Thank you all for your very helpful comments. I rang the BLF who told me to ring Age Concern, who told me to ring another number, but unfortunately, my husband was rushed into hospital again last night with pneumonia (blue lights). The attendance allowance idiots told me he doesn't need 24 hour care because he has no confidence that is all and there is no reason why I have to be with him all the time.
If I had listened to them and left him on his own, he would have died.
I am now hospital visiting for the next few days so will have to put all this on hold.