Gosh knows, just feeling a little tearful tonight!
I guess each of us know how sometimes we feel our world is falling apart when we are not in good health!
Heck, we worry about how we can help others when we ourselves are not so 'fighting fit'.
Most of us probably have spent all our time caring about others and not thinking once about our own future, we imagine a slower life, retirement, grandchildren . . . . .
Oh for someone to hold my hand! A shoulder.
Ahhhhh . . in other words, do any of you guys have children that have emigrated?
Like me, you want the best, you don't wish to tell them 'just how much' you will miss them!
Yet inside you know, perhaps you may NEVER see them again?
That little hand you once held, grown up! Married and a new life.
Oh sobs.
xx Ros xx
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That is very well said and sad to .. There is nothing wrong with fellings or even being sad or up set am sure we all feel like you have very well said on this touching post
Oh Ros... I do empathise with you. I have a son who has lived on France for 17 years . He is married with three children and their moving to Denver. I also have a daughter who lives in Western Australia with her partner and five year old son. I see them via facebook and am grateful as I know in my heart its the nearest thing to a hug or a hand to hold. I have spoken to them on the phone but its not quite the same thing.
I hope this morning finds you a little happier. I can't imagine my children not living near me. My daughter lives across the road and her little ones are in and out of my house all the time. My heart lifts when I hear them come in the door. I am sorry you are so sad and miss your loved ones so much. Thinking of you! M x
Why didn't you ring me, we could have talked, that helps sometimes! xx
Good Morning - I hope that this morning you are feeling a bit brighter. I can only imagine and dread. My son is talking about going to Australia next year - just for four months but the fear is he will love it and be off! I am so sorry for you and fearful for me! I hope that today brings you many smiles. Take good care, TAD xxx
My heart breaks for you so much of what you have said is true. I know when mine were little I never gave any thought to myself my only wish was to rear my kids and se them settled with families of their own. Now my kids have flown the nest my son lives 2hour drive away with his wife and two kids and my daughter lives a1 .20 mind drive her first baby is due in January. Yes I've gotten my wish but it's not how I imagined it would be. I want them living closer to me so I can pop on to see them and they can pop in to me. I never thought of loosing my health I never knew I had good health until it was gone. I find it hard enem thinking my health is gone let alone writing it down. So I think what trying to say is be careful of what you wish for and also to let you know we all have days and nights when we feel the pain of letting our children go and maybe it's the time of year also that's having an effect.
I hope you are feeling better today it is so hard when our cloudy days land on us. You have come to the right place there are some lovely people here who will help you. x
Hi Roz,
Never say never. I am sure your daughter will miss you too and will return for visits. In todays world we have skype and web cams, iphones and other ways of sending free instant messages, by phone or pc. Chin up lass you have not lost your daughter forever. She is embarking on a new life, one that will enhance her happiness, she won't forget her Mom and you will be able to stay in touch much more easily in this day and age.
Wishing your daughter much happiness in her new life and wishing you both many happy reunions.
Ros, I do sympathise with you and anyone who feels knocked back and depressed by the illnesses that we are hit with. God bless you. I have been going through similar dark days and nights due to my health problems and feeling that I have missed out on so much due to various chronic health issues, including bronchiectatis, for the past 12 years. I am now 53, living alone and have not had the chance to have a family of my own, due to epilepsy hitting me at 39, followed by hypermobility syndrome, depression, chronic acid reflux and bronchiectasis. Until 39, I was a healthy, attractive career woman with so much. I have not managed to find a long-term relationship, I am alone, tired looking and feel bogged down by the whole collection of health problems, with bronchiectasis being the most difficult one for me to manage yet. I cannot even manage to venture into working freelance as a writer, artist or any other profession I am gifted enough to take on, due to the reliance I now have as an ESA benefits holder and the stiff rules that are enforced. This all sounds so grey, I know, but I am being honest. I tell myself how blessed I am to have what I have currently. I pray. I have a faith that God exists and will help out. The problem is, I live with the symptoms and the situation everyday, as we all do, and can get really impatient and desperate when things are especially bad.
All I can say to you Ros is, you have still got children even though they are not in this country. That is a real blessing and will never change for you. Keep in touch with them as much as you can and don't worry if there are gaps in communication now and then, there could be just as many periods of silence if they were living in the UK, as life is so busy for many people nowadays. I am sure you will see the grandchildren growing up, even if it has to be largely through photos/telephone and webcam - don't forget, there is so much by means of laptop communication now. Keep your spirits up.
Oh! Is4bell4. You make me feel sad for you. Can you pick up the phone and have a long phone call to your Son or Daughter. I'm sure you will feel much better after. Maybe talk your friend or Neighbour. I'm sure The BLF would be pleased to talk to you as well. Please don't sit on your own. It will make you feel worse. You take care!
Hi is4bell4. So sorry you are feeling so bereft.'' We all get like that sometimes so we know where you are. Do you have anyone nearby you can talk to? If not, please keep us informed ; let us know how you are feeling so we can try to walk your journey with you. Good luck. Alison
Hi is4bell4, A tear came reading your post,, If ever you need a chat, you can have my no, As you say we all get down with this horrid illness, I do very much, this weekend has had me in tears more than once, with the ,, service on Saturday night, The young girl singing , who was surprised with her Daddy coming home, that started my tears, then Sunday morning, The Queen, at the cenotaph, the floods started again,, Blow me Monday morning, the young girl and her parents were on the early morning tv, But Chin up sweetheart, you have lots of mates on here, if ever you want a chat. XX
Feeling a lot better, I was in the throws of yet another lung infection, so was feeling pretty blue.
Aargh @ the length of time taken to get lungs up and working again, always seems like forever and a day.
What a downer, mind you . . . (grins) I have purchased some hygienist masks to wear when I take the dog out for her walk in hope it will help keep the cold and damp out of my sore and delicate lungs.
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