I haven't written a post in some time. I always want to be uplifting when I do. In earlier posts, I mentioned my concern for my daughter. My cancer returned after three years and a couple of months after that, hers returned after thirteen years. I have been more concerned for her than myself. There is no evidence of decease for me, but I'm sorry to say, I lost my daughter. It should have been the other way around. I almost feel guilty. I'm a believer and feel God has a plan for both of us and that we will be together again. For now, I really miss her.
All of you gals our fighters. Stay strong. We all do what we can.
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Thank you so much. People have been so supportive and wonderful. Even though my daughter was a grown independent woman, I still called her my "baby girl".
I can honestly say I know how you feel and what you're going through. I lost both my kids, a son and a daughter. One to cancer; the other to a massive heart attack. I don't know how long it's been for you, but the sadness will ease; however, it will never go away. Please never feel guilty about your daughter going before you. It doesn't feel right, but God has his reasons. I too look forward to when I will meet up with them again in heaven. I am blessed that I have three grandchildren from them and it's amazing to watch them grow up, reminding me so much of my own kids. God bless and keep you. Elaine
So sorry for your loss. It has just been a month. It just doesn't feel real. I told her once that she didn't belong to me. She said "what do you mean that I don't belong to you". I said she was loaned to be for a number of years, but that she was a child of God. She seemed to like that. With that in mind, I am able to give thanks for the time that was given to me. I also have three beautiful grandchildren.
Thank you for you sweet thoughts. Life wasn't meant to be easy.
Oh my gosh, one month makes me cry for you. I'm so happy you have those grandchildren, and I am so sorry for their loss too. How old was your daughter, and how old are your grandchildren?
Grandchildren are off to college. My daughter's first diagnosis was when she was 37, passed at 51. Her prayer was to be able to raise her son. She did. He's 18 and on scholarship at Texas A & M. Because of Covit., he had to come home and spent everyday with her for four months. Very precious time.
Something good came out of covit. Hard to keep them close when they're off at college, but do your best anyway. They will be of comfort to you and so much joy in the years to come. When I start feeling bad about my loss, I think of my grandchildren and their loss. Mine begins to pale at the thought. Anyway, take care of yourself. We're here for a reason, if nothing else but to support and cheer those grandchildren on!! And, I thank my son and daughter everyday for giving me the gift of our grandchildren.
Sending love and condolences at this very difficult time . I am sorry for your grandson too to have lost his mother so young and I am glad he had the pandemic time at home with her ... indeed precious time , and I wish him well as he starts college . Much love to you , your grandchildren and family x
I am sorry to hear you went thru this Elaine. You will be reunited with your children in heaven one day. Sometimes things don't make sense, but I like to believe it will eventually make sense to us. Faith
AuntMildred. Oh how sorry I am for your loss and the loss for your grandchildren. 51 is so young. News like this makes me hate this dreaded disease even more (if that’s possible). I will keep your family in my prayers.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I’m sure the range of emotions that you are feeling and working through must be immense. I’m glad your own beliefs can give you comfort. Take care and keep in touch.
My deepest condolences on your daughters passing. I don’t know why life is so hard, I don’t know how we get through these devastating events, but you will. And her children will connect with their mother through you. I wish you strength and peace. In time. God bless you with many years of wonderful times with your grandchildren
I am so sorry for your loss. No words of comfort will be able to heal the pain of losing a loved one. But I offer my prayers that you may find peace of mind. We can never know God’s plan and just have to follow His will.
I am so sorry! Your children always remain your babies forever, no matter where they are. I’m glad your grandson got to spend so much time with his mother, he must really miss her too. I’m glad he still has you.
I feel so empathetic with you. My daughter was 38 in 2016 when she had breast cancer (at the same time that I had my recurrence). I could have thought of a million things to do together other than that! Thank the Lord above, she is fine and my 13 tumors have disappeared. I will think of you two often. God bless you and give you strength.
I told her many times that I would trade places with her. I wish both of you continued good health.
Sorry for your loss, 51 is no age at all. I am glad that your daughter was able to spend some precious time with her 18 year old son, I'm sure he will be grateful for that time to on reflection. Take care xx
I am so sorry, I can't imagine your sadness at such a loss. But you are right, there is a plan and a reason for your life to continue, just open your heart and mind and that plan will be realised.
When I was spared for 26 years I knew it was my duty to others less fortunate , to live life to the full. Now I can be accepting, whilst fighting too. Take care. X
Dear Mildred,
I am truly sorry to hear of your daughter's recent death. It is heartbreaking to lose a loved one. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Life is difficult sometimes. And how does one celebrate good news in the face of losing your daughter. So glad you have good memories to comfort you. I hope you have family and friends to help you along the way.
My heart is broken 💔 to learn of the loss of your daughter. Know that she is at peace and not in pain. She is in her glory surrounded by love. 🙏 and blessings to you and your family. Hugs, Hannah
It is heartbreaking to lose a child. Thankfully you are there for your grandson. My daughter is 40 with two children, ages 1 and 4, and a diagnosis of denovo stage 4 breast cancer. We don’t know if she will live 2 years or be that one to live many more. I feel your pain and I too, believe there is some divine plan that we are not privy too. May your daughter’s memory be for a blessing (as my rabbi says).
So sorry about your daughter. It is a roller coaster ride. As a mother, I always want to fix it - a new pill, supplement, test study, etc. I hated that there was nothing I could do. My wishes for you is that they find something that works for her and that you find peace.
Thank you for that. And yes where is that magic wand when you need one?! You are wonderful to give hope and good wishes to me in the midst of your pain. Cancer robs us of so much.
I am so sorry to read this post about the loss of your beloved daughter. I remember from your last post that she was in a great deal of pain. I am a believer, too, and I trust that your daughter is pain-free in the arms of her Heavenly Father. Please know how much all of us share your grief. None of us, even without disease, knows what lies ahead or what "plan" for our lives has been scripted. You are in my heart and prayers!
I am so sorry for your loss. But like you, I also have strong faith, and believe that we will be reunited with our loved ones. We cannot understand God's ways but if we have faith, we just know that God is in charge and has his reasons for why certain things happen, and that although we may not understand them, it is our faith that carries us through the darkest times here on earth. We always miss our loved ones here on earth, but we can take comfort in knowing that they are in a wonderful place and are no longer in pain and that in reality, life on earth is like a blink in the eye to what lies ahead for us and is promised to us. I am glad your faith is strong enough to get you through this. Without my strong faith, I would find this life to be so hard to get through. Hugs.
Thanks so much for your encouragement. It would be impossible for me to deal with, if I thought this is all there is. We are all here for a short time. Hugs back.
It is so dreadful for you and I am so sorry at your loss. I hope the deep pain that you feel now will lesson with time and your breatiful memories of her will push away some of the pain and you will find some peace.
Oh AuntMildred! I am heartbroken reading your post. A tragedy almost impossible to bear. I am sending you my heartfelt condolences and all my love for strength.
oh my gosh. I'm just so sorry for you loss. I can't imagine. and just want to say my heart sunk when I read this..."I lost my daughter" is just one of the worst sentences to ever say. from one mama to another -- Im heartbroken for you. And from one believer to another -- Jesus come back and make, 'all things right'.
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