); and
Maisie. She's a tiny little tabby of about 2, but we don't know for sure. A neighbour brought her to me because she'd found her wandering over several days, and she thought she would probably be mine! I'd seen her about, but thought she was wandering with purpose. Anyway, after I'd kept her in (again, around Bonfire Night so lots of fireworks) for a week or so, while checking around that nobody said she was missing anywhere, I couldn't bear to give her up because she is the sweetest, sunniest little creature I've ever come across. She's an unexpected bonus because I decided only to have black cats on account of they are apparently so hard to home. And then she came along to be the exception to the rule.
I could ramble about my cats for hours. I hope this hasn't bored you to sleep!
Absolutely not, I love cats so much too and itβs lovely to know you have rescues as well. Our black cat was fifteen when we first got him and had had about four different homes. The last couple had moved flats to have a garden for their new baby but cats werenβt welcome.
He was so nervy at first and apparently hadnβt been outside for years! However, our three year old, Bob ( the tabby ) showed him the ropes one dark night ( Carling followed him around the garden) and since then, whenever the sun is out, so is Carling! He is very elegant and petite yet he saw off a huge ginger cat that our Bob was cowering from. It was such a sight to see! Carling is so wobbly on his legs now but thinks heβs a young stud still! He is my first black cat and the most affectionate and gentle one Iβve ever had. A friend of mine thinks this is more typical of his breed, whereas our tabby is a massive bird/ mouse and rat killer. He was even trying to kill bees recently and I had to shoo him indoors!
Your three sound adorable too!
They do keep us entertained thatβs for sure!
Denise xxxxxx
Me too. Cats are my lifeline at the moment! They are milking the situation , constantly demanding food and dogging my every footstep !
We are learning new communication skills !
Thank you. I live about 90 minutes from you, so you never know! I do love cats. I can't have any pets at the moment due to my health problems, but I hope I might be able to volunteer at at cat sanctuary in the future. I used to have four black cats (one with white paws and bib,) and the neighbours thought I was a witch!! ππΈ
Ah, that would be lovely to meet when this is over. I felt so sad when I saw your post, you certainly sound like you need a hug and itβs lovely to see that so many people are sending you them! People rally are so warm and friendly on this site!
Helping at a cat sanctuary would be a great plan for the future as these places are always needing volunteers and you clearly love cats too.
I do rather favour black cats since having Carling as he is so affectionate and sweet natured, though to be fair, I love them all!
Iβm sorry to read that you had such an awful time regarding your health and really hope things improve for you gradually, over time.
Love Denise xxxxx
X-files fan , your amazing . I can only send you one hug ,But it's a massive one.
Thank you for the lovely massive hug. Are you into X-Files at all? ππΈ
Used to watch it all the time , sent my misses mad π€£π€£ hope your good , stay safe .
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Marnie you go hug the first person that you meet!
I am sending you a big hug.
Friendβs great granddaughter aged 4 asked her mum β when are we allowed to hug again? Meaning hug her grandparents.
Aww, bless her. This must be so hard for children as well xxxx
((((((((Hug)))))))) my grand-babies! I miss them so much! M x
My day out choice vied with "friends and family" but that may not be their choice to spend it with us. It would be nice to combine the two if possible.
My mum my sisters and brother my cousin I miss all
Climb a mountain..
That's something I'll definitely be doing.
Choosing one to get away from people could prove difficult...π€
It's going to be very busy. π
What a great survey!
Walk by the north Norfolk coast
I am looking forward to being able to see my Dad especially as he is 83 years of age and is struggling being alone and unable to go out as something he is not used to. I am in the shielding group so it has been hard for me as I would like to see him and help at this time. I am also looking forward to seeing friends as I have found it really hard (living alone) having no social contact with people. I love talking and seeing people so this is a difficult time.
