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Hi all my mood has been very up and down recently and there have been days where I could just sit and cry. I’m doing a little better and really looking going out for tea with the family on Friday. It’s so stressful living with CHD and heart Faillur. Sometimes people don’t realise how hard and stressful it really is. I’m chilling out doing my jigsaw on my iPad

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jeanjeannie50

Hi Buddy

I guess that what you're going through is the type of thing that has to be experienced to be fully understood. I probably can't even begin to realise just how stressful it must be for you. Talking of stress, that jigsaw puzzle you're doing with so much blue would drive me crazy. I love doing them but would never contemplate one so difficult. Can you cheat at all as it's on your iPad? Goodness what am I asking!

Sending you a big, caring and healing hug.

Jean xxx

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buddy2blue in reply to jeanjeannie50

The harder they are the better for me. Yes I’m strange like that lol. Yes it’s on my iPad. No u can’t really cheat but you can put all the edge pieces in first. So that makes it a little easer lol.

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jeanjeannie50 in reply to buddy2blue

Putting the edge pieces in easily to start with sounds a good idea. I've some older Christmas scene puzzles which I bought new and did many years ago. Every Christmas I say I'm going to do them, but they haven't been done a second time yet. Time just whizzes by, or at least that's what I tell myself as an excuse. I spend too much time on the internet. Haven't thought about doing an online puzzle . . . . . . no I mustn't! x

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Cat04

Nice to hear from you Tori but sorry you're not feeling the best. I was wondering whether you managed to see your family over the bank holiday weekend like you were planning, I do hope so.

Do you get a picture to follow with your jigsaw puzzle? Looks a bit tricky to me 🤔

Love & hugs xxxxx

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buddy2blue in reply to Cat04

Yes I got to see the family. Yes you can bring up the pic to keep looking at it. It’s easer than it looks I promise lol xxxx

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Handel

Wow Tori. That puzzle would do my head in!!!So sorry you're struggling and wished there was something we could do.

Hope you have a lovely time with your family on Friday.

Sending lots of love and virtual hugs.

Jan xxxx

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buddy2blue in reply to Handel

Thank you Jan. just a cace of taking things one day at a time really. All the transplant stuff is getting to me and I haven’t even had my assessment yet, and now I don’t even know if it’s something I want xxxx

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Retirement65

Buddy2blue just sending some morale support to you - hope you start to pick up soon it’s nice your going out for tea with family think of it now as the start of how you mean to go on when we feel poorly it drags us all down but as human beings we are quite resistant all my best to you Xx

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080311

Hi Tori,

Wow, couldn’t do that at all you must have infinite patience. Sorry your struggling at the moment, you have been through a real roller coaster these last few months, so be kind to yourself. Going out for tea with the family sounds great enjoy.

Take good care.

Pauline

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valezio

Hello my darling, so sorry you're having such a bad time but I'm sure your treat on Friday will help lots💖You are by far the bravest person I have ever known,Bless you❤️Must tell you,I also do jigsaws on my ipad😁I LOVE them! I think I'm addicted, ha ha! Please take good care, things will get better my love. So proud of you my sweet friend, thinking of you and sending healing hugs and all my love❤️Val xxxx

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Sunnie2day

I've done jigsaws on my laptop - wore out a few mouse that way but as long as I chose the 75 or fewer pieces option, it was a great distraction. Very relaxing and fun (if I shut down the timer feature).

But...you're not sure you want the transplant? Can you expand on that or is it something you want to keep to yourself beyond saying you're no longer sure you want it? It is completely your choice and it is surely a difficult one to make - no matter what you decide, we're all TeamTori here. (((HUGS)))

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Harmony123

Nice to hear from you Tori. Sorry that you have been a bit up and down, but I suppose that is entirely expected when you are having to live with something huge like CHD and the prospect of a transplant. At least you are having a few ups as well... That jigsaw looks very tricky. Too much blue. I wouldn’t know where to start. A friend of mine has a colouring app on her iPad and very much enjoys colouring in. She says it’s very relaxing. Perhaps you would enjoy that too. Tea and cake with the family sounds lovely. That would be my sort of thing any day. Hope you’ll have a good time on Friday and treat yourself to some nice cake, scones etc...🧁☕️😊

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stillaboveground

Hi Tori, sorry you haven't been feeling too well. I do jigsaws on my ipad too, I find it relaxes me too much (I nod of while I am doing them). Enjoy your tea and being with your family. Stay safe brave girl, you are my hero and my inspiration. Lots of love from Ruth xx

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buddy2blue in reply to stillaboveground

Ruth that’s lovely. Thank you. Xx

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stillaboveground in reply to buddy2blue

You are lovely xx

Hi buddy2blue. No-one knows what Heart Patients really go through unless they've gone through it theirselves, like any other illness I suppose. Sorry, you're not feeling too good, I'm sure it will pass! 😊😊 At least, you're keeping your Mind occupied for a bit, that's great to take your Mind of things! Just looked at that Puzzle again, looks complicated lol. I would never have the patience for that ha ha. I really hope you soon feel better soon too :)

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PeterpPiper

Chilling out is gooood .. hope there is some sunshine to enjoy soon.

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Nannysue1

Hi Tori. Should be no surprise that you have your bad days and you allowed to have them, so be kind on yourself. If it helps at all, I think you are absolutely awesome and I for one should take a leaf from your book. I hope you have a lovely day with the family on Friday and that it helps to lift your resolve again. Xx

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cowparsley

Dearest Tori,you`ve got it a lot tougher than quite a few of us.Of course you`re up and down emotionally,who wouldn`t be in your shoes.I think you`re a very brave,determined young woman and a lesson to us all.At least you now have something to look forward to.Let us know how you get on when you go out to tea. xxx

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Tay99

Wow that jigsaw looks intense and hopefully there will be brighter times to come as far as your heath woes just think positive easy for me to say you are truly amazing take care X

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gladliz

Hi ToriYour jigsaw looks interesting, very blue. Don't know which site you use but I used to do them on 'thejigsaws.com' . They had all sorts of categories from old masters to photos people allowed them to use. You could also choose the shape of the pieces as well as the number and even had a circular one. It's probably a few years since I used them, still get their news letters though so they are still going and have probably updated their systems by now. Damn, you've whetted my appetite for them again. Enjoy!😊😊

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LBCdance

I know you've had loads of replies, love and good wishes. Just wanted to say that although it is good to keep positive and keep going and it has obviously got you this far, and will again, I think we often do this so as not to upset other people and people who care for us and it does stand us in good stead. Fine but there are times when you just need to let go and admit, even to yourself or to people who understand as on this site, how exhausting it is to feel ill and tired and have to battle every day and put on a good front. We are all grateful for medical progress, truly count our blessings and know that are always people worse off than we are, but you are allowed to let go occasionally. Sometimes, not often, I revert to being a toddler, have a good cry and snuffle to myself "s'n'ot fair" (can't get down and drum my heels on the ground these days!), then maybe catch sight of myself and have to laugh at this foolish old woman. You have amazing strength but there's nothing wrong about not feeling strong all the time and being able to admit it. This is a good forum for that

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Smileyian

God Bless you buddy2blue. I don't think you really know what an inspiration you are to so many people. I didn't know you could do jigsaws on an ipad. How interesting . I hope you have cheered up a little and enjoy your tea outing tomorrow xx

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