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Erectile Dysfunction

Too embarressed to talk about this with even my closest friends. Had this for a while and getting me down, feel sexually frustrated, inadequate and not feeling like a proper man and my sex life is almost zero. Spoke to my GP earlier and has prescribed Viagra. Said it's often a psycholgoical thing that after a while maybe a few months will sort itself out. having blood tests to check testosterone levels soon. Hope this is helpful to anyone going through a similar thing.

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xsevenx

I highly recommend tadalafil (Cialis). It stays in your system much longer than viagra. This means you are always ready to perform and don’t need to worry about when to take it - which can be a problem with viagra.

in reply toxsevenx

Yeah read about that, thanks. See how it goes with the Viagra. You can buy stuff online but I'm a bit wary like fake designer clothes! Just gagging at the minute so any relief will do.

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xsevenx in reply to

I would be wary buying on line. I know many do, but there is a risk you are not getting a safe product.

in reply toxsevenx

Yeah, going to stick to GP or a pharmacy/chemist. Cheers.

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MagicStick

I had the same thing, stress is a big cause.. or depression.. it is all mental. Sometimes you know something is not right inside but you want to physically prove your a man but your brain is not having it because you don't fully feel relaxed, comfortable or you have put too much pressure on your own self to perform..

the worst thing that causes this is looking at porn etc.. if you take viagra you will start depending on it.. I did that too - I took it when I was about to sleep with a hot girl but always relied on it and its not good.. best thing to do is find yourself a girlfriend first then take things slowly, she will respect you for taking it slowly too - sets you apart from most guys and gradually you become more relaxed, less stressed, more comfortable and you get real attraction for her.. usually this is also an attraction thing - a girl in my past was visually so attractive but as a person I was not attracted to her sexually even though I told myself I was and wanted to be, just something was off with her - she acted like a slag, was a cold person, always made me jealous and all her friends were slags too so deep down I had a lot of pressure to prove I was a man, to perform and was comparing myself to porn stars who can shag all night - i got blood tests too and everything was normal, it actually is all mental - trust me

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MagicStick

Once I got a girlfriend we took things very slowly and gradually I became more sexually active and eventually everything became normal.. you have to realise also that as you get older, not all people get random boners, in fact this usually stops the older you get.. I always thought I was supposed to get random boners and also thought that I was supposed to be able to get hard the moment I choose to.. but thats not true at all. well done for talking about this, millions of men are in your same situation but its a taboo subject because most men are too embarrassed to talk about their problems unlike women

Thanks for that. Appreciate your honestly and open to talk about it. GP asked if I had morning erections. I said only if my bladder is full as it puts pressure on your prostate. I'll give the Viagra a go, it's not the real solution but at least I will be able to perform.

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hayrisdnet

I think my problem was AFIB and stress. Getting better since AFIB is getting better. Suggest getting heart test (ekg)

in reply tohayrisdnet

Getting a check up soon, on mild beta-blockers so worried about taking meds. Had the Sildenafil delivered from my pharmacy earlier, give it try later.

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xsevenx in reply to

Beta blockers can have an effect on sexual function. Have you noticed the problem has got worse since taking them?

in reply toxsevenx

Yeah, can't get a full erection so useless for penetration although that's not everything. Just quick fix wanks, over in no time, just a bit of relief. Just want a proper sex experience.

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heywardjr54

I take tadalafil daily at 10mg because I have prostate issues and low testosterone. When I was 32 I discovered I had testicular cancer in my left one. I had to have Cobalt-60 XRAY treatment to kill stray cancer cells. Well, this was back in 1983 and they did not quite protect my other testicle and it got damaged a bit so that it barely produced testosterone. It took me years to figure out this problem and I had ED too. I finally found a Urologist who prescribed me Testosterone gel that I rub on my upper arm muscles and back every morning. My ED gets addressed by the Tadalafil and the beard and sex feelings get addressed by the testosterone gel. All is good now. Nothing to be ashamed of. I suggest you might have low testosterone and should be checked to get it fixed. It's quite common and men suffer going untreated. Please go see a Urologist. I highly recommend tadalafil as I have tried a bunch of others and I have zero side effects and I can get a boner any time I need one and even get a random one every once in awhile and I'm 67....so that alone makes me feel good and makes me feel like a man, too. Sometimes we guys need proof we're men and can get a boner! Right?? 😃

in reply toheywardjr54

Wow, love your honesty and interesting to hear your story and good things are ok now. Sounds like you've has a tough time. Yeah getting a blood test soon and one is to check testosterone levels. Has to be done early in the morning for a proper result apparently as that when levels are highest if they are normal. I'm going to ask for tadalafil as viagra doesn't seem to work. Apart from wanting sex I agree it is a man thing like you say. Thanks for the message. 😜

