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For my friends who ask me about my Positivity.

 I have a vision board which I write what I want to achieve. Its the first thing I see when I wake up every morning.

My goal at present is to get back in my car after I had an accident and drive it. It has caused me a lot of stress and anxiety

At present we have a courtesy car which unfortunately is not up to the standard of my BMW and has no power.

Hopefully my car will be returned today looking as good as new. The first thing is for me to get behind the wheel and drive it to overcome my fears .

I have a few other achievements on my board which I will get through but am concentrating on driving my car first

if you see me on the road, keep your distance lol 🚙🚙🚙🤣🤣

Read the books it will change your outlook on life and bring Positivity. Keep away from Negative people as they will bring you down.

good luck .hope you have a lovely day.xxSheila 🚙💕🚙⚘🤣

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Hi Sheila hope when you get your car back you get behind the wheel and have a lovely drive around, we know you can do it. Have a great day and good luck with the car and take care 😊 Bernadette and Jack 🐕 xxxxxx 🌻🌻

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sassy59

You have a great outlook on life Sheila. It’s good to remain positive wherever possible and you will get to drive your BMW again. All will be well. Keep going and stay positive. Love and hugs, Carole xxx❤️💐👍🛍

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garshe in reply to sassy59

Hope so Carole. My anxiety is through the roof at the moment. I keep having flashbacks of the accident and my lovely car in such a mess. But grateful I wasnt hurt just my pride.Take care sending hugs xxSheila 🚙⚘💕

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sassy59 in reply to garshe

Sounds awful Sheila and I’m pleased you weren’t hurt. Take care. XxCarolexx💕🥰

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garshe in reply to sassy59

Yes theres always a plus side xxSheila 👍🚙💕⚘

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garshe in reply to sassy59

Yes cant wait to get behind the wheel again and get my confidence back. Think Iwill take more than the 0.5 mg of Lorazapam prescribed lol 🤣xxSheila 🚙⚘💕👍

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Alberta56

Good luck with the driving. You're different from me- I'd be scared of a car with too much poke. I bet you'll be fine. Then you can get on with the other things on your list. My to do list is mainly silly little things like put out the bins, but I'd forget them without a list.😃😃🤞🤞👍👍🏁🏁

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garshe in reply to Alberta56

My husband bought me a car that if I was overtaking a bus or lorry and another vehicle came suddenly towards me, I would have the power to put my foot down and get safely past .This Courtesy car is a nightmare havent driven it as my husband says it's a deathtrap. He only has size 7feet but his foot covers two pedals as they are too close together. Also there is no power as very small engine.

I have had BMW's for over 40 yrs so absolutely love them. My car now is a BMW X I series sport ,not too big but bigger than a saloon.

Hoping to have it back today but still nervous as I drove straight into my up and over garage door. . The door was closed and swung back on itself hitting my car .I panicked and hit the accelerator which resulted in me going straight through the garage and hitting a fridge on the back wall. The garage door was on top of the car .The scariest part was it slid up the bonnet up over the windscreen .I really thought it was coming through the windscreen and decapitate me. I sat there for ages unable to move ,and grateful I wasnt hurt .

My husband has had an electric garage door fitted now so I can open it and drive straight in

Well hopefully I'll be able to face the garage and sit back in the car .I'm determined as need my independence.

xxSheila 🚙🚙🚙👍🙌💕⚘

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Alberta56 in reply to garshe

It is very logical to have a car with plenty of power in reserve. I'm the coward stuck behind dust carts and buses, no doubt annoying all the traffic piling up behind me. 😂 Being unable to drive much during lockdown did not do my driving skills a lot of good. I'm gradually trying to get them back, but the roads seem a lot busier than they did. I'm glad it was only the fridge which was written off and that you were not hurt. Sounds a really frightening experience. I hoped you would be posting tonight to say that you had a good outing in your rejuvenated car. Fingers crossed for tomorrow. xxx Chris

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garshe in reply to Alberta56

Yes 0ver £2000 damage to my car.but no one hurt only my pride 😱Hopefully have it back tomorrow. It's been saying 93% complete for 2 days. Think maybe paint not drying in this heat. xxSheila 🚙💕⚘

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Donald_1931

Indomitable Sheila, you'll be back in no time full of confidence again. Was the fridge badly damaged? 🤔xx

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garshe in reply to Donald_1931

A, write off Don lol. But on a plus it stopped me crashing through the back wall of garage .lol 👍🚙💕xxSheila

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MoyB

Hope your first drive (or sit in) goes well and you're soon back on the road! xx Moy

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garshe in reply to MoyB

Yes think I'll be sitting in it first Slowly slowly lol. XxSheila 🚙💕⚘

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Solily

Hope you get behind the wheel of your BMW and enjoy driving again!! I am sure you were very traumatized by your accident but with your positive attitude you will do fine. I know what you mean about the confidence of having a car with power... my Saab was my favorite car... turbo!!! When I needed the power it was there! Enjoy driving again... sending positive vibes to you!!

