One of the interesting things to come out of recent studies about the experience of cancer patients some time after their treatment was the number of people who felt sufficiently perplexed or depressed about their situation that they needed proper help to recover from their negative or depressed feelings. It is about 25% who need to talk in a serious way or have counselling in order to give vent and expression to all their anxieties and feelings. And 10% need proper counselling and some pills for a while as well.
This applies to men and women; patients and loved ones, regardless of your outlook and position in life. I am sure it applies to non cancer illnesses as well. The hectic round of hospital visiting and appointments is over. People feel that they are meant to feel elated and grateful that their cancer has been successfully treated, but also feel guilty that they do not feel happier. There is a sort of grief for the loss of good health. And people do need time and space to come to terms with their feelings before feeling able to move on properly. It is why organisations like Maggie's Centres and the Dimbleby Centre exist, and there are many other equivalents.
So if you are feeling depressed and down after the treatment, it might be reassuring to know that it is normal, and for a good number of people it is a natural stage in the overall recovery process that we have to go through somehow, often with help from special counsellors.
There are a couple of articles by Peter Harvey under the section 'Coming to Terms with Things' that may be helpful