Wedding + depression

[9kyl9mu3]

I am absolutely dreading Friday - a happy day that I should be looking forward to but I am suffering from awful side effects of the Yasmin birth control pill for my PMDD. I’ve had to come off it today and going back to the doctors to try an alternative. I’ve never felt so low and depressed in my life - I know it is a side effect as this isn’t usually how I feel. I cried for 2 hours non stop yesterday and I haven’t worked for over 2 weeks. I’m maid of honour and I am so scared I am going to feel this way on the day and ruin the day for my sister. Walking down the aisle with her wanting to cry and feeling low, and just looking miserable and teary all day. I fear people will look and think straight away that I am miserable because I am bitter and jealous it’s not me getting married but that is far from the case. How do I cope?

[littlemissworry]

I'm sorry to hear you feel like this. I have been there myself, as the Bride, I look back now and though I shouldn't have regrets, I wish I didn't worry so much. I hope that with everything going on through the day you'll be focused and distracted with little jobs and just experiencing the day. Try not to worry about people think, so long as you're sister knows you're of course happy for her, she will be miles away loving every minute of the day coming together. I really hope it goes okay for you and you manage to enjoy most of the day x

[9kyl9mu3 in reply to littlemissworry]

Thank you for commenting! I did read this before the wedding but despite being busy I did make sure I would reply. I dealt with it by doing exactly that - being busy. There were children there who could distract me and I managed to get through the day without drinking any alcohol besides 2 sips for the toast. I feel it went as well as it could have. Thank you and I hope you are doing well 😃

[Pamela2876]

I am sorry you are facing this. I have been through depression as well and it rarely something you can handle on your own. Reach out to family, friends and seeking a counselor can be so helpful. I have a resource if you are looking for one. As for your sisters wedding the important thing is that your sister knows you are happy for her. Communicating that despite how you are feeling will mean a lot to her. A pastor at our church I attended said something that has been helpful to me in life and that is 'there is one opinion in the universe that matters and that is God's.' God knows where your heart is in regards to the wedding and that is what matters. Try not to think about what others are thinking or saying. My thoughts are with you!

[9kyl9mu3 in reply to Pamela2876]

This is exactly what I needed to read - thank you so much. I’m pleased to say I got through yesterday well. Close family know of my situation and they commented on how well I coped which meant a lot. I managed to distract myself to manage my feelings and we had a genuinely lovely day. Thank you for your words; I hope you are doing well ☺️