I totally agree. My parents are in their 80 s and live 3 and a half hours away. Very difficult time but eventually this will be over. One day we will re-emerge and reclaim our lives, once itβs safe. I canβt wait as both my husband and I are higher risk although currently healthy. I hope you see your dad soon x
My Dad is 93 R, Iβm unable to go see him safely - but one safe day I hope to just get there to visit him and take him out for a cool beer and a chat.
I'm sure, as soon as it's safe to do so, you will be able to take your Dad for a beer and catch up. Sounds like a good idea and something to aim for and look forward to x
My dad has severe dementia now. He used to love a pint πΊ or three ! But in honesty Iβm not sure if he will remember me if I see him after. I will hang on to lots of good memories. Enjoy your drink with your dad ( when you can ) cheers π»!
So very kind of you, Iβm so sorry to hear your story of your dear Dadβs condition. I wish you and him my very best for the future.
Heartfelt thanks x Stu πΉπΉ
I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx π
Thank you π. But there are so many other people going through all this and worse. Much appreciated Lynne x
Yes but it doesn't alter the fact that you are having a hard time of it.
I always think there are many people who are worse off than me. Love and hugs to you and your Dad. Lynne xxxx πβ₯οΈπ»πΉ
Rachel, I found with my Dad that he may not always have remembered my name but he knew that I was a friend and that used to keep me going. I hope you get to hug him soon.
Thanks for your reply. I'm sure you are right and we will emerge from this soon when it's safe to do so. I try to keep positive and look towards this time whilst trying to keep myself busy. I've stopped watching the news so much as found this was making me more anxious and upset. Sometimes taking time away from news and social media is good for us x take care and hope you can see your parents soon too.
Although a lot of the current news here is scary, there are some more optimistic news reports emerging certainly from New Zealand and Australia π¦πΊ. I have spent some time this morning watching the Spanish children on live web cam in Spain. First couple of days out after total lockdown. Itβs so lovely to see them being walked in pushchairs and toddling over the watch the fountains or play on the promenade. Brought tears to my eyes. Hold on, stay positive, better times are coming x
Best wishes with your dreams B, which all seem so far away at present I know, do continue to enjoy your kind friends here and read of their dreams too which will ease your own anxiety.
You are not alone with HU my dear.
Sending my best to you x S.
My heart goes out to you. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx π
Hug and kiss my wonderful, beautiful grandchildren. I love them more then anything in this world
Agreed, I feel the same about mine! Xxxxx
Being unable to see family members without 2 meter separation and not being able to actually hug and kiss them is the worst thing about this virus and cannot wait till that can happen again.
None really, I actually am enjoying the peace and not having to talk etc. anymore than necessary!
Provided you are healthy it is nice to have a bit of downtime. But none of us wanted it this way!
Perhaps not the way we wanted but for most it will end, and although I enjoy the peace, a lot have NO CHOICE at all about being isolated more or less permanently, I would not like to have to do as others laid out for me even if it was with the best of intentions. Be positive soon will pass as most things do and we should maybe be going along the St. Julian of Norwich route "And all shall be well"....yes really
Family BBQ
not any shopping but to buy garden plants
I want to be as good to people as they have been to me during this time.
Go out to lunch (like we once did)-at the Grand Hotel-and also meet friends there!
I really miss social events/theatres -Black Ties etc etc-and friends who wanted to visit and couldn't!
The lockdown is only there to protect people from the real problem, Corona. That will still be there, perhaps for years. So I won't be rushing out to do anything that involves contact. Maybe a quiet walk, distancing from other people.
I agree wholeheartedly with you M, so I wonβt decide on mixing together closely until I hear positive news from Science that really convinces me I can live safely outside as before this awful killer arrived so suddenly and invisibly.
Odd to imagine I could have this virus right now and not realise I could actually be an unseen killer, we all need a personal convincing accurate test to ever be able get our true freedom back.
So Iβve no plans whatever to list my desired first activity.
Figures released today still very shocking, now approaching 3.5 million worldwide. - I wish you all to be Lucky!
