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Ive been with my bf for 5 1/2 years and i have a 4 year old daughter. Im in love with someone else and im finding it hard to break up with my bf. He really doesnt care about me and how i feel. I even asked him last night does he think im his soul mate and he just paused. Feeling so shit.

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WantToChange

The thing I have learned about relationships is that they are only good for a while. In my personal experience, the man always seems to get irritated with me. I tend to exasperate people. My point here is although you love someone else, will the relationship be any better than the one you have now? You will have the honeymoon period for sure, but will you end the same as you are now with your current bf? Love bites, it really does.

What I would suggest here is that you think about your daughter. How are things affecting her?

And also, the term soulmate is very deep and I have never used it even though I have been in love. Do you think he loves you?

Does the other man love you?

I can understand you feeling shit. Relationships are so messed up nowadays. I wish I could be like my parents. But in today's world I think I'm losing faith in that kind of love and support.

It's a difficult one. .. I would say, for about 1 month if possible, don't contact this other person at all, really make an effort with your current relationship and then see how you feel x Take care x

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Sasha9

Louise,

You said it yourself, he doesnt really care about you or how you feel! If you are in love with someone else then leave your current boyfriend and be with the person your heart screams for. Why waste time being with someone you dont trully desire when you have the option of being with someone you trully love, want to be with? I have been in your position on a number of occasions and it sucks. It almost seems impossible to walk right? What i have learnt is that you must not put them first but put yourself first because there comes a point where you need to be selfish in life and think about yourself and yourself only! Brave it girl, You got this.

Sasha x

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Suzie40

So you don't like him, and he doesn't like you, yet you're finding it hard to split up? Life is too confusing for me sometimes!

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