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This may seem a bit wired .

I was wondering if anyone can give advice on how I can make some new friends .

I've never been very good at socialising. Since I was diagnosed , the people from skl I thought were my friend really aren't . So I was wondering how I might go about making friends and how to tell if they are true friends

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Penelope-Mary

Loulamb..friends are not easy to find! Don't fret!

I'm no expert, I am one of those noisy on the outside, painfully shy on the inside types.

I warm to smiley, friendly peeps who laugh and listen.

If you give as you would like to receive then chances are like minded peeps will want to be around you, as you would be with them.

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Hi LouLamb ,

I've found quite a good webpage with advice for making good friends which may be of interest - helpguide.org/articles/rela...

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MrsMouseSJ

Hi LouLamb. I think it's a tough one. I've been in Scotland for 17 years now and whilst I've made many friends here over the years the majority of these friendships have withered as my health has deteriorated and I can no longer get out and about reliably. Nearly all of my very close friends are from my childhood and teens and live in the south of the country or in Europe. I rely on email, Skype and good old-fashioned letters to keep in touch mainly; as quite a few of them have chronic conditions themselves or a partner or someone in the family with a chronic condition they understand. But I would like to know more people geographically close to me. I've been wondering about joining a local support group to try to meet people without the difficulties of having to explain why I am like I am. Unfortunately, for me, the nearest group is a way a way (I live out in the sticks). So my husband and I are thinking of going along to our local carers' network (just a few miles away) and seeing if that might bear fruit. As to how to tell whether people are true friends, only time tells that I think. Wishing you well :)

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friars126

Hi LouLamb,

I've been thinking along similar lines myself in the last week. Are you well enough to start a new hobby? I've often been put-off because i'm shy but I have also learnt that I can't make new friends if I don't do anything to meet new people! I'm considering amateur dramatics, dance classes, voluntary work or pilates etc to get myself back out in the world a bit when I can :) xx

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