I hate my brain sometimes.

[DemureRose]

I hate when my brain picks one stupid thing I said in an otherwise good conversation to focus on.

Like today I was talking to a friend and it was a really good conversation. But in the middle we started talking about alcohol. My sister drank a bit too much this past weekend and I was telling him about it. I personally am not a drinker, I don’t know much about it and have never been drunk myself. But I was saying how my sister shouldn’t have drank too much and how that’s where she messed up.

And my friend, who has drank a lot, basically said (not in a mean way) that “you’ve never drank, so you have no idea.” He didn’t say exactly that but something along the lines of because I haven’t drank I can’t understand the logic of a drunk person.

And I definitely don’t disagree with him. I’m just so embarrassed that I even made it out to seem like I felt I was knowledgeable on the topic. That wasn’t my intention. And I already feel less experienced than this friend so I’m usually careful about what I act knowledgeable on.

I know logically that this was such a small part of our conversation that he won’t focus on it, but I’m still embarrassed. And I hate that instead of thinking about the good things we talked about, I’m stuck on the one stupid thing.

[Agora1]

Hi Rose, it happens to all of us. We speak w/o thinking how the other person willtake it. I don't drink either but I've seen the effects of over indulging in some people

causing it to literally destroy their lives. You don't have to be a drinker to see the

cause and effect. Try changing your thoughts to the best parts of your conversation.

Eventually your mind will accept it. You didn't do anything wrong. You were stating

a fact of what you've seen in your sister this past weekend. You care xx

[Damian]

I did the same thing recently, I had a good conversation but just focused on one awkward moment and got anxious about it. I think, though, that these kinds of moments in conversations are positive in a way. It's when people drop their guard that you find out something real about them.

Most people aren't looking for perfect friends, because how can you open up with someone who has a perfect life? You could share things but they'd have nothing to share in return, except telling you that they'd had a great time doing all the things that people with perfect lives do... People want friends who are real—not a constant source of drama, but also not so perfect that you can only feel jealous of them.

The fact that you don't drink and may not know what being drunk feels like—that's something real about you. It isn't good or bad in itself (though it's good that you aren't constantly getting drunk). It's something meaningful that a friend would appreciate knowing, though, I think.