Anyone have a spouse that’s in denial or think the child will just miraculously grow out of this?
Denial?: Anyone have a spouse that’s in... - CHADD's ADHD Pare...
Denial?
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Yup. Check my profile - I wrote a post on this some time ago and people wrote some great comments!
Oh yes! My son’s biological father does not believe ADHD actually exists. He thinks it’s all just bad parenting and bad teachers. Which is ironic because he’s one of the parents! He has 50/50 custody. Also, our two other son’s had no issues and were patented by us.
Kinda crazy. Finally after about 10 years, my son asked to try medication because he wanted help. His father basically just ignores that there is a problem. Won’t discuss it. It has really put a huge distance between my son and him. They’re like strangers now.
Oh my son is 14 now. Kinda rambling here but denial - definitely!
Yes! Though he’s slowly coming around. My husband has some pretty big anxiety issues, especially in regards to the kids. So I always have to work around that first.
The neurologist seemed to indicate it’s oretty normal for one parent to be more resistant.
Common complaint. Interestingly, it is usually the father rather than the mother who is in denial.
I have this too. Some days my husband seems how our son literally can not help his behavior and other days “he knows better” and just wants to punish him. It’s exhausting
Thanks all. I see it in my hubby too. Hopefully he will come around.
Yup. Hubs on board now, but I drove the diagnosis train. I remember saying when she was barely 3 that something was wrong in her brain. Shes now11, and boy do I wish I knew then what I know now.
I work with many parents who have children with disabilities and a major part of my job is working with them to help them learn to accept their children for who they are. I am not sure I would the best word to use is "denial".
Each person is on a different journey to accept their child has a disability and fathers deal with having a child with a disability differently than a mother. Remember they do not give birth to the child, it is a different process for them. They bond differently with the child because they have to "create" this relationship with the child.
Everyone timeline is different to learn to accept their child and whatever issue they have. It is not for anyone to judge when a parent accepts/understand their child and they when they are able to love/accept their child with the issues they have.
Parent's always feel responsible for giving birth to a child who has a disability.
I hope this gives you some perspective on how some parents are not quick to accept their child for who they are.
Good luck
Well said. Thank you.
