I’m worn out with the AF journey

[YNWA68]

I throw the towel in!! 🤦🏼‍♀️

[kenster1]

Hi your doing great has something happened that has you down... have you got a sponsor maybe give them a call.

[YNWA68 in reply to kenster1]

No I don’t have a sponsor only this group. Yes I had a negative trigger which I just can’t cope with. I also look at my friends who just don’t give a shit about anything and wonder why am I bothering?

[kenster1 in reply to YNWA68]

maybe you can concentrate on yourself and put those friendships on the back burner for a period sorry to hear about the triggers are you able to speak with any family members that can help as well as here.

[YNWA68 in reply to kenster1]

🤦🏼‍♀️

[purpleash in reply to kenster1]

I agree. I would be dropping so called friends or family who weren’t interested in helping me.

[HeavyFoot in reply to YNWA68]

Live for yourself, not like your friends.

[Jampacked]

Get help GP or AA or smart. You have told this group your fears that you are falling off the wagon. I think this means deep down you want to stay on the wagon. The voice of addiction is saying ' look at your friends ' . It doesn't matter what your friends are doing, it matters what you are doing. I think the end of January is a trigger. I feel wobbly but head down let's do this. Climb back aboard the wagon.

[FatOldMan]

You posted on here some time ago asking why do we not remember how shit we are when we are drinking. Please try to remember that and remember what prompted you to make that comment. I had a wobble earlier this month and I was feeling exactly the same way but it did pass and I am so glad that I stuck with it.

Hang on there, you know that you can do it.

All the best and good luck.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador]

Try to get it through your mind that you are only staying sober one day at a time. Drink tomorrow. I’ve been using that tool for 45 years now. Guess what? Tomorrow hasn’t come yet.

Get yourself a sponsor.

[DicCarlson]

"You most likely will surrounded by people who are used to being accommodating or passive. At first, they feel threatened by you asserting your boundaries. This is OK. And in time they will get used to it. Just like in time you'll get used to understanding, that when people act like assholes when you say now, isn't about you. It's about them.”

― Holly Whitaker, Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol

FYI - excellent book!

[YNWA68]

Thanks for everyone’s support and such wonderful words of wisdom. It’s very much appreciated. I’ve fallen off the wagon hard and I will get back on very soon and you’ll all be the first to know. I’m down but as always I’ll get back up AGAIN!

[Elemis]

One day at a time...slowly but surely you can do it!

[SoberDrunk1]

If you are an alcoholic there is very little these meaures will help. This segment from the Big book summarasizes what we need:

If, when you honestly want to, you find you cannot quit entirely (obsession of the mind), or if when drinking , you have little control over the amount you take (you have an allergy and drink more than originally planned), you are probably alcoholic. If that be the case, you may be suffering from an illness which only a spiritual experience will conquer.

Yes, this is a battle and only a spiritual experience can defeat it. It starts with acceptance that alcohol does not help us anymore and that we need to find a way that can help us handle our emotions in a sane way.

[Jimbo92]

Today is tough for me. Last weekend of dry jan and the cravings and boredom are hitting hard

[SoberDrunk1 in reply to Jimbo92]

It is a tough position to be in. See if you can attend a meeting or atleast read the book AA. There is very little others can do once the obsession of the mind takes over. Good Luck.

[Jampacked]

Can you plan something for this upcoming weekend? I booked a cheap travel lodge and went walking and visiting some historic sites this weekend as I was wobbling. I drank alot of AF lager. You might not be able to do this or it might not be your thing. Plan non alcoholic treats get every second of Friday night/ Saturday planned. Chocolate, AF drinks on tap. Cold swimming, book club, hike, voluntary wildlife conservation, Park run, gym, walk an old persons dog, Open university do loads of free courses so sign up ( you seem brainy you might need a brain stretch). Go to an AA meeting virtual or real ( better than going back to binge drinking). Plan 5 days of healthy dinners and batch cook them..... anything plan.

[purpleash]

some excellent ideas there.