My husband and I think we have had it. The worst symptoms were gastro-intestinal but looking back we had other symptoms before that. We were very, very ill, and we are left absolutely exhausted, and I'm quite OCD about everything. We are in lockdown anyway so have infected no-one if we have. And it is not proven that having had it once protects you, even if we could get a test.
On the good news Oxford University is developing a vaccine. They were already working on a SARS vaccine so are ahead of the game. Successful test have already been done on monkeys, in a lab in the States. And human trials have just begun. But mass production will be a real challenge.
I can vouch that this is 'real' news' as I am a member of Oxford Uni. so have access to internal news.
I live in Spain, when they allow us I would love to walk on the beach, with no-one nearby but my husband. Maybe see friends with social distancing as I know some who live alone are feeling very lonely. Other than that we will continue as now, food shopping on-line, once a month trip to the pharmacy for medicines.
And yes, we miss social life, eating out, we are especially worried for some of the small family run restaurants we used to frequent. And my husband is a retired orchestral musician and desperately misses the concerts we used to go to in Malaga.
But these things will have to wait, for many, especially those like us older people, there will be a new reality for quite a while to come.
I thank you for your very kind factual reply Margaret, your positive news on the Oxford Uni work is so encouraging. Good luck to this keen team.
Yes - like you and your husband, I do of course wish for the safe return of all freedoms!
I have played classical Guitar in various charity concerts over the years with my Quartet and Guitar Orchestra. I miss these possibilities now to help fund raising for Cancer research and other vital organisations I have supported as a musical hobbyist. But when the opportunity arises in future, I guess this activity will head my list of Wanna- Doβs! - I hope in aid of more CV19 study and research.
I hope you and your husband one day can again relax, smiling together at a grand Concert somewhere, hand in hand, without any thought of Covid-19.
Bless you both - Stu in England.
My family mean so much to me this has been heart breaking. My son is ill and as a mum I feel I should be there .
Maybe not a priority for some but you haven't seen my hair πππ..even my Ghd's can't help π±
Trip to the hairdresser! My roots are terrible! My mum (78 years old) lives over 200 miles away, but we've been in touch via Skype and phone so I've probably seen more of her than normal. I'd have to get my hair done before seeing her in person, though. I live on my own and have found it quite difficult at times - luckily I'm working from home, and that at least keeps me connected to people.
Swimming.... I need to go swimming.....
I'm lucky enough to have a private pool (not so unusual here in Spain) with the solar cover on it should be usable in June if the sun shines, absolute bliss.
Go out and walk as I am stuck in side 95% of the time due to having asthma
Book a weekend away in this country to try and help our businesses.
Big big hugs with my daughters and baby grandson xxx
I love that more than half is wanting to go see family or friends. We dont have family in the UK, just myself and my wife and family lives very far away.
Meal or coffee with friends or family.
A visit to my grandson is a priority but it's a short flight away so will have to wait a while more.
I miss my grandkids giving me hugs every day
Need to get out for a week in the caravan.
Go for a run - canβt at the moment as shielding π
Likely to require to continue βsafe distancingβ due to health issues - asthma and low immune system. Will feel very unsure until effective vaccine is discovered. Westminster Government has managed this βvirusβ very badly from the outset.
Same here.
Immunosuppression owing to cancer therapy
Asthma controlled by steroids
Inflammation in right lung caused by radiotherapy
I'm likely to be out of commission for a while.
It could, ultimately, be a targeted anti-viral drug that comes to our rescue, Jantayl. Not necessarily a vaccine. Whichever comes first, really.
I totally agree: shocking mismanagement of what is now a complete travesty - from day one.
Spectators can always play better than the players and don't you believe everything in the media. Drama and criticism sells newspapers.
Striking the right balance between lockdown and the economy is a very difficult call and the Government relied on advice from medical experts before making decisions.
Before I visit family Iβm going for a walk to the beach. Being shielded Iβm desperate to just go for a walk in the fresh air. I donβt care about the weather!
Use this time to do fit that you never find time for
Other.
Because, being in the shielding group, I still won't be allowed out - until a targeted anti-viral drug becomes available or a safe and effective vaccine is developed and made available to the masses.
