My brother has been in hospital for over 4 months now and we as a family find it very difficult to see him in this state. I am the main person who rings th hospital every day. My mum is the worst person to explain things to, she gets very upset each time he is agitated and each occasion where she has visited him and he has slept all the time. I am then expected to phone the hospital and I keep saying to her that my calling is not going to change things. Does not help that I also live 180 miles away. It's very hard for me too having to deal with family emotions as well as my own and carry on with my life. On 2 occasions this week when I have been out she has called me crying which in turn upsets me. This disease is horrible and I am now at a stage where I can only cope for so long. How do families deal with all this .