Today is a day I’ve been dreading for months, my due date for the baby we lost before Christmas. It seems like a lifetime ago, and when we got pregnant again in Spring it felt terrifying but also healing. Our 12 week scan was booked for Friday just gone and all being well, we were going to be able to breathe again. The good news was going to be perfectly timed to carry us through today.
Of course neither of these things ended up happening, as we also lost that baby, and this weekend has felt pretty heavy. No reason for this post other than feeling a need to not let my little one’s day go by unacknowledged. Sending big hugs to everyone on this HARD journey xxx
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I’m so sorry for your losses 💔 my heart breaks for you! I haven’t had my due date that never was (will be November) so I don’t know yet what it feels like but I just wanted to send my love ♥️♥️ Big hugs. I’ll be thinking of you today xx
Thinking of you today 💜 very cruel that some babies don’t get to stay always very difficult when due dates arrive , sending you strength & support from one baby loss mummy to another xx
Spend time with loved ones and try to do things which distract you. I know this is terribly difficult and I am sorry for your losses. Sending wishes, love and hugs to you x
Sending you lots of love Solly, I am optimistic for your 12 week scan as I feel this is your time but understand it doesn't heal the pain of the last loss. Heaps of hugs xx
I’m so sorry about this. It’s so hard and of course you want to acknowledge the date, I think that’s really important. I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in April this week and I’m still so sad about it and every Wednesday I know how many weeks I would have been. When you’ve had that excitement and pictured everything and mapped out the future, the dates are firm in your head. I don’t have any wise words but just to say I’m thinking of you. Something I am doing is making a little memory box with a couple of early scan photos, a pregnancy test and I think I’m going to get a forget-me-not flower necklace which I saw online that was lovely. Big hugs to you. It’s a dreadful time. I’m so sorry xxx
So sorry to hear of your losses. I can really identify with what you write and for you it is very recent which makes it all the more painful. It's two years since my last loss and I've three of those due dates that never came. To see these dates come and go every year is painful but maybe try not to think about what would have been, at least that's what I do, quite unsuccessfully most of the time to be honest. There is no fairness in this journey but I guess we all have to try our best to deal with what comes our way. Thinking of you.
Sending you lots of love Solly. You've had so much loss to cope with over this past year. It's cruel that the dates of what should have been your 12 week scan for one pregnancy and what would have been your due date for another are so close. No wonder it's a very hard time xxx
I am so sorry for your losses...there are no words. Please try to go easy on yourself. It’s a very difficult time for you. I hope you have some support around you. Thinking of you x
Sending you a big hug and all my love in this difficult time ❤️ Years later, I still remember all the due dates that could have been but never were. It is so so sad 🥲 Thinking of you xxxxxx
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