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1st time unlucky πŸ˜” OTD BFN

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Evening all,

The title says it all really. I just wanted to update those of you who wished us well on our first transfer πŸ’•

Unfortunately, it just wasn’t meant to be πŸ’”

We both feel kind of numb and heartbroken at the same time. Definitely the hardest thing emotionally.

Trying to look for positives: We’ve got two more frosties at blastocyst stage so hoping all isn’t lost. We’ve also got our close friends wedding abroad to look forward to in June.

For now we’re thinking of taking a break from it all until after our friends wedding. We feel like we need to have some rest and recuperation from this relentless journey and re connect ourselves for a while.

We will definitely be back πŸ’ͺ🏼

Until then, we’d like to wish you all the very best with your own journeys πŸ€πŸŒˆ sending you lots of baby dust 😘 xxx

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Italy300618

I'm so sorry to hear about your BFN, its absolutely heart breaking. I am so glad youve got a lovely wedding to look forward to and give yourselves a bit of time, it will do you both the world of good. Thinking of you, and sending a big hug πŸ’— xxx

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toItaly300618

Thank you so much Italy! Your support means more than you know πŸ’•We are really looking forward to the wedding, it will be a very welcome distraction xxx

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Lots8788

So sorry to hear that hun x BFN are so tough. Big hugs to you x and hope you enjoy the break and your friends wedding x 😘

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toLots8788

Thank you lovely, it really is tough isn’t it?! I didn’t think I’d get so upset when seeing the negative test result I’ve seen my fair share over the years but it absolutely broke me πŸ’” thankful for all you fabulous warriors for keeping me sane through this! xxx

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Lots8788β€’ in reply toFluffysocks89

Ah yeah so tough. It feels such a build up. Bless you hun. I know it may not feel like it right now but you're so strong to get to this point and you've so got this and will make it through πŸ’ͺ xxx πŸ˜˜πŸ’•

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toLots8788

Thank you sweetie πŸ’•πŸ˜˜ xx

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Catlady12345

Sorry to hear it wasn’t a lucky cycle for you, but great that you have two more Frosties - sending positivity your way for the other two. Go and enjoy the wedding, let your hair down and have your 2nd cycle when it feels right xx

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toCatlady12345

Thank you Catlady πŸ’— we’re so grateful that we’ve got our two little Frosties!

Looking forward to having some us time again without the needles and pessaries etc xxx

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Tryagain45

So sorry to hear about your BFN. It's really tough. We always hope in the back of our mind that we will be one of those lucky ones where it'll happen first time and it can be a bit shocking when it doesn't. I still remember that from my first BFN. Good decision to take a little break.. and great that you've a lovely occasion to look forward to. I wish you lots of strength and send hugs xx❀️❀️

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toTryagain45

Thank you for your lovely message Tryagain. I think you’re right, we were both hoping we’d be one of the lucky couples that found success from our first transfer but we definitely weren’t fully prepared for it to be a no.

A little break will do us some good I think πŸ’• xxx

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Littlepeax

So sorry to hear this, it really is hard β™₯️ but you sounds so positive and amazing . Good to hear you have two more embies waiting for when you're ready πŸ₯°πŸ’«

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toLittlepeax

Hi Littlepeax, thank you so much 😘 we’re trying to stay positive as we realise that we are so lucky to be in a position to give IVF a go. There’s always, always someone worse off than us πŸ˜” xxx

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KiboXX

I’m so sorry it didn’t work out this time around but just wanted to say, your attitude is incredible and I’m sure you’ll come back stronger for your FET. Enjoy your holiday in June, sounds like the perfect tonic xxx

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toKiboXX

Thank you so much for your kind message Kibo πŸ’• You’ve given me a boost today, and I needed it for sure xxx

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Hartley1

I'm sorry hun...it can be so disheartening. Good you've got frosties and wedding. Don't give up xxx

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toHartley1

Hi Hartley, thank you πŸ’— we will definitely keep going after our little break πŸ™‚ hopefully one of our little Frosties is the one 🀞🏼 xxx

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RhinoCat

Sending hugs πŸ’–πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’ it defo takes a few days of up and down and also to get the extra hormones out of your system. I found the hardest part was being hopeful and trying to switch the hope off after it was over, guess it just shows ya that you can keep going .... if you have some hope left if that makes sense. Good idea to plan some non intense ivf things to look forward to. πŸ˜ŽπŸ‘ŒπŸ»

Enjoy the freedom from injections and internal scans. πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’

Go fill your happy tanks up and you’ll be ready to try again in no time,

Tight hugs of understanding πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’

Rhinocat 🦏 🐈 πŸ’

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Fluffysocks89β€’ in reply toRhinoCat

Hi RhinoCat,

Yeah, that makes total sense! Without hope we have nothing, do we πŸ’— I really appreciate your kind wishes and understanding, we’ve only told my sister about our IVF journey but she has 3 beautiful, naturally conceived, gorgeous little ones so she doesn’t understand, as much as she does try.

It’s just hard to explain to someone whose never been through it how hard it is to paint on your game face constantly.

Hoping to be straight back into it after the wedding.

Thank you for your message πŸ₯° xxx

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