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Loss at 20 weeks πŸ’”

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Our 20 week scan brought the terrible news that our baby has died. We are heartbroken.

Our baby had Down Syndrome. It comes with an increased risk of miscarriage/stillbirth, but our fetal heart scan hadn't picked up anything serious and we were really hopeful it was going to be ok.

I am going to have a mini labour induced on Sunday.

I have no idea when we will feel ready to try again. We have one embryo frozen from our first NHS go, I suppose we will potentially do an FET before a fresh cycle. Unless they suggest doing a fresh cycle and picking from the embryos.

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Greenleaves1

I'm sorry to hear this, I hope you are doing OK under the circumstances xx

I'm so sorry to hear your devastating loss. I hope you get through this difficult time. My friend went through something similar. x

oh I’m so sorry PineappleCrumble

This is utterly heartbreaking. I hope you have support from your partner, close family and friends during this sad and difficult time. Take time to grieve after and I will be thinking of you.

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Solly-44

I am so so sorry, my heart hurts for you. Sending you the biggest hug x

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COAGMS

I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you have lots of support during this dreadful time. Sending you a massive virtual hug xxx

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Leii9

I am so sorry for your loss, sending virtual hugs xxx

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CarlottaD27

I'm am so sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. 20 weeks must feel like such a long time to love a little being then have it taken away from you. Wishing you the best for the future x

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Skittles11

I am so sorry to see this news, it is heartbreaking. Try and be gentle with yourselves and give yourselves time to process. Thinking of you x x

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SimplyAnna

I am so sorry. My heart goes to you. Sending hugsxx

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jinis

I'm so so sorry, my heart breaks for you. I hope you are still be able to be kind to yourself admist the grief. Thinking of you xxx

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butterfliez

I am ever so sorry to hear this news it is heartbreaking. it must be such a shock. please take care, sending you so much strength. life can be so cruel. I hope you have good support care around you for the next steps. xx

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CardiGrey

I’m so so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your family. Sending hugs and prayers xx

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Elmo13

I’m truly sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you. Wishing you strength and love. Xx

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WillowPark

PineappleCrumble, I'm so so sorry. ❀️

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Aquaharmony

Very sorry to hear this I hope you have the support you need and that you are able to take some time to process everything. Sending hugs x

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Laurapax

devastated for you - sending so much love ❀️

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Apricottree

So very sorry for your loss. Sending love xxx

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Eggfreezer2015

Sending big hugs to you, very sorry to hear your sad news xx

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lulubelly1983

I’m so sorry to hear this such devastating news thinking of you & please give yourself lots of rest and time although you’ll never fully heal I realise x

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MiniMe23

I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. Sending love and strength as you navigate through such a difficult time x

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Rjfguitfg

I am so utterly sorry to read this. I hope your loved ones hold you close during the toughest of the storm you are weathering. I had a loss at 21 weeks a year and a half ago. The pain will never go away but it will ease as time passes. I am always here if you need someone to talk to. I will keep you and your family in my heart.

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Dragonkid

I’m so sorry for your loss. Did they do genetic testing for the embryo before they transferred? I am also currently pregnant by FET we had the genetic testing done prior.

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PineappleCrumble in reply to Dragonkid

No, it's NHS funded, no PGT.

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Sparklylife

I am so sorry for your loss, that is just heartbreaking. Sending you a big hug 🧑

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Jwatsonx

im so sorry darling, thinking of you and your family, take care ❀️

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Twiglet2

I am so so sorry πŸ˜₯ sending you love and strength for Sunday and beyond πŸ’”πŸ€ xx

What devastating news. I’m so sorry xxx

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Pintu88

I’m so sorry to read this, absolutely heartbreaking. Sending you all my love xx

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Iloveevie

I'm so very sorry to read this. Life can be shit! Hope you have a good support system to lean on during this hard time xx

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Anjalichaudhary

I' m so sorry for your loss. Its really heart broken.

So sorry you are having to go through this. Sending you and your partner much strength, well wishes and hope. Wish you all the best and more for when you are ready to go again. Its so hard but try and be kind to yourselves and look after you x

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Glaedy

I am so sorry, sending you virtual hugs and lots of strength

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Batsford

I’m so sorry for your loss PineappleCrumble. There are no words. I hope you are being well looked after. Take care xxx

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CharlieJ1988

I am so so sorry for your loss, utterly heartbreaking! Please take good care of yourself xxx

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Ola01

so sorry for your loss.

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PenguinBlue

I’m so sorry, that is absolutely heartbreaking πŸ’”

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SarahMEndo

just sending my love! That must be heartbreaking πŸ’”β€οΈ

If you are allowed more rounds on the NHS I would collect/ make as many embryos as possible. (We were only allowed one round).

Lots of hugs!

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PineappleCrumble in reply to SarahMEndo

We are allowed 2 fresh cycles and up to 2 frozen. But I believe it's basically you have to do it in the order Fresh - Frozen - Fresh - Frozen. Thankfully we have an embryo left over from our first round so we do get a frozen go. x

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Darcy1996

oh my goodness, words fail me, this seems so cruel and I’m so very sorry. Sending you all the best for Sunday & your recovery πŸ’œ

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EatPrayLive

I am so sorry to hear this.. Strength to you ❀️❀️

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alma88

I’m so sorry for your loss, hope you’ll find the strenght you need these days, and don’t give up I’ve heard numerous stories like yours and rainbow baby followed shortly x x

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Eternalwarrior

I am so sorry for your loss. Life can be so cruel. This is really devastating news and my heart is broken for you. Take the time you need to grieve and look after yourselves. Sending you love, hugs and strength in this very difficult time xxxxx

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Hopewhite

I’m terribly sorry, I hope you have lots of good support around you from your loved ones xx take your time to grieve and process this , when you feel stronger you’ll be able to think on next steps, for now just focus on yourself, sending lots of love your way xx

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Coming_up_Roses

I'm so sorry for your loss of your beautiful little one. I also experienced a late loss and went through an induced L&D, I know your pain, it's devastating. I hope you have all the support you need and that you can spend some precious time with your baby, if you wish. I know it helped me. Thinking of you and your partner Xxx

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Gempuddleduck

I am so so sorry to read this. Why is life so crap???? Sending you so much love and I hope you have friends and family to lean on during this awful time xxxxx

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Kate-92

so very sorry to hear of your loss - sending so much love & strength x

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Christianbaby

Sorry to hear this. Sending you strength and light during this difficult time. x

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Nes1005

sending so much ❀️ xxx

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Mikki100

I am truly sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself ❀️

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RedFox23

heartbreaking news, life can be so cruel. Sending you lots of love x

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XOXO13

This is heartbreaking πŸ’” I’m so, so sorry for your loss 🀍

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Kmcdon

So sorry to read your news. Thinking of you. Xx

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