23 no friends, no job and never been in a relationship.

[Cris1994]

I don't know what to do with my life. I'm 23 I have no friends no job, never been in a relationship. I also suffer from severe social anxiety. I just feel so depressed I wanna go to college make my mom proud. I wanna have a social life. I'm just really bad at making friends thanks to my anxiety. I can't talk to anyone without my face turning red and I also sweat when I get nervous. All i do is just stay home. I've been on medication but I just don't feel like it helps at all. And to top everything I'm gay and it scares me to think of me coming out.

[CJ2016]

I Would say take it a step at a time, if you wish to go to college then apply maybe it will give you a bit of confidence.

In regards to having no friends no relationship etc, one stone has a ripple effect, going to college you will come across new people.

There may even be people who have the same social anixety as your self.

If you want to go to college do it for your self,do not worry about pleasing anyone else,you will just stress your self out more.

And your gay...

its only an issue if you make it one, it is 2017 being gay,bisexual,pansexual,asexual,androsexual or any other sexual should not be an issue, if anyone else has a problem with your sexual orientation that is their own problem not yours.

Coming out may also take away some of the stress you are feeling, if people around you truly love you they wont judge you by the gender that you love, as it really should never be an issue.

Be true to yourself, love who you love, and live how you want to live,

[spzgirl51]

Hello Cris1994

Social anxiety is crippling. I have a son of 24 with severe social anxiety. He has struggled to leave the house since he was in year 7 at school?

So I understand how isolating it is? despite all the pain he managed to complete school and he is finishing a degree course this year? It has taken him much longer than normal, but its nearly completed.

So my plea to you is to be kind to yourself , take one day at a time and don't rush, try and plan how to best limit the down days?

My son helped himself after years of isolation by volunteering to work in oxfam a couple of half days week? It seemed to really boost his self confidence and gave him contact with people other than family.

It is tough going but possible? Stay strong, give yourself a big pat on the back you are worth it.

It is scary to be seen as different and people can be unthinking and cruel?

I have a disability and was called a spaz all through my childhood so i understand it's hard being marked out as different But the people who mattered were kind and supportive?

The world has many idiot bullies in it ; but being gay is a normal part of life??

If anyone dislikes your sexuality it is them who are shallow and sad and not worth bothering about? Stand tall with your head up

Good luck and best wishes for a happier future xx

[Cris1994 in reply to spzgirl51]

Thanks you so much!