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Visiting a loved one in a coma

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Following my dad’s fall at the beginning of March, he has been in ICU for two and a half weeks and is now being moved to a ward where we can visit.

What are your experiences of visiting someone in a coma? What kind of things do you do/say? What can I do/say that might be beneficial to him?

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Hey, my son was in a coma for about 11days with a traumatic brain injury, he was in Crete and I was able to spend an hour or 2 each day with him. It wasn't easy for me, I'm not gonna lie to you. Mainly for me though because his injuries were so severe he has many bruises and stitches in his head, it was very traumatic. I remember sitting there talking to him about what was going on in our family, and talking to him as if he was awake. Most of the time I talked with a real lightness in my voice, reassuring him that everything will be ok, even joking about how what trouble he had got himself into. I also cried at times and stared out of the window, and found it really hard to be there as much as I wanted to be there, it's not easy seeing a loved one in a coma....it's not like you see on the TV...it can rip your heart out.. so don't put high expectations on yourself to keep it all together....allow your feelings to flow. It's ok to be upset. I remember telling my son how much I loved him....so many times....I ran out of things to say...and that's ok....just being present with him and mentally sending him love is enough too. Talk about memories you have had together, about things he loves, and your family. Talk about who has been asking about him and what you are all going to do when he is better.

Wishing you all the very best to you and your dad on his recovery.