Our country has just entered the 3rd phase and is yet to practise a complete lockdown... I am soooooo angry and sad that my father isn't yet serious about this... and is still continuing to go to work.. he is in the banking sector but employees are allowed to stay at home .. but he has a low immunity and my mom has hypertension.. aren't they comorbidities? Leaving this aside what about the health of others? I have tried showing him the facts and figures.. I have also told him to stay home for my family's and others' sake.. I even showed him videos.. he says that everything will be fine... why??? I feel so ashamed to post this and am sorry on his behalf for such behaviour.. 😭 I just want to find something that will make him stay home..
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How do I make my boomer father stay home?
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Have you showed him this forum and what will happen if he or your Mum get poorly. I really feel for you with this. Take care and stay safe. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx
Hi Ivy_chan5 ,
Is your dad on medication? Did he get told that he ‘is essential’ to be at his job?
For me personally, I have to stay home because I’m Diabetic with a few other health conditions. I’m also not an essential employee at my job.
He isn't on medication but needs to get himself checked frequently. He isn't told that he is essential as far as I know. Thank you so much and please take care. 😊
Thank you for that. I’m here at my house and babysit my Nephew and Niece during the weekdays and do reading and go on HU (and other sites). Are you okay?
I am trying my best.. thank you
We know you are. If you want to talk about anything, please let us know anytime!😀👍
Yes, I will. Thank you so much. 😊
You’re welcome! 😀👍
Hide his work clothes and his shoes...if being reasonable does not work, be unreasonable...?
Why is it that patents don't listen when children talk sense. You may find by now that the Bank has sent everyone home - certainly hope so.
I am of similar age. There is a situation which is going to last a year. I may be wrong. He needs to handle his mental health constructively in order to survive the crisis.
You say: "he is in the banking sector". He could be a key worker and responsible for handling the management of information essential to keep the bank running. What is important is for him to be able to do his job without coming in close contact with other people. He needs to work in an office that has been sterilised with a germicidal light.
Consider him wearing latex gloves which he can change often.
You say: "he says that everything will be fine." That is a good mental attitude. Although I suspect he probably knows that things are bad. The old have lived their life and death has less dread than someone who is younger. The priorities of an older person is different than that of someone younger.
Talk to him about keeping about two metres away from people when talking. This includes yourself.
Support him in his decision to continue working. Help him with keeping social distance. Buy the gloves for him. So he has the box to take with him to work.
We are not in a single week of isolation which you can just grit your teeth and weather it. You are talking probably a year of this with issues of how to avoid bad mental health from lack of purpose and lack of self worth.
We are in unknown with no knowledge on what is the best course of action.
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High blood pressure can be a problem with this virus. The problem is few people believe that many more people are infected than are diagnosed, so they have a problem about making wise decisions, in London yesterday we had our first hospital that had to suspend admissions to Critical Care for a time, as full, so soon people will have to be made to be sensible.
Yes.🥺 Take care. 🥺
My husband is 77. He works part time making phone calls for Statistics Canada. He was determined to keep on going to work, putting not only himself but me at risk. All that prevented this was his workplace deciding first of all that the interviewers could be set up with laptops to work at home and then, finally, that anyone 70 or over would not be required to work, and would receive pay for the shifts they'd been scheduled for.
Workplaces have a role to play in this. They simply must find ways for their workers to remain safe, including their travel between work and home, and if this cannot be guaranteed (it can't) then they must shut down, in some cases keeping only a few essential workers if total shutdown is not possible.
Government has a role to play in this. Governments must step up to support workers and businesses, especially smaller businesses which operate on the edge anyway, so that when this pandemic has run its course there is emplyment for people to return to, and in the meantime no one has lost their home and has been able to eat and maintain their utilities.
So it's a shared responsibility. Unless individuals, workplaces and governments all take responsibility things will get more and more dire.
MidoriVisually impaired
Short of chaining him down, you don't have a lot of hope. He is being irresponsible.
If he won't put his family first, then threatening to change the locks and lock him out might bring him around.
So many folk are still in denial about this Virus.
Cheers, Midori
Hello all. Almost all transportation services have stopped from today. My dad cannot travel to his office now. He is also considering now how dangerous this virus is as he read about it from the news agency he trusts.
Does he have to have a flu jab each year? Those who have are warned to self isolate or certainly socially distance themselves
No, he doesn't. He has other health problems and hence a low immunity. I understand. 😊
Oh poo, I was thinking it would give you another lever to use against him!! Good luck x
😊 Thank you
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