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[stuartc]

So does anyone have any experiences they wish to share that could help out others that maybe in the same position!?

[Hidden]

I though my life was over when I found out I was +, 6 years later I'm still around. My biggest challenge was/is to build a relationship. It has knocked my confidence all the way down.

[stuartc in reply to Hidden]

That's great to hear that it hasn't got the better of you! How did you find the confidence when your first got told, to now? Confidence is one big thing that takes a lot of time to build back up especially, when something like this happens. But trust me, with the right people and the right answers, you will get that confidence back to normal! Have you spoken to the Terrence Higgins trust?

[Hidden in reply to stuartc]

I'm a fighter. Taking one day at a time helped too. All my life been dealing myself with my problems, not easy to open to people. Never tried talking to anyone about it. Not sure if they could tell me anything I didn't know yet...

[stuartc in reply to Hidden]

Its surprising what little things people can help with and know about. I'm always just a click away if you ever need any comfort. I know hard it can be.

[Hidden]

Thank you. You're very kind. So far I'm coping OK. Just my emotional side plays up. Think I've reach the time I'd like to settle down and this seems to be impossible.

[stuartc in reply to Hidden]

if you don't mind me asking, how does your emotional side play up? Do you feel anxious, upset?

Don't rush trying to settle down, let it come to you. If you feel you can trust someone and you tell them and they seem a bit off about it, then they are clearly not right for you. HIV is still a very naïve subject for a lot of people and if you sit them down and explain what you are going through, treatment wise, I'm sure they will understand. trust me when i say don't rush into something. Thing happen for a reason and the right person will come along.

[Hidden]

At 37 yo and 9 years of being single I don't think I'm rushing anywhere. It would be just nice to have someone to share life with. Feeling a bit lonely, need some closeness of another person. Been through different different situation some I caused myself, some happened without my consent. A bit of comfort wouldn't go a miss.

[stuartc]

Comfort can be seeked from those closest to you! Whether that's friends and family. They are the best in this situation. Along with those at your doctors and your local clinic. They are there at your disposal for a reason. Best advice I ever got from them.