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garshe in reply to Solily

Thank you. Was supposed to have my car back today but still bo word. Getting late now so hopefully tomorrow. You are right dont need to speed in the car but having the Power when needed can be a god send . lots of love xxSheila 🚙💕⚘

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Trustyourmind

I sure agree with you. Keeping a positive view and never giving up is part of my daily life also. You make mention of driving a vehicle. Geez, I would be happy to walk around my house outside just one time, let alone drive again. If I could drive, I would head for the Casino. LOL! I always have good luck there.

Hope you can get back your car and have a blast!

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garshe

Hope your vision of visiting the Casino gets you there one day, and you win lots of money 💰💰💰💰💰💰💕⚘xxSheila

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Loopylorre

So glad you weren’t hurt in the crash & good luck when you have your car back again, you will do it, you have a brilliant mindset that keeps you in control of how you want your life to be, thank you for sharing it with everyone so we can try it too, 🥰💐🌹 xx

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garshe in reply to Loopylorre

It works, and hoping I can get through to most members to be Grateful for what you can do and not dwell on what you cant. We all slow down as we get older whether we have an illness or not. Have a lovely day .sending love. xxSheila ⚘👍💕

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Loopylorre in reply to garshe

You are so right, it was your positivity that inspired me when I was first put on oxygen, I was so down about it but reading your posts gave me the incentive to think positive about it instead of negative, I had an appointment today for a review on my oxygen levels & all was good, yours ears may have been burning as I told the nurse about you, obviously with the heat at the moment exercising is harder but not impossible, little & often, small amounts are better than none at all , onwards & upwards 😃💐🌹xx

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garshe in reply to Loopylorre

So pleased you had good results on your oxygen levels. It's a lovely feeling hearing good news. Hope you continue to improve. I was on oxygen 16hrs a day during Lockdown but persevered and now only have it now and then. Small steps first then build up .I never rush ,I walk at my own pace and if I feel short of breath, I stop and rest and breathe in through my nose. Sometimes I sit down as theres no rush ,then I can continue and carry on with my shopping. I am out hours but not walking all the time, I rest when needed. Enjoy your day and think of me at 2.30pm in the dentist chair in this heat. Hopefully will be out of there by 3pm so that's my thought lol xxSheila 😁😬🥰💕👍

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Loopylorre in reply to garshe

Oh good luck at the dentist! Not a good day for it in this heat, let’s hope for good air con! I’m not sure if it’ll work like that for me with the oxygen as my levels drop when I’m doing anything & from what she said today there doesn’t seem to be a way of improving it, but here’s hoping, I’d like to think it can be improved, I do the same as you, rest as & when necessary when out & about, just trying to juggle using the oxygen, having my handbag & still being able to use my hands, the oxygen I have is more or less handbag size but obviously the battery is what makes it heavy, I ordered a curmio backpack but it was very big, but I might have to just put up with it, ordered a small backpack to put it in but after a little while it got very hot so clearly it needs to have the open mesh for it to breathe so to speak, but I’ll persevere & keep looking, the nurse said today no doubt there’ll be a smaller version at some point, let’s hope it’s soon! 😂 take care, keep giving us your positive vibes! 😊💐🌻 xx

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Cloudancer

Just what I needed today Garshe.Thank you -am facing more tests which I need to alter my mindset on.Thank you so much for lifting me out of a fearful outcome .

Hope that your car is returned without further delay and that you get back to finding enjoyment in your driving in your dream machine!

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garshe in reply to Cloudancer

Think Positive and vision a good outcome. Good luck. I have a visit to the dentist today not looking forward as it's at 2.30pm and in this heat a nightmare, but thinking Positive and by 3pm I'll be put on there.

Still no news on my car status 93% complete so fingers crossed I'll get it back for the weekend.

Have a good day and I'm Positive all will be ok for you.

xxSheila 👍🤞💕

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Cloudancer in reply to garshe

Thank you -good luck for dentist!And the car!

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garshe in reply to Cloudancer

The Positive is At least I have my own teeth lol 😁😬🥰 thank you xxSheila 💕

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Ergendl

Great advice, from a lovely lady.

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garshe in reply to Ergendl

It works ,👍 have a lovely day . We are all up bright and early this morning thats a good start xxSheila 💕🥰

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Aingeful

After over 50 yrs of driving ,I have had to part with my car this week. With my periodic memory problems it is no longer really safe for me to be on the roads. I have been incredibly sad about it but like with other situations I have had to accept it.As my daughter said yesterday ,"Mum,focus on the things you can do, not the things you can't do " Ah well.........Re The Secret,I read it years ago on the recommendation of my son. I think I need to read it again!

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CDPO16 in reply to Aingeful

I gave up driving several years ago when anxiety was getting the better of me and I decided that I really wasn't fit to be behind the wheel. I have got used to it but occasionally miss the days I used to get in the car and go without giving it a second thought.

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garshe in reply to Aingeful

Thats my Motto Sheila, concentrate on what you can do not what you cant. I am determined to get back in the driving seat as I know it will be hard I am having flashbacks of the car hitting the garage door and it ending up on the roof. I was sitting there for ages unable to move and couldnt believe I was ok. Sorry you are unable to drive but theres always a Positive ,sit there and enjoy being driven around

Have a lovely day xxSheila 😬🥰💕⚘

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