Not ideal.
But what's even less heartening is that I can't see my son until this nightmare is over for me.
It must be so hard for you as you have and are going through so much. Love and hugs to you and your son Lynne xxxx πβ₯οΈπ»πΉ
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Really looking forward to hugging my kids and grandkids x
1st: flowers for my mum on her bench, as missed 2 important anniversaries !
Next visiting family & friends to be able to give them hugs & kisses, missing that closeness!
Then getting to all my activities again especially for the chatting, but to pick up & refresh memory of how to do all the crafts I enjoyed!
Finally have my holiday as likely to have been cancelled !
Margaret!
Although i wish to see my great grandchilren & all my family I really need a haircut as well
All I really want to do is go for a walk
Have a lovely day with family,and vist our favourite seaside resort Southwould.
Looking forward to being with the family and sharing hugs like before.
The first thing I will do when the shut down is over is make an appointment to get my poor fluffy puppy groomed. Then hubby and I will take his mom out to dinner.
Difficult to visit family even when allowed to, as the virus will still be around and cross infection still a risk
Sadly yes, I fully agree and i cant see lockdown being lifted in one go...
most of my family are not local ( one in US) so I doubt I will be able to see them for some time...
But some human contact from a friend.... just one to begin with...somewhere quiet....Im pretty sure Ill cry!!!
Charity shop browsing and possibly buying. Getting back to work, seeing friends a lot.
Looking forward to hugging my pregnant daughter.
Hugging and kissing my 2 grandsons aged jus 4 years old and 8 years old,
Who donβt understand fully why they just cannot come into my home and cuddle me , itβs so heartbreaking.
I was torn between getting a haircut and visiting family. Family are 3 plus hours drive away so quicker to book & get hair cut done before making arrangements to visit family/book caravan into a 5 van site.
Get my prostrate operation sell up my house and emigrate
For my own feeling of wellbeing I will have a haircut and then socialise with my nearest and dearest.
For my own feeling of wellbeing I will have a haircut and then socialise with my nearest and dearest.
Get my prostrate operation then move house
For my own feeling of wellbeing I will get a haircut ad then socialise with my nearest and dearest.
I want to hug π€ my two girls, one a nursing sister and one a staff nurse, both on the very front line at my local hospital, apart from a couple of garden air kisses I havenβt seen them. I am on the government 12 week list and disabled, they are protecting me. I just want to squeeze my girls and hold them for the longest time, so so proud but extremely worried at the same time. I really also want to squeeze my grandson and give him a big sloppy kiss as we say, these are my only wishes at this time, I canβt wait, I donβt want anything else, nothing material, nothing that costs, I just want my kids and grandson back in my life. X
I miss my morning walks
I cannot wait to see my family again, especially my 3 wonderful grandchildren who I have missed sooo much, I've not seen them for 7 long weeks, think I will hug them forever xxxxxxxxxx
For my own feeling of wellbeing I will get a haircut and then get together with my nearest and dearest.
Cuddle my grown up children then cuddle my 5 grandchildren
Nothing will really change for me work and home as usual after lockdown ends.
Will go to church to thank the One above...
Hug my grandchildren, sons and sister. Hopefully we can move to our new bungalow!!!!!!!
Other is nothing major until there is a vaccine.
Take my pc and everything back to the office (Sad I know)
Say a Prayer of thanks and remember those who lost their lives.
As a carer for my wife I have been self isolating for ten years, only going out once a week to shop. As a shielded person I cannot do that now.
My heart goes out to you. I am in that same group of Shielding and itβs very restrictive but also very necessary. Have a really nice time out shopping when things ease off and just focus on that for now.
I am thinking of you both. Self isolating due to being high risk. Can't wait to see family and friends again and hug them tightly π€π€ xxxx
I need to hug my grandchildren tight!
and resume my home care package.
Big hugs for my family and friends miss them so much π
I can't wait to hug my grandchildren
Hug the grandchildren
I want to smile at people and say βHow are youβ? No covering on my face and a sparkle in my eyes.
