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[Scobie1973]

Hi I'm just home from a mastectomy yesterday , still having trouble be living this is happening to me , tried saving the breast with two previous surgeries but still had to loose it, so feeling lost , will I ever feel the same again ?

[Jennymary]

Sorry to read of your news, whether you feel the same again I can't advise as i had lumpectomies not mastectomy, but over time you will realise what's happened to you, you'll come to terms with it and carry on to lead a happy, healthy life, xxxx

[Jowigs]

I had 3 lumpectomies and then went on to have a single mastectomy. That's just over a year ago now. I was offered reconstruction but declined as I feel I've spent enough time in surgery. I can honestly say I never think about it. I wear a prosthesis and feel completely normal. I hope you reach this point too. Xx

[Snappa7]

I've been there too! Three lumpectomies then a single mastectomy a long numb journey of back and forth waiting for the results and operation after operation,reconstruction surgery was offered straight away but as Jowigs said in her reply I had had enough of operations for one year so decided against it.Im a year on now and having a consultation on the 20th with my surgeon to go ahead with my reconstruction and I can't wait! I still have very emotional times but this is my stand up to those nasties and getting back what they took off me! I don't know where you live but try and meet up with people who are going/gone through the same you will definitely benefit from it.And we are all here to answer any questions.xxx

[Chrissie2]

Hi I only had a lumpectomy and more clearance so cannot comment on a mastectomy. It us a nuisance but you have to think past the trauma eventually and realise that it as done for a reason. I'm sure over time it will feel like normal but it is very early days and will take quite a while to adapt. Keep busy when you are able to take your mind off things but, at the moment, you need plenty of rest to recover from your operations.

Friends and family have kept me going through my journey so hopefully you have a good support network. This site is brilliant so do come back and ask more questions, rant and rave etc as we don't mind

Good luck with your recovery xx

[julesab]

I had mastectomy and reconstruction. I feel back to normal now ! After chemotherapy and radiotherapy. I don't think I be going topless anytime soon.....but never did anyway ! I was diagnosed in 2010. On reflection I possibly would not have reconstruction but did feel a bit lopsided for a while but false booby sufficed when out ! Good luck !! 😁

[Scobie1973]

Thanks for the support , its very weird , carnt look at it yet but feel positive going forward great to know there are others to talk to, thanks

[Linkj in reply to Scobie1973]

I had a mastectomy 3 weeks ago and I totally understand how you feel. I hate how my chest looks bug realise that keeping my breast could have cost me my life. My husband is brilliant and I wander around the bedroom undressed, I inspect my still healing wound daily and I massage the scar with bio oil, I don't know if all this desensitises you but emotionally I am improving. Just take a day at a time and as you feel better and look back you will see how far you come in even just three weeks. Wishing a swift recovery x

[PennyHopes]

I'm not over the shock of losing both my breasts & nipples - I look and look in the mirror and it feels like someone else but I'm just six weeks post surgery and the surgeon is talking about re- opening my left breast to create a " neater" scar - I replied with a resounding "No!" - at this point I'm blessed with life, clear lymph nodes and a treatment plan that sounds like nothing compared to what some of these awesome ladies here have been through! My best wishes for a great recovery x

[Lainey66]

Will you feel the same again? In my experiences no, but no in a very positive way. I feel stronger, appreciate life far more, find beauty in all aspects of nature, I no longer tolerate fools or people who used me for their own gain in the past, I have become more outspoken - not in a hurtful way but in a no nonsense way. I have de cluttered my life of negativity and I enjoy being me. It has taken me a while to embrace my new body - I chose not to have reconstruction after a double mastectomy, instead I have had a tattoo begun. A large chest piece. I have two more sittings to go. It will all be finished on June the 12th. A pair of 'blue tits' with magnolias etc ... I thought it apt in my own situation. I just feel so very different. I am now learning to be happy again, but again in a 'different' sort of way. Life has changed but then so have I. Best of all, right now I am alive. This has brought me even closer to my already close family. It has given me a reality check that nobody is invincible and none of us knows just what is around the corner. Wishing you all the best for a total recovery. Lainey 😁😁🌺🌺🐦🐦

[Scobie1973]

Thank you , that sounds good to hear , I'm pleased you have found your way of dealing with this horror , I'm sure I will find my path to a new chapter, take care all the best ☺

[lizzyHZ]

I had a lumpectomy but I had concerns as to how my breast would look afterwards, taking of the dressings and my partner having to look at it and help me shower etc.

But I wanted the cancer out of me - if it was ugly to look at I could always go for some reconstruction later -

happily I am happy with the result as it is - Women are more than boobs (as my partner told me - I still have a lovely bum )

I wish you all the very best, there is support out there to help you look, cope, and decide what is best for the future

I still cannot believe this all happened to me, it all went in a whirlwind

At the end of the day this hopefully means you will lead a long, happy and healthy life

Embrace the positivity and try to focus on your new healthy body

Wishing you all the very best

Liz xx

[Scobie1973]

Thank you, my husband has been a diamond , with me from step one , we have been together for 46 years and he says he's has got a new woman of mystery lol, but its my own head that's taking time to accept the loss. I've been told I will grieve ,, wishing you the best , take care x