Sitting at the kitchen table

[EricJones]

So i'm sitting at the kitchen table with a bunch of people and it makes me very uncomfortable. i'm afraid that they will all see that i am nervous and that i'm paying attention to them. and that they'll all figure it out together that im the weird one out, the odd man out. and they'll do things with their body language to show discomfort. What do I do?

[Dolphin14]

Hi Eric

This is a bit like the scenario from the other day. What are they doing right now?

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[EricJones in reply to Dolphin14]

i went upstairs because i couldn't handle it, but they were crocheting, or watching something on their phones...the situation has to do with me and the fact that i'm the one focusing on their movements and their typing...and my head keeps moving back and forth

[Dolphin14 in reply to EricJones]

Maybe the best think to do is for you to stay busy. Then you won't be able to freely look around the room. Just a thought

So if you look at your computer screen you aren't watching their every move

[EricJones in reply to Dolphin14]

i can see their movements...my computer screen doesnt take up my whole field of vision, i can see past the computer.

[Dolphin14 in reply to EricJones]

Can you position yourself somehow so that you don't have to see all of them

[EricJones in reply to Dolphin14]

i'm just trying to find a way that works

[Dolphin14 in reply to EricJones]

I know

I'm just throwing out ideas and hoping we can find something to try

[Agora1]

Eric, I have found that smiling at people can break tension between both

you and others. xx

[EricJones in reply to Agora1]

thats not a practical thing to do in this situation i am in....we are all being to ourselves

[Agora1 in reply to EricJones]

Not practical ?? When could smiling and saying "How you doing guys" not

be good? It would break the ice. xx

[EricJones in reply to Agora1]

its weird when you know all the staff and residents and see them on a regular basis...maybe once in the morning and once when they leave would be acceptable

[Sillysausage234]

what’s the others doing ,probably looking at stuff themselves on their devices not even concerned about you being weird or what you’re looking at stand up stretch have a walk outside….break the cycle of your current thought process

[Teaching]

Hi Eric, They are actually not watching you. Relax.

[EricJones in reply to Teaching]

okay