Given the current situation I was wondering, probably a bit morbidly, if anyone had a conversation with their loved ones about treatment and outcome if they came down with Coronavirus.
I ask cos my 24 year old son and I had a conversation last night about it so he knows my wishes about any treatment I may or may not have. Also, if I was in hospital don’t come near me.
His reply was well if you get it you prob won’t make it, very true, also that’s not really fair Mum I may not be able to choose your nursing home!
I’m very grateful we could have this conversation that way we both know what to expect and he knows where my will and other paperwork is.
Love and hugs
J
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I told my bro to check out ventilators on Amazon and make sure he had a good foot pump for a backup,failing that a stepson who will blow the lot on dodgy motors and a rather fat cat are going to think they have suddenly won the lottery.
I thought Scruffs was just of a large build,not fat?
no one to discuss with for me, I've not made a will, but I need to but no one to witness signatures now. I don't think I will survive if I get it any way. But I'm thinking I should do a do not resuscitate since I don't really want to live with further damaged lungs in a nursing home not having any quality of life.
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Stay in the house babe and let nobody in. You can’t catch it from your own air.
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I'm not talking about fear. Also not known as babe
I am still going to enjoy my garden and walks out with appropriate distancing.
And I will still have to deal with post, deliveries (if they happen) shared access to property etc.
None of us will have full proof isolation, but it will certainly help stop the rapid spread of the virus.
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I’m sorry if I offended you. I think that you mis read and mis interpreted my response to you. Just trying to be supportive and bring a little chuckle into our lives. Never mind.
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No offense taken, but I didn't think my comment was amusing nor your reply really, but hey we are all in this together just experiencing things in different ways and have different views on things.
I did the same . Either of my two daughters can legally represent me now. If I do get the virus I would not want to be put on a ventilator. Had pneumonia whilst in surgery 4 years ago after a fall broke my hip and I had to sign a DNR form as it was a high risk operation which I came through fine.
Oh yes. Our younger daughter works in a hospice and has always been good at talking about the tough stuff. Some of which I touched on in my last post (that phrase in itself has a kind of poignant, Remembrance Day, resonance, doesn’t it?). If it get this bug and it kills me it will be hard to be in hospital surrounded by strangers in spacesuits so I try to make sure (at a two metre distance, of course) that my family/friend relationships are as loving and fun as they can be.
Putting everything in order, cleaning drawers and sorting papers. My kids aware of my vulnerability and liklihood of death if I contract covid.
Wills accessible and funeral wishes drawn up. It will be stressful enough for family if I go before my time so I want to make the administration as painless as possible!
Oh you lovely people, it all sounds so sad to be accepting our fate so easily.
I’ve typed out a piece of paper with my name, blood group, diseases, meds etc on it. I couldn’t bear the irony of asthma killing me because nobody gave me my inhaler. Strange how the mind works
I have list typed up for paramedics with health issues, meds name, dose, hospital number, doctors name, address, telephone number. Last time I had the parmedics out they said this was very helpful. Of course next of kin can be included as well, weather known, last known location / address. It saves them a lot of time and deciding what is needed.
Thank you. Some on here will cause unnecessary anxiety to some members with all this negative and morbid attitude. . I have survived 10yrs with Severe COPD through my Positivity. We need Hope not Doom and Gloom. X💕💕😷
We don’t need anxiety we already have that from the media let’s plan god willing on wh to do today and the future wh we can achieve in isolation carry on with hobbies that we have forgotten about
Thats the attitude to get us thro this. I never watch the adverts for funerals,Equity release, wills etc .I switch channels immediately . Take care sending Welsh cwtches (hugs) xxSheila 💕👍🙌🥰
Yeah, I paid for my funeral this week! Well, I'm following David Bowie's lead so not a funeral as such but it will save my son wondering what to do with me! That said, I plan on being immortal! 😁
I find facing the issue and doing the planning enables me to have less stress, rather than more, I know this may not be to everyone's taste. I am lucky I did most off the planning after my husband's death, so little to think about now. Also may be the fact I have neither children or grandchildren may make me more sanguine about future possibilities. I have joined the Disney channel for a daily giggle.
I think facing any issues makes for less stress, you must feel better knowing everything is sorted, so sorry to hear of the loss your husband. Enjoy the Disney channel x
My daughter has lasting power of attorney for me which specifies my wishes and gives her the authority to instruct those caring for me. We should all have this.
Hi Jude I totally agree we all need to do this. I had the conversation years ago with my family and my doctor. I have an Advanced Decision (or Living Will) which my eldest son and my GP’s surgery have a copies of. It is a great relief for me that everyone knows what I want.
For those who would like to complete an Advanced Decision go to compassion in dying website where you can download it for free. Barbs x
Thank you Barbs yes it does give peace of mind, then you can forget it knowing everything is in place and get on with life.
J X
Yes Judes all discussed and sorted with sons a long time ago. Wills and Powers of attorney in place too. We have always been open about the inevitability of death and actions associated with serious illness. My sons will think all their birthdays have come at once so the longer I can prolong their agony the better 😂😂
Dear All
I find reading your responses quite sobering. I know that anything could happen at the present, and we all need to be careful but let’s try to keep a realistic sense of acceptance. It is good to be prepared ( whatever that means to each of us) but also let’s acknowledge that wherever we are in terms of health, family and comfort, is good, being alive is good. And if it is time to go then it may also be good.
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