Any gay guys with cancer in their 30s?

[BrianMc]

Between cancer and covid I’m feeling pretty isolated - can anyone relate?

[Hidden]

I'm non-binary and pansexual, but I'm in my 30s and one year post-chemo, and I thought I'd reply since this group is kind of small and not very active. I'm feeling pretty isolated myself in terms of figuring out how to deal with the combination of these experiences.

[BrianMc in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for replying! It’s a weird time in general but even weirded dealing with leukemia. I had to move back in with my parents because I can’t take care of myself by myself. We have a good relationship but it’s confining . I’m worrying about my own unoccupied house, keeping my job, paying the bills, being single and grumpy about it. I miss my friends, I miss doing things, I miss feeling well enough to do things. Can you relate?

[Hidden in reply to BrianMc]

I can relate to a lot of your experience, just from a slightly different perspective on each aspect of it. I had a different cancer, a semi-retired parent moved in with me, I was looking for a job at the time (and unfortunately still am), I'm not single but I hate how much stress cancer has put on our relationship. I definitely remember feeling too unwell to do things, in more different ways than I could have imagined previously. I know people's experiences can be so different, but I'm glad you're here in this community

[BrianMc in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for responding and sharing. Would you be cool if we messaged each other from time to time? I have made a few “cancer friends” but few who are similar in age and none who are queer.

[Hidden in reply to BrianMc]

I think that would be great! I don't really know any other similar-aged queer cancer survivors either.