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Quiet Christmas alone or feel up to joining family and friends (Either is fine by the way)
I am going to family, and while I am glad for that, I still feel SO alone since my Sig. Other passed last Nov., and my Mom passed two years before him! They (my Sig. Other, and my Mom) were My Anchors that I could count on & they on me. I went to these family members that I am invited to Christmas, went to them for Thanksgiving this year, and felt Alone tho. among 17 people (just knew a few of the people there as were friends there, too, that I had never met before). Everyone was in couples, & had their children & grandchildren (Mike & I had no children), but I missed Mike SO much --Family left are not that close. Not saying that I don't appreciate that I still have fam. left, just missing the one's I Dearly loved & felt the Most cared for & comfortable with!
Hello Weatherwoman
Really sad for you x
Yes, I'm sure you appreciate those around you but I also know it's just not the same sadly. Celebrations like this are just another difficulty we face and it hurts like mad.
I hope you can somehow try to use this as a celebration of his life. We're always here for you x
Your feelings resonate with so many of us here, you are not alone.
Sending love and support
Chloe<3
thank you, chloe40 as your understanding & support are needed. I don't even mention His name to family as they just don't want to hear how I feel, and are probably tired of my tears, and fears, etc. Actually, I don't say much to them, and for reasons that I have stated & more. So, HU posts are a place where I can say how I feel, and where I, and others going through similar losses can get support.
Thank you Weatherwoman
We are always here to support you 🤗
Anytime x
I appreciate that SO much as that way I don't feel So Alone!
I`ll be at home Christmas day with my family usually meet up with friends on boxing day for a few beers and game of pool.
I went to my brother’s, but I didn’t really want to go as Christmas isn’t the same without my mum. I told him I wouldn’t be going, but he wouldn’t hear of it, so I ended up going. I wanted to have a quiet day at home on my own, but he had other plans for me. It was OK, but not actually what I wanted. Please don’t judge me, as I appreciate I’m lucky to have somewhere to go for Christmas, and I should be grateful, but there are several complex reasons why Christmas Day celebrations just don’t interest me anymore.
Hi Ladybird25
Welcome!
We never judge anyone, this is always a safe space for those on grief.
I’m sorry about your Mum, losing a Mum is always difficult.
I think your brother just wanted to include you but appreciate you had your own plans for yourself and that’s frustrating for you. You may need to have a talk with him after this holiday break to avoid future Christmas invitations if that is what you’d prefer. It’s okay to do your own thing or do nothing x
Take care of yourself
Chloe
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