My other is "go to the gym".
But the second thing will be book a haircut, and the third, visit my mum.
My one daughter son in law and grandchildren live in Germany so may not see them any time soon which makes me so sad but my two other children and their partners will have massive hugs π€
Church then sailing
Get more involved with 'politics' as this is turning into a 'class' issue.
I don't agree. In this instance, for once, I think all political persuasions want the same thing. I do agree, however, that things could have been handled much better, at the start of this nightmare. So many lives lost unnecessarily, due to shortage of protective equipment and lack of testing for the NHS, carers, patients and all other key workers. So sad, such a waste, through total ineptitude and lack of foresight. So many families broken. We can only hope that things get better soon. No thanks either to all the selfish morons who have not been adhering to lockdown guidelines, thereby continuing to spread the virus. At the end of this they will all have to live every single day, wondering if their deliberate actions could have contributed to someone's death. Wish I didn't feel this way, so am now trying to think of all the positives that are happening. the success stories, the selfless acts of kindness, the dedication of carers in whatever capacity, and of course Captain Tom. Congratulations and Happy 100th birthday for Thursday. Stay safe everyone. xx
Unfortunately when the lockdown is over much will not change. With my underlying health conditions, until there is a cure or vaccine, my life will remain the same. Only leaving the house for necessities.
Yes I totally agree, they absolutely love the attention and they do make me smile!
Denise xxxxx
I would take each day as it comes and probably be very cautious,no hugs,no going for a drink and still keep 2 meter distance.
I have to wait for a treatment or a vaccine before I can mix with others. Then it will be hair cut, family and friends. In the meantime I am able to order sewing requisites to keep me creating and Duolingo learning to keep my brain active. I'm also incredibly blessed to be married to the very best of husbands To be entirely alone at this time must be very difficult.
You are blessed indeed with a lovely other half!
I will probably be staying at home as I am in the shielded group and I think we will be the last to be set free. It will feel harder if others are let out first and maybe online activities stop.
Definitely either visit my daughter and grandchildren or they come to me.
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I just want to hug everyone. Can't wait to see our son who has Crohn's and his girlfriend , our other son is at home with us and so we all can't wait to see his girlfriend as well. Also our other dear family and fantastic friends. We are all trying to help each other. Thank goodness for zoom!! Love and hugs to you all Lynne xxxx πβ₯οΈπ»πΉ
I want to take my 85 year old mum shopping -she has been locked up with my father who has Alzheimerβs and every day she has had to explain again about Lockdown and canβt leave him
I will go to Church and thank God and my parish priests for keeping the Mass on livestream during all of this lockdown time. It has brought people together who otherwise wouldnβt meet and chat to others in normal circumstances.
My other is to visit the dentist for my postponed checkup
I picked Visiting family and friends because I haven't seen either except on video chat. I would like to have them in person and get to have a party (nonvirtual).
Have a 'day out' to find independence and freedom again... Needing a haircut, wanting to go to a coffee shop and so much more... Freedom!
Hermes123 I would like to say meet all my friends at Age UK. But we are not certain when or if it will be re-opened again, they tried to close it just a few years ago, we held a protest and it remained open, I was sent there by my Doctor as he said I needed a break from home, even more so now I am a carer with my own health issues. Hermes.
I miss my children and my grandchildren the very most! This has been my greatest struggle by far and I can not wait to be able to see them and HUG and KISS them again!
A big hug from my granddaughter ππΌ
I hate technology. Am looking gor a response to my post.
Iβll still be very worried going out. Coz of my immune system is low, it scares me.
I will visit the sea which is 5 miles away from my home and I miss the sea so much for my siitual and emotional and mental well being.
Yes canβt wait.
