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Can’t believe it I was scanned today and had our first heartbeat right on track💔 and it is ectopic so I’ve been admitted for emergency surgery to remove the pregnancy.

5.5 years of trying

5 full rounds of own egg ivf

1 round with my friends eggs.

A surrogate transfer using my sisters eggs.

4 natural pregnancies, and 1 ivf pregnancy, all early fails except for this little fighter with a heartbeat and now it has to be removed.my heart is so broken at the unfairness of it all and now I will have no tube either so our hopes are dashed. 💔

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Lowamh

Oh Orla I’m so sorry. Devastated for you x

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Cmc2020

So sorry to hear this :( I’ve had two and there horrible to go through life’s so unfair at times I really hope your ok xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

Oh my love im so so sorry. Bless you. Utterly heartbreaking. No words! be kind to yourselves and take as much support as you need, thinking of you lovely 😘💗

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Peanutchips

Oh Orla. I'm so so sorry to read this. There isn't anything I can say to make you feel better so I will just send lots of love and say that my inbox is always open if you need to talk xxx

My heart is breaking for you Orla. I was genuinely praying for you that this was it. This is not fair, you poor thing❤️😢

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IvfStruggler

I'm so sorry to read this. You have been through so much. You must be so strong to have kept going after so much dissapointment. And now you have to deal with this. I'm so sorry it's so unfair. Sending hugs ♥️

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FrancyItaly

I am ever so sorry to read this Orla ❤️ I can’t imagine how hard this must be, I admire your strength for overcoming all of this along your jouney. I like to think there is a plan for us all, one day you will get there and it will all make sense. Sending you a hug at this difficult time x

So sorry to hear this..thinking of you ❤️xx

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Blue1986

I am so so sad for you. It is really unfair and devastating.

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Abs37

Ectopic’s are the worst, it’s so cruel. Cliche to say, but be kind to yourself. I’m so sorry sweetheart xx

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Ivfgotadream

I’m so sorry. I lost both tubes to ectopics- the second was following IVF. It’s so unfair x

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Faith103

I am so so sorry to hear this...this were me last year. My little baby was in the wrong place just like yours but I felt so guilty I had to get my little baby removed. Such a heartbreaking time. Still to this day I have my baby’s ashes on my mantle piece which I named ‘Faith’ and I light a candle next to baby every night. I am now currently 23 weeks pregnant with my ivf miracle. I will never forget what happened to me last year but when I feel him kicking it makes me thankful I kept on pushing after last year. Keep the faith. Your time will come. Take some time to heel. Lots of hugs to you 🤗 xxxx

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Patches86

Sending so much love and strength. It really is so unfair 💔

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gattonero

Dear Orla, I have no words to console you, but please be proud of yourselves for fighting this unfairly long, hard battle. I’m praying for you guys that it’ll be over soon.

My warmest hug xx

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Cinderella5

Awww Orla, I'm absolutely gutted for you!!💔 Life is so cruel!! I'm so pissed off at the world for you!!😘 Lots of love & hugs. I know you'll need time to heal physically & emotionally but here if you ever need an ear.xxx

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LisaBeatrix1980

I am so sorry, I’m just heartbroken for you. I wish I could say something to help xx

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Italy300618

I am so sorry, I cant believe it 💔 it is so unfair, sending lots of hugs to you xx

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RS43

I am so sorry! It’s just so unfair. Sending you hugs. X

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Mrs_MT

I’m so sorry Orla, it’s so unfair. Thinking of you x

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Picalilli99

Oh Orla. I don’t know what to say. I’m so sorry to hear this, I’m absolutely devastated for you 💔. It just feels so so cruel and unfair. Sending love and thinking of you xxx

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RhinoCat

I have no words 😭😭😭😭😭😢😢😢😢 you poor pet.

Sending hugs 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

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Lea04

I’m so sorry to hear this, sending you lots of hugs x

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Peony85

I’m so sorry to hear this Orla. It is so heartbreaking and unfair. Xx

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Rainbowbaby92

Oh Orla this is so heartbreaking 😭 I’m so sorry to hear but sending all my love to you xxx

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lablover5658

I know that words will not help with the pain that you are going through right now. Just remember that we are all on here to help. Take some time out. Look after yourself.

