Feeling down and a bit tearful but trying to get a job now....

[fibrogirl41]

Hi i know i shouldnt moan because i have improved since my diagnosis and can walk better, but i have a lot of pressure on me to get a job which really gets to me sometimes i know im capable of working as im only 43, but i just worry about getting a job i have been trying to type my cv up and things, im a bit tearful writing this i know my parents mean well but sometimes i feel i wont be successful. Sorry for ranting i just wanted to write it down ❤️😭😊

[CheetieCat]

Sometimes I think we just have to jump in and try it, overthinking and worrying endlessly about all the possible outcomes does us no good.

My advice would be to try a relief post or sessional work rather than taking on a fixed hours contract. Lets you get your feet wet without the pressure of a full swim ( so to speak )

If you cope with that then start thinking how many hours you could realistically manage a day, a week, a month, what shift patterns, rest days would work best for you etc .

Break everything down into smaller more manageable chunks, looking too far in front is too much, it overwhelms you!

Take it step by step, write it down, ✓ it off when you've done it.

Take your control back! Good Luck 🍀

[Sparklingsunshine]

What about some voluntary work to start with, far less pressure and lets you test the water so to speak. A lot of employers look favourably on people who've done voluntary jobs.

[sunnysanie]

Hi there,there's pressure all day every day isint there🤦I feel a pressure to get up some days and get washed and dressed even though no one else even knows that I have and I end up back in bed fully clothed anyway 😮🤦sounds like your parents mean well because that's what we are brought up to do,be productive,work hard for rewards,stand up tall and say look at me i contribute!👍👯but......chronic pain takes that from us👎motivation is gone except to get through the day sometimes,some try to understand but it's difficult if they have no experience🤔we stress and feel useless and lose a purpose which to some can be work coz what would you do with all that time otherwise?if your like me you can easily lie in the couch staring into space for a day or two or three😓so.....I decided to do a market stall one Sunday to help my friend get rid of loft junk and then I remembered I can talk to anyone about anything and I ended up selling some bits n feeling good,for sure I was exhausted and jaw sore from yapping but fast forward a couple of months and I have my own little stall selling my things,hand made and new,both days at the weekend,sure it knackers me on different scales,Saturday evening I can have tears in my eyes and when I wake on a Sunday I've thought no way I can do this and then been like yet I feel okay this morning,let's get to it👍then I need Monday to recover👎but even tho it hurts etc I feel more focused and determined than I have since I was a full time worker,so just wait till I make some money lol 😮

I was your age when everything in my life fell apart,I'm 50 now so don't wait so long to stop staring into space,think on your skills and what you can do and want to do,not what is expected to be normal😋all the best🤗🌞

[Yassytina FMA UK Volunteer]

Some lovely replies from everyone who can relate too how you are feeling , sit down with your parents and explain you are doing your best and although they mean well pressuring you is not helping you move forward , sending hugs and try not too worry too much ,some kind advice here xx

[fibrogirl41 in reply to Yassytina]

Thankyou, the pressure was getting to me and stressed me a bit yesterday, and i got a headache, it made me feel tearful and like i was lazy, its not like i dont want to work either x thankyou for your kind repkt x

[Yassytina FMA UK Volunteer in reply to fibrogirl41]

We all need someone too listen , last week I was still getting over yet another Winter viral bug and it all got too much I was tearful and low ☹️ and this time of year dosent help I think (more bugs flying around with Central heating on ) I txted my friend and she’s always there for me, just reaching out , I do little treats for her now and then as she’s my Little Rock . People really need too work in our shoes , they might understand abit more xx

[fibrogirl41 in reply to Yassytina]

Thankyou, it made me stressed and i felt hot and weird this morning so trying not to worry too much x 😊