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I sit an write this with acute sadness in my heart for my 8yr old son passed away on June 12th from a severe asthma attack.Jordons asthma had always been chronic but this was like no other attack he had before there simply was no warning no wheeze nothing. Its very hard to no what to say to you all . Anyone out there who feels they can offer support would be much appreciated. Sharron.

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Nothing I can say will take away the sadness you are experiencing, and I cannot begin to imagine how you are feeling, all I will say is that my thoughts are with you at this sad time xxx


No words can express what you are going through, it's every parents worst nightmare. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.


With love xxx

I just don't know what to say, as words don't seem to say enough, my heart goes out to you.Some attacks there just isn't a chance because airways close so tightly so quickly no treatment can get in.

My 10 year old Son has brittle asthma type 2, so can be perfectly well but has very severe attacks without wheeze. He goes under within minutes and needs massive amounts of medication to survive each attack. I've always known each attack could be his last and dive to his side at every attack if possible. I've now got brittle asthma and my Son has talked through his feelings about his condition as he feels he can share them now.It's heartbreaking and there is not much support out there as asthma is seen as a mild condition which we know is not always the case.So sorry if I've said the wrong things, I've just come out of hospital and am a bit out of it but wanted to reply to you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you

Kate x



I am so sorry to hear of your loss my heart goes out to you and your family at this tragic time.

I can only partly understand your loss(my younger sister died suddenly) and i have seenthe impact it had on my Mum, i certainly dont know how i would cope if it was one of my children.

I have often seen your posts about Jordan and felt what a brave young boy -he is no longer struggling and can now breathe easy.

all my love hugs and prayers



Hello Sharron,

I am so sorry for your loss.

My Love, prayers and sympathy are with you at this time.

I have lost friends but not a family member, it is hard to loose friends but I can't imagin what it is like to loose a child.

Bernadette's Mum who posts here is a person who may be able to help.



PS AUK are going to set up something for people who have lost family etc to asthma - please contact them to see how they are getting on

PPS Thank you for being open and posting here at such a dificult time XXXX


Dear Sharron,

I am so sad to read this. I have sent you a pm,

Claire xx


Hi Sharron,

I am so sorry to read about your loss.

My thoughts and prayers and sympathy are with you at this very sad time.


Dearest Sharon

I just wanted to say you have touched my heart and are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry for you loss.

Kindest regards xxx


Dear Sharron,

Like the others here my heart absolutely goes out to you. It is every parent's worst nightmare. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am sending you a PM.

Love and best wishes



sorry for your loss,

my heart goes out to you and hope you have lots of

support on here and your family.

lots of love to you at your devastating time ,

love Glynis xxxx


Words fail me....except to say how truly sorry I am to hear about Jordan.

I will be keeping you in my thoughts and hoping that among the pain and sadness

you can one day find some peace in your memories of him


Dear Sharron,

What can I say? What can anyone say? Words are not enough, will never be enough. I have read your posts about Jordan and it was clear that you are a kind, loving Mother who did the best she could. I will be thinking of both you and Jordan, of your entire family, at this time.

When we have passed the tests we are sent to Earth to learn, we are allowed to graduate. We are allowed to shed our body, which imprisons our souls …

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.

Death is simply a shedding of the physical body like the butterfly shedding its cocoon. It is a transition to a higher state of consciousness where you continue to perceive, to understand, to laugh, and to be able to grow.

The above are quotes by the hospice pioneer Elisabeth Kubler-Ross who defined the 5 stages of grief that we all go through.

Elisabeth has written a book with David Kessler called 'On Grief and Grieving - Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss' which, at a time when you are ready, I urge you to read as I know that it has helped a great many people, myself included, at this time. Her 'Life Lessons' book, in time, may also help you.

Elisabeth also set up a foundation which which tries to help parents whose have lost their children called the Kindness Project which is now part of a larger organisation designed for grieving parents.

Thinking of Jordan, thinking of you and your family,




I would just like to add my sincere sympathy to the loss of your son. I had some pretty severe attacks as a child and spent a lot of time in hospital but I knew what was happening to me wasn't mine or anyone else's fault. It just doesn't make sense that some of us have this illness and to varying degrees than other people, but your son will have known the very best was done for him and that you loved and cared for him very deeply. Try and take that and the precious time you had together with you as your memory of him and of course we are all here for you if you want to talk further.


Dear Sharron,

I was so sorry to hear about you very sad loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I have also P.M.'d you. Having lost my daughter to Asthma I kinda know how you are feeling and I just want to say I'm here if you need to talk. Love, LIZ x


thinking of you



I just dont know what to say.......

Words fail me at this devastating time.

Sending you and your family all the love and hugs in the world.

A reminder just how awful this condition is.


I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. This simply breaks my heart.


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My heart goes out to you and your family. My prayers are with you too. If i can help in anyway please let me know hun. I can't imagine how this has hit you.Hmmmm........



Im so so sorry for your loss

My thoughts are with you and your family xx


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