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Sure. It wasn't so hard to go through but I guess at the time when I was in my late 30's it was scary a bit. You know, everyone has problems and it's how you deal with things and mentally adjust. You just do what you have to. So, yeah go with 10mg of tadalafil will work fine but you can go higher to 15 and still be fine. The urologist started me out on 5mg but it wasn't working as well but 10mg was the trick. The normal Testosterone range for an adult male is between 300 to 850. I began testosterone gel and started at 1 pump of the gel on each arm in the morning but that only raised my numbers to 300. I also have to take Oxycodone as I had spinal fusion surgery in 2019 and still have pain. The Oxy "eats" the testosterone so one day I had a reading of ZERO. So, they increased my testosterone pumps to 2 on each arm. I now have 825 readings and after that I was finally able to grow a small beard and mustache. Prior to that I had a clear mustache/beard hair that barely grew. I had to shave about once a week or even wait 2 weeks. So, I knew the numbers were low as my sex drive was terrible. Now everything is fine and I feel great and everything works as designed for the first time since high school and I'm 67! Yeah, it's been tough time figuring this out so I hope you can get there. You have to be your own advocate. Let me know how you do. Cheers. I encourage every guy to have your testosterone checked these days. Because of various factors, a lot of men and teen boys have been having low testosterone numbers. If too low, like below 100 (100 is normal for females), you have to get treatment as it affects your bones and muscle development, beard production, muscle growth, mental attitude and emotions, etc. It's not something to ignore at all and nothing to be afraid of or embarrassed. Cheers.

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Thanks for all the tips and info. Reminds me of being a schoolboy and getting 'bum fluff' mustache, scared me at the time and got told off for using my Dad razor. Luckily I still can grow facial hair but I do think my testosterone is lower than it should be. Hopefully blood results will confirm. I just don't feel like a real man at the minute and getting me down. Good to have support on here and chatting with you and others. 👍

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what exactly do you determine as 'a real man', what is portrayed by your beta mates over a pint or when in a group or what is portrayed online?its all bullsh!t

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No I mean feeling masculine and what goes with it. I know I hate that mob blokes thing like a herd, half of then hiding their true sexuality.

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MagicStick in reply to

but what is "feeling masculine" can you define your answer so its easier to understand, you mean like wearing a suit and having a beard? (the stereotype)

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You're questioning my comments too much. I mean I like being a man without the stereotype thing. Having sexual urges or sex drive which is what most of us men have. Just the sexual thing with your genitalia and what turns you on and who you are attracted to. My ED makes me feel inadequate, don't want to procreate or anything just have fun, simple as that.

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TheHounding

I tried Viagra and it didn't work, I had to have a public consultation with a High Street pharmacist, it was super embarrassing.

The GP wasn't particularly helpful and blamed the pandemic on causing me stress. I stumbled across this on Yahoo! last week it's been super helpful.

Good luck and I hope that it helps you too.

well.co.uk/pharmacy-service...

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xsevenx in reply toTheHounding

I witnessed a high street pharmacy consultation regarding viagra. Every person in the queue learned the poor man’s intimate details. Very unprofessional. And uncomfortable for the man and all of us in the queue.

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alinamorgan

According to men’s performance, everyone understands that they have a sexual issue. But if they are ignoring or feeling embarrassed, their partner should tell them. But the nature of every man is different. So we should talk to them according to their nature. We know millions of men are embarrassed to talk to a physician. But no worry, they can contact an online drugstore and acquire the healthcare plan. There are a variety of ED products that make the person happy. But before purchasing any ED medicines they should know important information, bit.ly/3P7oo0v

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