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What's your experience with dating (and romance) since your HIV diagnosis? Select all that apply

SimoneHU profile imageSimoneHUHealthUnlocked58 Voters
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I would rather date another person living with HIV
25
I am looking for a longterm partner
17
I stopped dating altogether
16
I am looking for romance
14
I felt rejected using usual dating channels
8
Other (please comment below)
7
I still date as much as I used to
3
I ended a long term relationship
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247sweet

Probably like everyone. I've had a range of experiences. Been and felt rejected. Had people gossip about my status. Some people were understanding, some people weren't. But luckily I met the man of my dreams and I've never been happier

in reply to247sweet

Good for you am still looking with little hope though

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247sweet in reply to

Well stay positive Kimmy and who knows. Anything could happen!!

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pitorro1

I have been in two long term relationships. I'm still on my second one and it's going on five years this August god willing. My partner is negative and very supporting of my status. I take my meds see my doctor and stay healthy, no drugs, safe healthy sex.

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CribleyAz

RI am in a 13 year realationship and we are both HIV +.

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colefc

I don't know how much more I can take, I was diagnosed June 2015 been on meds an undetectable now, the fear of judgement stigma is the thing that has the most effect, being afraid of being Single forever hiding away like a person stuck in a circle, yet as each day goes by the circle gets smaller and smaller, the hope of meeting somebody to fall in love Again to be happy I feel like I've lost it all an im so so scared to tell people so I have no sex life I don't date I hide away feel like I'm falling deeper and deeper cos I'm scared of people's judgement an scared of being alone, I seriously don't know how many more days I can take before this circle/world becomes too small to live in

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Ijeoma20 in reply tocolefc

U don't have to my dear, HIV is not a death sentence, you can have someone to love you despite ur status, am positive too but am in Nigeria.

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Dorsetguy01

Don't give up no matter how difficult it seems, think about others worse of or in war zone, when u get a reality check things prob aren't that bad, help yourself to make it better, go and join club do things and be with people. Things seem worse when ur alone anyway. Make the effort and do it, you maybe surprised by people as they are more understanding than you imagine.

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vitvit

I had been in relationships for 8 years before I knew I'm positive and my partner didn't leave me alone. More than that we got married.

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Ijeoma20 in reply tovitvit

Am happy for you, mine end the relationship as soon as I disclose.

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BeachLover63

I'm in my third Serodiscordant relationship and this time we got married after 4 years of being together. Safe sex can be the best sex if both partners are into it and drugs are not clouding the bedroom.

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Don't forget...

If you are on treatment, have been undetectable of over six months, take all your medication as you should all the time. You CANNOT pass on HIV.

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Johncameron

I only found the love of my life after being diagnosed. I cannot regret being HIV when this has been the result.

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Survivor83

July 11, 2015 I married my HIV+ partner that I met in 2000. I was diagnosed in 1983 and dated three people between 1983 and 2000 when I met my spouse. Two of them were also positive and one negative. It was easier dating someone who was also positive for me.

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