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How do i get over my fear of people

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Hi Imhisfirecracker,

Thank you for your post in our community. I'm so sorry you are so anxious and living in fear of other people. I do hope that you are getting some help from a medical professional such as a doctor, but, if not, I do urge you to take that step as this is probably quite complex and difficult to deal with on your own, or even with the help of people on this kind of forum. But I wish you all the very best and I hope you can overcome it.

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I am seeing a doctor...i wasnt aware that the one i go to is only the one who gives me medicine and now that you mentioned in your post i need a one that i can have to talked to..ty

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See GP, ask for counselling.

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Ok...after reading some of the post it makes sense that need my doctor to guided me also to a group therapy or one on one therapy..thank you for your input..

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I hope that you get the help you need. It might be worth considering that some people are predominantly loners and therefore not wholly comfortable when they are with people. They learn to cope but are happy to escape. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this - it isn't an illness unless you consider it to be so and it is having an unwanted impact on your life. Loners sometimes have hidden strengths that are denied to more sociable people. Counselling should help you understand and accept yourself just as you are. It should also assist with strategies if you want to make changes.

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Hello and pleased to meet you. So

sorry to hear of your problems. Please seek help from a medical professional and let us know how things go. Xxx

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Thank for replying to my post...it shows u care where i am alone with this...as i have started my journey to getting better..

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Wishing you well xxxx

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Hi there,

Welcome to our community, however, I do wonder if you have come the appropriate forum? I note that you have also joined two other forums including the Anxiety & Depression one. There is also a Shaw Mind mental health forum you may consider. I understand that you are struggling with fear and anxiety, and would suggest that you take your questions to the mental health ones above. This forum is really for people who are carers of loved ones please see 'About' section in the Care in the Community heading: healthunlocked.com/care-com...

I endorse what our members have said to you, that you need to speak to your GP/local doctor about your feelings and situation, and maybe consider asking for a mental health referral to access talking therapies.

Hope this is of help to you.

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse and Moderator

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As i read the post of others i have been given hope and guided to where i was going to find my start as they made me feel better...i thank them...god bless u always

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Might sound a bit trite but I always tell myself that strangers are just friends I haven't met yet.

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If even going to your GP would frighten you, you could make a regular practice of listening to on- line guided meditations around self love and gratitude. This could just break down that barrier. Also a qualified psychotherapist and clinical hypnotherapist could help if you can muster the courage to get there.

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Hi imhisfirecracker

With a name like that it seems that you are, or were someone's firecracker. My wife is an extreme firecracker, and is (usually) a joy to me and all who know her. The problem is that she nosedives sometimes and gets in the kind of pickle that you are in. I know what the medics call it, but I think it's the price that super firecrackers sometimes have to pay. It's tough here sometimes, but it's usually a joy.

Keep your chin up - and wait until the fuse is lit.

In the meantime, I'm sure the Moderator won't mind you talking to us a bit longer. It gives us house-bound PMR/GCA people something else to think about - and we do do a lot of thinking!

Arthur

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Thank you for your kind words...i feel like no matter what a person chooses here on the site that you will feel good no matter who replies to your post...god bless you

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Bless you too Firecracker

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Its a tough one being nervous and in fear of people ,and I must admit I suffered with this kind of anxiety for many years,and I did become very isolated,and I had years of counselling and of course lots of medication,there is no cure,but it is possible to manage this with sheer determination.

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your question is vague on "People".

you need to honestly try to attempt to answer which person or persons in particular,and do a root cause analysis as to why the fear element has crept in.

It cannot be abstract.

it needs a bit of introspection to get into the past and analyse the circumstance you confronted related to the person.if you are serious in resolving it yourself get back to me for further help or else seek help from a professional

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Steady-up rnpath. That's a bit heavy. We are dealing with an amazing Firecracker here. People like that don't usually want to spend time analysing themselves. They just need to wait for the next --- crack of fire!

My lady is a Firecracker. Sometimes she's "right up there on cloud nine" - A joy to be with - Sometimes she crashes and burns, poor Lady. But I tell you this - It's all worth it, my friend.

I know full well what the Medics call it - but I call it "Life".

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How goes it today Firecracker?

My lady sometimes fears meeting people. Yet she is the loveliest person to be with. You would love her if you met her. Isn't that strange?

I still assume that if you are his firecracker, then sometimes you are a magical lady - like mine. If he's a clever boy, he will recognise this. I do hope so.

Anyway - Stay in touch.

Arthur

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That was nicely put...i knw that you make her feel special

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Yes it is magical..for i will share about that when i have more time i just woke up as in hopes of how to get more understand..

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Hi Firecracker

Have you thought of praying and asking God to help you . His Holy Spirit is always with us , if you haven’t accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and saviour. It’s so easy to do . Ask and believe say Jesus I believe you are the one and only true God you died on the cros for me and was raised From the died . Please cleanse me and come change me and take away my sin. Fill me with your spirit and I take hold of your hand now God where ever I go now God , I know you go with me . I’m not Alone your Spirit is with me . Now firecracker if you have prayed this prayer try and get to a church on a Sunday . God says come as you are so don’t worry about what to wear . There will be people there who will pray with you and support you in your walk of recovery .As you learn to trust God you will feel all your fear going away . If you can get to a church you can ask God to help you with this issue.read psalm 23 and psalm 91 . It’s about protection .God loves you and you are important to him !!! I will be praying for you .

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