Anxiety, baby, going back to work

[Ruthie1984]

So I had a beautiful baby girl 9 months ago and am getting ready to go back to work. Am going to start a new job rather than go back to my old one for reasons I wont go into though i will say my employers were awful so didnt have much choice. I have felt for the last few days very run down and tired - more than the standard 'you have a 9 month old kind of tired'. Starting to worry there is something wrong with me. I have been sleeping ok so dont get why I feel as exhausted as I do. I am apprehensive about starting work again as going back 4.5 days a week and worrying about how it will work with my baby going to nursery and will she be ok without her mum and praying she doesn't feel like I have abandoned her and hope if she cries she can be comforted but I dont want her to forget that I am mummy etc. This has been going through my head alot. My husband is being supportive and is pleased re new job as it takes financial pressure off us. Worried how will I cope esp now i have baby brain and more forgetful and will miss my little one so much. Worried all my friends will forget me now I will be working. Wishing i didnt have to work so much... I don't know why I am suddenly so wiped and dont know if stuff is just getting on top of me but need to get a grip on it fast before I start work as need to have myself together for it and i want to enjoy time i have left with my daughter before i go back to work. Any words of wisdom to help me?

[pink83737]

Hey ruthie, I just wanted to let you know things are gonna be okay. I know you’re tired but we must keep going! It’s always nice having someone supportive there for you! Good luck with your new job, I’m sure it will be great!

[Wizardsmom]

Hi Ruthie, I know it's hard to go back to work. I am the mom of 4 and went back to work when my youngest was small. I wish I could help you to know it's going to be alright.

I think you are tired because you are stressed about going back to work. Anxiety and stress will do funny things to us.

Hang in there and maybe try meditating. There are some great meditation apps.

I hope you feel better and good luck with your new job.

[Cat33]

Well my words of wisdom are that anyone in your situation would feel exactly the same Starting a new job is stressful but starting it with a 9 month old baby and that you are going to be apart then you are bound to feel the way you do

Now the nursery will look after your baby wonderfully and also she is only 9 months so much easier than leaving a 2 or 3 yr old Yes they will comfort her when she cries she will get lots of love Nurseries now are very strictly monitored and I've no doubt you will be very reassured sending her there

Don't see it as the time you have left you still have loads and loads of hours in the week to be with her A lot of mums see having a job and a baby the best of both worlds

You need to take baby steps yourself take it one day at a time you are going to feel apprehensive but once you get in a nice routine you feel confident and happy with the nursery staff then you settle in your new job you will love it

I'm wishing you all the very very best and don't worry enjoy this time in your life 🌺🌻