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Re: My son home on leave...

This is my last post to all you lovely people on this forum...

 Just to kindly reiterate to you all, from my previous post..because I've not been to let you know (until now) the outcome of whether I should/shouldn't tell my son, of my recent diagnosis...

I've had the upmost support from all of you (thank you, from the bottom of my heart) but...during his stay at home, he talked about his itinerary for this year. He is going to Germany, then Poland, after that..he has an interview for selection, of the SAS. This is what he has always wanted to do.

It took a lot out of me, whilst my son was home, but I pulled all the stops out for him. He knew I'de had previous chest infections so I just put it down to that, when he got concerned. I really don't want to worry him, more so with his ongoing ambitions. Emotionally it would kill him.

 Therefore, until I see the respiratory consultant in May, I'm not prepared to worry him unduly, or not at all, for that matter. I would rather keep it to myself 😁..

Anyway everyone..I do hope you all keep well.

Massive, massive, thanks.. to all of you wonderful people on here!!!!! 

Look after one another and I'll be in touch, when I can.....

Lots of love and care to you all, Bye, Bye.... 👋👋👋👋👋👋💖

Lynne x 🌹 x 

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How very proud you must be of your son Lynne, I was diagnosed with mild Copd last September and I made the decision not to tell my grown up children, like you I did not want to worry them. There will probably be a time in the future when I will have to tell them. For me personally I feel the decision was right. Take care Lynne x

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Thank you so much esther333 for your reply. 

It makes me feel so much better knowing, I'm not on my own within my discission.

I admire your thoughtfulness and your honesty. We all know it's not easy in these circumstances.

I..just like yourself, will personally pick the right time to discuss my health with my son. But until then, I don't see the point in worrying him.

Yes, I'm immensely proud of my son, I've brought him up single handedly. And he's a credit to me and his father.

Thanks for your kind words, and when you finally do tell your 'grown ups' be proud yourself, for having been so strong, in doing so....

Take care too..

Lynne x 🌹 y

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I understand, and send good wishes to you. You are a mother and will do anything to keep anything upsetting away from your Son. Of course the decision is in your hands, and you do right to wait until you have some more concrete information. He sounds a great chap with his future mapping out hopefully the way he wants and that must make you feel so proud.

Very best to you and your family Lynne.

xx

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Sorry I don't understand why you won't tell  your son about your illness. I am sure he would be able to cope with what ever you tell him. We don't have secrets In our family my children know all about my illnesses. I lost my mum to cancer 4 years ago and I would have been devastated if my mum and dad had kept her illness a secret. My son was away In America when his dad died 3 years ago but he did know his dad was not well before he left. Hope you find the courage to tell your son soon take care.

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You must do whatever is right for you, Lynne.

Good luck and be happy

Tee x

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Hello and Goodbye Lynne, 😉 sorry you won't be posting again.Your Son is a fine looking man and I completely understand why you didn't want to burst his bubble, it's a very exciting time for him and you are enjoying his happiness too! Good luck with your appointment in May I hope it goes well, perhaps you'll let us know how you got on.Good luck to your handsome son, I hope all of his dreams come true, huff xxx

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Sad to hear you'll be away from the site for a while but you must do what you think is best. Take care.

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The only person to make this decision is you! Whatever you decide is right, my sons both found out when I ended up in hospital so I didn't have to decide. The only thing I will say is keep in touch, don't disappear just because you have made your decision, you can still contribute for the good of all.

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Why should this be your last post???

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I think you are a very kind and caring mother.  One that is prepared to put her sons happiness and wellbeing before herself.   Write a letter to him telling him why you didn't tell him about your illness sooner ,then put it away somewhere where he can find it if need be.  I do wish you would stay in touch with us on this site,  there maybe times when you may need a little bit of moral support.   You must be so very proud of him.

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Hello Lynn,  I am sorry you are leaving. I don't really understand why you feel you have to leave. It is your decision though, take care and hope all goes well in the future. X

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Hope to hear from you again at some point in the future, best wishes to you, take care. xx

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Dear Spiritual, I am completely confused as to why you want to leave the forum. Or what it has to do with whether or not to tell your son?

This forum is about so much more than our health conditions. I don't understand why you don't want to talk to us any more?

Your contributions will be much missed you know. There may be people who read but don't post who have been helped by you.

Best Wishes whatever you decide :) 

AzureSky and George.

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Hello Lynne, don't know if you will read this or not, but I am sure you have made the best choice. I hope your son reaches his goal . Every best wish to you for a good outcome to managing your recent diagnosis. I understand your choice my son was in Iraq  when my husband got bad health news, we kept it from him till the very endx

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I too am confused as to why you feel the need to leave the group Spiritual?  Of course it's your choice and I respect that, but are we missing something?  Take care & I hope you come back soon xx

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Thank you for your kind reply Dedalus. I have very personal reasons for this...

But I should have said in my original post...that it was my last post for NOW...and I need to deal with what is ahead of me, on a personal level..

Thank you for your reply. Much appreciated.

Lynne x 🌹 x 

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Hi Lynne. Please tell your son about your disease. If my mum wouldnt tell me i would be very upset. I would always think that i could help with lots of things and this would make me feel bad till the end of my life. Now maybe u feel lost and lonely but belive me if you dont leave this forum and tell your son about your disease you ll not feel so lonely. This is such a good forum, people help to each other. 

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Thank you very much Mendy for your kind reply. 

I'm in a very difficult situation at the moment, purely because for the first time in my life, I have to reavaluate everything.

I've never had to do this before..I brought my son up single handedly.. (I know lots of other mother's have done also)

But my one and only son, saw me struggling through all this.  

I cannot and will not.. put him through any undue worry..whilst he pursues his career and his own pathway in life.

I don't want my son influenced, by worrying about his Mum. 

I will always put my son first!

Thanks for your kind words.

Lynne x 🌹 x 

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