Why do i feel s**t hate being alone live on my own life is s**t and i don't no how to change it and make it better

[nick_01]

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After my injury I choose to move out parents, to give my self a challenge, and goals. I also life on my own and their's hi's and lows. Genually mostly low when i forget to take my depressant tablets are you on them? talk to the doctor

[nick_01]

No dont think my head injury has affected my brain much no whats going on and everything just can't speak and in a wheelchair and am indipendent

[Hidden in reply to nick_01]

I am indipendent aswell i always want to be alone.. but knowing what you want, what you need and what your brain says.. Do whats needed. I had a severe head injury.. I woke up from a coma abso fine but with alot og bruising and scarches mostly to my face.. Now i dowt i can say ive free, as things do start to creep up, if youve had tbi, its an on-going injury theirs never an end to anything when they start

[Candace8 in reply to nick_01]

i cant speak, well i couldnt at all and i slur and say the wrong words now and its been 2 years and 3 months. i used to tap my trackier scar if people spoke to me as i was so embarressed, im so so so sorry you are feeling low, gosh i remember that and still have bad days now. how long is it since the bruising, i feel that a better thing to call it, it didnt have the injury i did. if you want hope google my name, candace emptage, you may find some help to improve how you feel. iv been in papers about 10 times, tv twice and the radio twice. i really hope i can help, sheer determination thats what it took and loads of pain getting to where iv got x

[NJH11]

Nick, before you can change things you need to consider what 'good' or 'not lonely' would be for you? Do you want to live with someone, for example? Or would this actually drive you mad after a week? Pick either a large goal and then break it down into smaller 'steps' on how to achieve this...or just pick a small goal. When I say 'goal' I mean think about what may help give you more happier moments in your life (I doubt happiness is a constant state for any of us)

There are lots of people on here willing to help you, listen to you, work it out....

Trying to help...sorry if this doesn't help! x

[nick_01 in reply to NJH11]

Thanks for your message and you do help what i want is a girlfriend some 1 can go through life with i no this is a big goal as i am not good looking am in a wheelchair, cant speak dont have friends and dont meet any new people. If by some mirricule i get a girlfriend living alone wouldn't be as painful

[NJH11 in reply to nick_01]

Hello again, this is a good goal to have...ok let's break that down into how you try to achieve this. Again, hope it is helpful?

1) you say that you do not meet new people. Is this through choice? If you can't speak, is it possible for you to use sign language ? It would be a way to openly communicate with lots of people....I don't just mean the deaf either (not that there is anything wrong with this). I can assure you there are lots of people out there (myself included) that are not put off by wheelchairs or the fact that you can't speak.....so do not let that stand in your way.

2) as I said to my husband last night...one thing that makes someone attractive is the fact that they like themselves....or accept who they are. What is unattractive is negativity. Please understand I know how difficult this is and this will not come overnight and unfortunately magic wands are not available...,,,but before someone wants to spend time with you...you need to be comfortable with you too. Is there anyone helping you get out more and meet more social groups. Being happy with you will take time but it will come....believe it.

3) why did you leave college? I think that you said you left? What was difficult? Perhaps pick a new course?

I guess what I am saying is meeting someone that will become you girlfriend isn't going to happen without you taking some actions too.....being in a wheelchair, and not being able to speak has not stopped other people.....

I can tell by your posts that you are down....it must be hard....but you are here and working out what would make you happier is the first step.

Believe!

Really am trying to help so hope it is taken that way.

[Liblob in reply to NJH11]

think I must have put my comment in the wrong box, still getting used to this, what I said was you sound a very special person that has offered some very sound advice to someone that needs the support, well done I wish there were more like you out there