It’s been 4 months since my friends death and I finally feel normal again and well today I just cried a bit after thinking what her reaction would’ve been when finding out the Jonas brothers got back together and are going on tour again
We had the biggest crush on them 😏
I think she would’ve been as excited as the rest our group of friends ☺️
But will this grief ever get better?
Hey Danielle. It does change with time. I lost my best friend 9 months ago. I wouldn’t say it’s easier, but it’s definitely different. The sting isn’t as bad. I am able to smile when I think of her now, and I don’t panic when someone mentions her name. Thinking of you.
Thanks! Today was just random I feel a bit better after crying so that’s an improvement. and I’m also sorry about your friend too.
hey, i’ve never lost a person i loved and it honestly terrifies me. but i did lose my dog when i was only 7, and it made really sad for a long time. it might not be the same but he was my best friend. 10 years later i feel much much better, although occasionally we’ll talk about him and get emotional. you’ll get better, and you will be able to talk about her and smile, but that won’t mean you’ll miss her any less. grief isn’t the same for everyone, so take the time you need, i hope you’ll feel better soon ♡
Thank you
Sorry to hear about your loss.
4 months is actually a very short time for most people in a grief process
as others say feelings will change over time but how long it takes is different for everyone.
You may find this forum of some use
I don't think there's a time limit. Some days you'll be great, others it'll hit you all over again. I went to bereavement counselling a year after my dad died and it was so helpful. I ain't a talker, but it was so good to get everything out. If you're in the UK I'd definitely recommend Cruse.
I'm so sorry for your loss of a good friend. It truly is so painful. Going through the grieving process is a very personal thing, and you will grieve in your own way, unlike anyone else. Don't ever feel like you're grieving "wrong", and please don't put that on anyone else either. Some days you'll cry a lot, other days you'll laugh and maybe feel guilty because you think you shouldn't have fun yet, other days you'll realize you mostly reminisced about the good times together, other days you won't think about your friend as much as other days (and that's OK).
There is a legitimate, well-documented process of grieving that goes through steps: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Everyone goes through them at different rates. Yes, grief does ease up with the passage of time, but allow yourself the grace and the space to take as long as you need. Typically, the first year is the hardest as you go through all the big things like birthdays and holidays. If at any point you feel that your grieving is consuming your life or that you're not able to handle it, please do seek grief counseling. Ask about it at your school, hospital, church, or community center.
I was once a hospice nurse, so I'm very familiar with grieving. I've also lost my brother, father, friends, and grandparents. I've grieved differently for each one. And now, 30 years after my brother died, I can still get choked up thinking about him. It's OK! You loved your friend, you miss your friend! It might help to write a letter to your friend if you feel like anything was left undone or unsaid, or if you just want to pour out your heart. Perhaps you and your friends can get together to have a time of reminiscing, telling stories, sharing photos, and saying aloud what this friend meant to each of you.
We never know how long we have our loved ones on earth, which is a huge reason to make sure you keep your relationships healthy and you always tell others that you love them and why. I wish you all the best. Be kind and gentle to yourself.
Thank you for such kind words❤️
Does anyone ever do this?
Is this ever going to end?
Does anyone ever feel there is NO help?
Does anxiety ever go away permanently? 
GRIEF
