Ignore me

[Guilane]

I’m sorry, ignore my previous post. How ungrateful I am. X

[Lyndy2]

Your feelings are your feelings…it’s important that we can say what we actually mean here. ❤️

[Guilane in reply to Lyndy2]

Thank you lovely supportive Lyndy. X

[doodoolatrice]

You're not being ungrateful, you needed to get it off your chest. Big hugs xx

[Guilane in reply to doodoolatrice]

Thank you. 🤗 to you too. And, do you know, it’s actually helped.

[Doglover1410]

not ungrateful at all, just not the right time. We all get it here so rant away xx

[Katmal-UK]

Not ungrateful at all! If you need to whinge and we all need to let off steam from time to time or go mad then here is prob the best place, with those who understand exactly what you are going thru. Your sister is there for you but unless you have a cancer diagnosis ppl don’t truly understand. I know I didn’t until my diagnosis. Never apologise, we are hear for the good and bad times. Sending you a big hug, Kathy xx

[Bananasmoothie]

My mum wanted me to go through all the details of my (very standard) debulking surgery even though she has absolutely no anatomical or medical knowledge. She tried to insist even when I said I'd rather not as I found it really upsetting. I asked her what difference it would make for me to give a blow by blow account and she said "well none, I just want to know"!!!

She's usually very caring and I love her lots, but really!

You're not alone. Don't beat yourself up. The forum is here to be used exactly as you have done. Sharing (venting!) here makes us all feel less alone, & perhaps allows us to deal better with insensitivity in our daily lives. Sending a big hug x

[Lampadusa]

Hi there!See what you're feeling, but you're emotions are always valid ,and there's always value in expressing them ,wherever you are in the journey we're all on.Just cause some of us are less lucky, and like myself are not brac 2 ,and don't respond to being on a parp inhibitor, doesn't mean your distress isn't valid.I can recall saying to a lady i met who was understandably distressed about her recurrence, that i would give anything for a year free of treatment, but i quickly realized how insensitive and selfish i was to say that ,while she was dealing with her distress. Had i had my chemo free year ,clearly I would have been so ipset too at a recurrence. We are all dealing with our own journey and emotions and expressing them is so important. As for family and pressure from loved ones, we all have that in common too,and understand it's because they care, but adds to our stress having to explain our care before we've even processed it ourselves. Hope your feeling a little better now and that your new treatment plan goes well!,X

[Guilane in reply to Lampadusa]

Thank you dear friends, yes I do feel better reading your messages of support and encouragement and it did make a lot of difference being able to voice my frustrations to people who understand. What awful rubbish we are all going through here. Oh well, it’s another day now and I have a leaking roof. Drip, drip. (different kind to the one I’ve got used to!). That’s given me something else to think about! Love you all. Big hugs. Gill X

[Realistic]

Don't be sorry about anything, l didnt actually see your last post but sometimes we need to give vent to things . We've all been in the same boat at times on here. So we all truly understand, you've got to have what we all have to truly understand how we feel.So lm sending big hugs & ❤ love SheilaFxxx

[SopSinger]

You're entitled to need a whinge from time to time. Glad you felt able to vent here. Sending hugs!

[Guilane in reply to SopSinger]

Right back at ya. 🤗

[TxEm]

🥰 You're worth being heard out. Everything you had to say was completely valid. IT helps the rest of us to know others have the same feelings!

Don't gaslight yourself You are not ungrateful at all. Totally human, and I like you that way. 🥰

[Guilane in reply to TxEm]

Thank you. What a lovely thing to say. It really helps 🤗 X

[AuntyOrange]

Oh Gill. Definitely not ungrateful. We all have our down times and this is the place to express that without any judgement. We know it will pass & you'll feel ok again but even if you don't, we're all still here for each other. Sending love & hugs xxxx

[Guilane in reply to AuntyOrange]

Thank you Aunty ( I like that). I am feeling better today, due in a very large part to the positive support I have received from all of you lovely girls. No more whinging, for now. 😂Many hugs and love. Gill X

[delia2]

How are you ungrateful? Your feelings are totally reasonable and your sister’s response was self-centered, based on her need to feel okay. I think you might feel better being more open about how you feel whether people like it or not. On the other hand I’m from the US and I know there are cultural differences. There are many lists out there of “what not to say to a cancer patient.” The lists exist because it’s such a common issue. Anyway I hope you’ll feel better once you start treatment. Xx