Lots of hugs 🤗

X

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precioce

Orla, I am just devastated for you. This is heartbreaking. Please take care of yourself and I am sending so much love to you. Xx

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Lisichka

My goodness, I’m so so sorry, Orla. This is absolutely heartbreaking. There’s nothing I can say that will make it better but sending you much love at this difficult time. I hope the surgery goes well and you recover quickly xxxx

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fay2399

Ah poor thing xxxx life is so unfair xoxo hope you feel better soon 🥺💔

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Applepie7

Dear Orla Im crushed just reading this. This really is unfair

May God give you strength and inner peace.

Look after yourself stay strong. You are in my thoughts and prayers 🙏

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Cgiles1

Sending you so much love Orla, I’m so sorry you’re going through this xx

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Starsandsunbeams

Oh 💔 I am so, so sorry to read this. Life really does seem so unfair at times. Sending you love and strength xxxx

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Ranchu90

Lots of love to you ❤️🤗 stay strong.

Life is cruel and here we have your example 🥺😥

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PenguinBlue

I’m so sorry to hear this Orla :( life is so unfair and cruel. Sending love and strength to you xx

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Purpledoggy

So sorry to hear this. I can't imagine the pain you are feeling right now. Take all the time you need to recover xx

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AnnieAnnie

I'm so sorry to read this Orla. After all you've been through and to finally be given the hope and it being taken away from you so brutally. This whole process is so unfair. Sending hugs and strength for you to get through this xx

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Gillis

Oh you poor thing, I'm so sorry that you had to experience this I'm sending you lots of love and support.

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BettyBe

So so sorry for the bad news and the loss. I can only imagine how hurt and devastated you must be. It is very unfair: Sending you and your family strength to heal 💐 xx

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Lots8788

I'm so sorry Orla. Big big hugs to you xxx

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KiboXX

I’m so sorry to see this. Sending you huge hugs today xxx

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Blu15

I’m so sorry to hear that you have been through all this!! No it certainly doesn’t seem fair. Cry, shout, scream, eat crap. Whatever it takes. Please don’t give up hope though, when you’re ready it is possible to achieve your dream. I haven’t had tubes due to ectopic and complications years ago. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant. It is possible, be kind to yourself. Sending love and hugs ♥️♥️♥️

So sorry Orla, the world is a very cruel place at times xx

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alohalu

What heartbreaking news. So sorry, lots of hugs xx

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TBB21

I am so, so sorry. I had a ruptured heterotopic (lost first twin through mc and second twin in tube) pregnancy via IVF and it nearly killed me, physically but also emotionally.

It sounds like your journey to get to this stage has been horrendous. Please please ask your clinic for counselling - mine gave me as many free sessions as I wanted.

I did eventually conceive naturally with only one tube at the age of 39 but I know that’s probably not useful right now. Just know that we feel your pain and I wish I could tell you it’ll be all right in the end.

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Zari2

Soo sorry Orla, sending you hugs

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magda22

Oh darling this is awful, im devastated. All my love, i prey you will feel peace soon. So much love xx

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Cooo1

I’m so sorry to hear this Orla. Sending you so much love x

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Bella2323

Oh this is so sad I’m devastated for you

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GiantPanda

This is so effing unfair. I'm so sad and angry for you. I imagine times will feel hard for a good while , so do whatever you need to do to get through it. Lots of love.

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Meghan_b

Hi Orla,

I just wanted say stay strong and focus on heeling your self physically and emotionally. Talk to family and friends. I am sure your baby is waiting to be in your warm hands as much as you are. Sending you lots of love!!

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JaneHaley

I am so sorry to hear this. Sending you so much love x

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City74

I am so sorry to read this. You must be devastated. Take care of yourself as best you can at this hard time xx

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jengi

Oh huni, this breaks my heart. You have been through so much lovely. Life is beyond cruel. I hope you find a way to heal emotionally from this. Sending big hugs & positive energy your way. Will be keeping you in my thoughts Xx

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Aquarius_hope

Orla... I’m so so sorry to hear this news.

Sending you the biggest hug ever and the strength to help get you through the next steps. Thinking of you 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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Shelleybean

So so sorry Orla. Just utterly unfair and heartbreaking 😢 I hope you’re recovering ok. Sending you love and strength xx

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