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My mum then my brother.
Really sorry to read this Will2015abc
I do hope that if you feel you need bereavement counselling, you will ask you GP/Dr for a referral or look online for Home Bereavement visiting <3
Chloe x
sorry to hear that could never imagine the pain.hopefully you had good support network around you.god bless.
Thanks so much chloe40 and kenster1. I was in bereavement counseling for my mum when my brother died so it was a bit of a tough one having to “ reboot” the counseling. Very complex emotions I’m getting there. It’s been 10months now since my brother but still seems surreal.
Thinking of everyone bereaved. 🙏❤️
It must be Will2015abc
Grief can be very surreal indeed,x
Chloe
yeah my mum and my friend died within two weeks.
We we're faced with one loss, we never imagine there will be another so soon, do we Kenny? kenster1
Chloe x
me and two friends one night sitting having a few beers my phone goes its my friends brother and told me that there granny had just died but I wasn't to tell my friend but I was to make sure he was sober enough about two hours later my phone goes again and its my friends brother to tell me the grannies sister passed away as well.my friends brother said tell him only if you think he is sober enough and he was it was the hardest thing that ive ever had to tell someone.
That was something only the closest of friends could do Kenny and he trusted you to do that ! Chloe x
yeah just writing that takes me back just seeing his face turn red and swelling up with tears me and him joined school the first day and spent every day in each others class from primary and through high school.im two weeks older than him and our mums where friends and hung out when both where pregnant.
I have had a bunch between 2009 and today. My mom died ten years ago (cancer).
I lost my grandmother (cancer) in April 2017 and her son, my uncle, died in a car crash in November that same year. My dad in July 2018 (I don't know the cause. Not close to each other.) Then my mother-in-law (stroke) in January 2019. We were extremely close.
Back in 2015, I lost one aunt on a Saturday, her twin sister the Monday after that and then their brother (my grandfather) died two months later. All three died from age related circumstances. (They have one surviving brother who is still alive today. I couldn't imagine 3 losses of siblings that close together. He is the last surviving child.)
This sounds so inadequate No1wthayla but words can't express how sorry I am. How do you or anyone cope with such a huge amount of grief ? I really hope you've had support for yourself during this time. We're always here for you, drop in often x
Chloe
Thank you for your kind words, chloe40.
I joined this group because I needed support. My sisters are dragging my uncle's estate through the courts. It's still going on. Both are mad at me for being listed as the only heir. They don't want to be left out so they are contesting the will.
I have my daughter and her friends when I need someone to talk to. I don't see a therapist because I don't like to talk about myself. (Typing about myself is totally different. LOL.) I was already one meds for depression, anxiety, fibromyalgia and a million other things so I didn't want more medication. I guess I internalize most of the grief and use writing as a way to express my feelings.
I grieve in many different ways. But I have found that happy memories of my lost family and remembering their love. It's hard to lose anyone. Two in a year was bad. But when my mother-in-law died, I was broken for months. I couldn't stop crying the day of her remembrance ceremony. She was loved by so many and she treated me like her own daughter. Her son and I are getting divorced and for the last 4 years haven't lived together. So I was really surprised that she was so close to me. I miss my mom and her the most. No, scratch that. I miss all of them.
This website has been the most helpful thing in my life since I joined. I feel better just knowing support is available from people who are going through the same thing.
I'm so sorry, at a time you need peace you're having to cope with so much distress {{{hugs}}}
Writing is very therapeutic, so keep it up and you can always write posts in our forum, you'd be very welcome by our wonderful members.
Chloe x
I lost my Mum and if it counts my dog of 15 years straight after my Mum's funeral. I had to deal with it all on my own - was with my Mum during her death and did all the funeral arrangements . Had no support from my sister as she went on holiday knowing my Mum was end of life, and we unfortunately are not close. How I did it I will never know as I've no family.
Yes unfortunately. I went most of my life not loosing anyone that I was super close to. To loosing a lot of people within 2 years. My Dad Oct 2016, my cousin August 2017, husbands best friend August 2017, stepbrother March 2018. It was very difficult to say the least.
Thank you Lperica10
You've certainly been through it {{{hugs}}} I really hope you are managing okay at the moment.
I just amazed that so many members have had multiple losses in a short space of time.
Chloe x
Yes it is so hard and yet somehow we get through it.
Yes thank you for asking I am actually really really good. We just had our first baby 9-24-19 (after many many years of infertility). 💙
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