Ideas for the ten day wait after a FET.

[CyclingAddict]

Hello,

All going well, I'm having another FET on Wednesday. I get so unbelievably anxious during the ten day lead up doing the pregnancy test and start having full blow anxiety panics on the day of testing. Has anyone got any suggestions on how they've dealt with the waiting? Usually, I'd go on a long bike ride or run when I feel overwhelmed in life, but that's definitely off the cards!

Thanks!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi CyclingAddict. Keep up with any prescribed medication, Folic Acid and Vitamin D, and test on the day advised by your clinic. Just got to try and keep busy. Perhaps try some new healthy recipes too. Good luck! Diane

[HedgehogMad]

Hi love, you are not alone with the 2ww anxiety! It is horrible. I would say gentle exercise such as walking in nature helped me, and getting stuck into hobbies that you are allowed. Good luck xx

[ButtercupGarden]

I feel you! I'm in the 10 day wait now too. I've been chilled over the weekend as we had loads of plans and kept busy, but now I'm back to work it's a real struggle not to think about it all the time! My test day isn't till next Tuesday so I need to keep myself away from those tests for another week!

[CyclingAddict in reply to ButtercupGarden]

It's awful isn't it! Sending you luck for next Tuesday x

[Twiglet2]

Hi lovely- I’m so sorry tot hear you get so anxious about it and it’s no wonder as it’s a big deal with all the time and investment we put into it all physically and emotionally! For me going away for a few days helps me a lot or submersing myself in work (not to a stressful amount though just keeping busy). I also never test on actual test date as not only am I impatient but it also helps me slowly come to terms with the outcome ie if it’s negative on day 7 I know it’s highly likely to be negative in day 10 but there’s a little bit of hope too so it ‘eases’ me into the negative result. I also tend to test at a weekend or on a day off so I don t have to face the world that day too (so the nearest weekend to my test day) but that is just what works for me I guess what I’m saying is with testing if that’s the really hard bit for you just do it at your own pace and in your own time 🤗 I also try and remember that ‘happy’ hormones can help things along so if I’m starting to stress I watch comedies or do things that make me smile and class it as part of my ‘treatment’ just like my tablets and injections which forces me to chill for at least a portion of the day. The mindful IVF app also helped me first thing in the morning And last thing at night (my biggest worry times!).

My most recent transfers I also followed a tip from my sister (who gets bad anxiety) and she knows she’s going to worry at some point, it’s inevitable so she ‘schedules’ her worry time so if she starts to think abojt things during the day she knows she can’t as worry time is scheduled for say 6pm then at 6pm she has a good think about things and a worry for like half an hour and then stops by doing something different to end worry time (walks the dog, starts cooking dinner etc)

I hope some of that helps you a little and wishing you lots of luck for your transfer xxx 💜

[CyclingAddict in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you so much for your response! I managed to resist testing early after my previous embryo transfers, but the disappointment is almost unbearable when it comes back negative after waiting those ten days. I think I might try testing a bit earlier this time to prepare myself just in case.

And I'd not heard of the mindful IVF app. I've downloaded it and will give it a shot.

Thank you again xxx

[Twiglet2 in reply to CyclingAddict]

you’re welcome! Testing early isn’t for everyone and depends how the 2WW is going for you but it does help me sometimes and there are no prizes for waiting the full 10-14 days anyways lol, if you find anything else that works let me know as it’s blooming torture isn’t it?! Xx

[conceptionimpossible]

I found walks in the woods, by the sea or by a river very calming. There are also some TWW yoga videos on YouTube that are very gentle, but I found they made me think about it more!

I also picked a book I’d been really wanting to read and saved it for the TWW so I had something I’d been looking forward to, and my husband picked a TV show that we did 1/2 episodes a night of so we had things to distract ourselves.

Our OTD fell on a Saturday, so we decided to take the Friday off work and went away that weekend so we were somewhere new and weren’t just sitting at home waiting.

Anything you enjoy and that feels calming and positive should help. 🙂🍀