I need to get a little of my dignity back after being spoken to in a brusque fashion by bank, supermarket, and shopping centre staff. Of course I need to get my hair trimmed, after all, members of the royal family, plus politicians always have that privilege, no matter what. As for the hugs, where would I get those from? My family rarely give me a ring, let alone a hug. It is always a lockdown scenario with them. I do have nine grandchildren, and two great grandchildren. The eldest grandchildren never ring us, so no change there. So, A hairdressing appointment will be my best therapy. I probably may hug my hairdresser though. HUGGGGGs to all of those who need them on here though, as isolation is a precursor to depression.
I'm sick and tired of cooking so my vote went to eating out π
I know there are lots of posts on here, but I have put several on that haven't appeared. Please can you sort it?
I will thank the world for coming through this and out the other side unscathed.
Go to my Gym
We do miss brunch so much. It's such a SoCal thing!!! But, there are a couple of places I would like to see as soon as I can, so it's "Book a holiday!"
...and...I want my husband to be able to come with me to chemo, even if it's just until I'm settled in the chair with my headphones.
I want to hug my grandkids and get a mani/pedi!
I miss my grandson so much, missed his 1st birthday while in lockdown, hoping our before September as my granddaughter is due then, feeling very sorry for myself
Massive cuddle to my 2 Sons
Cuddle my 2 Sons
Definitely visit family, I'm missing our granddaughters so much and their mummy and daddy
We're going to have a family and friends BBQ!
The first think I will do is drive to town with a truck bed of donations to the second hand store.
I will go to the dentist and doctor, which have been delayed already over a month due to the virus. Both have written to say stay away. So I am unable to get any medical treatment. And denied my new medication due to them cancelling my appointment.
Really hope The Driven Snow and Lynn - Oldham 65 got my messages as I can't see them on here! Have stated that that haven't appeared. Would hate to think they are lost!
I want to go see my brother who is in memory care at the Villas in Bloomington. It has been shut down - no visitors - but they do not have the virus so that is good. I haven't seen him for weeks. I hope he remembers me.
Adopt a dog.
Adopt a dog.
Missing physical contact; hugging my mum, my children, family members and friends. In saying that, I have been enjoying my own company and may not be too eager to mix with others. Only time will tell!
and hug all my family
Me and my wife canβt wait to have our grandchildren here .
The very first thing I will do is visit my mom, and dad, and just hug them without letting go. Even when I or my siblings come to drop off groceries, I and my siblings have to remember to not hug my mom, and dad. Hugging the people you love was something I, and my loved ones always did. I am always so concerned with telling my mom, and dad to spray the food containers with the bleach solution, and to wash the fruits, and vegetable completely for at least 20 seconds. Then hugs for all of my family, and friends the first time I get to be with them. I even miss the time when you hug 10 people you don't know that occurs in the beginning, and end of the church service's. Now we see what's really important in our lives, Not material things, and not events. Faith family, and friends are my priorities. I am thanking God for all of the things big, and small that we take/took for granted. XoXo
Love the sea, I'm longing to get there and smell it, but if I don't get a haircut first I couldn't see it anyway!!
See my children and grandchildren
Give my grandchildren the biggest hug. It was my oldest grandsons birthday during lock down And it is the first one we have missed but lots of people in the same boat and a lot of people a lot worse off so cant complain
first thing I will do after having a big cheer id phone my riding stables to re make a day to resume my riding -thats the important one for me being an eqestrian
Itβs feb since I had my hair cut and feels awful.mmgood job I got a goodmhairdresser
Immissmmymgrandchikdren very much
Positive Wellbeing, "Oh" I have tried and tried again and again! But I am hitting the thin edge of the wedge, being a carer at 82. years old and all that entails plus my own situation, Arthritis : Ostroaritis and Fibromyalgia, two cancelled assessments prior to lock down, going to A.E. 5.30. AM. after phoning 111. then being told all they could give was a syringe of Morphine which wore of in ten minutes. I lost my concentration to think of doing things for myself in between distraction. I need the outside world to talk too, I mean physically a nice proper conversation, how long is it going to be the older people are going to be kept lock up. Do those in charge of government know what it is doing to fertile mines. Hermes123.
I want to make butter chicken curry with my son