Capacity

[Exhaust]

Thank you everyone who replied to my post regarding health and well being it has been really reassuring . This new life is so unbelievable frightening and sad .

[Lazuli]

Hi Exhaust,

I have no major advice for you but can understand where you are at now. My daughter suffered a TBI following an RTA at the age of 23. Fortunately she let us take over her financial and become involved in her personal affairs following her discharge from rehab. She’s three years on from that now and doing better than expected but still has issues in other respects. Her memory is poor and she’s just been sacked from her third job because of it and employers refusing to make ‘reasonable adjustments’. I do remember those earlier days feeling desperately sad, frightened and alone. I think if you read my earlier posts it will give you some background.

Capacity is such a grey area.

Kindest regards

Lazuli

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It is difficult and scary. My best advice to you is to keep as much of your 'old' life as you can, meet friends, keep in touch with people and look after yourself. It is very easy to get bogged down in the problems , it is good to relax a bit sometimes.

[cat3]

I've tried to imagine myself in your situation, with my own daughter, and simply 'going there' for a couple of minutes feels mind-blowing. I'm sure you're grieving for the girl your daughter once was (on both her & your own behalf) ; my heart aches for you m'love.

With the passage of time, others here have somehow adapted to similarly challenging lives with loved ones and, despite those daily challenges, have gone on to eek out a more settled and fulfilling quality of life. I guess that both the 'here & now' management of caring for a precious daughter whilst still 'bereaved' for what's been lost, must often seem too much to bear. I hope, with more time, that the hurtfulness will ebb away into routine and there'll be more causes to smile.

I wish there were more than words for us to help each other ; all I can say is we're always here and you're among folk who really care and wish they could help. Please coddle yourself now & again, if it's only with small pleasures. See you again soon E. Cat x

[steve55]

sad isnt a word you should be using, not if your trying to support someone with a brain injury.