Relationship Anxiety

[sydneyoswalt]

Hi everyone, I’m going to try and make this as short as possible. So my boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months now, we live together. Lately I have been having constant anxiety and I can never figure out why... but of course my anxiety forces me to try and find a reason. The only time I’ve ever had bad anxiety is when I am in relationships, so naturally I assume my anxiety is caused by my relationship. I’m very open with my boyfriend about it and he’s very caring and as helpful as he can be. He always reassures me that we will always be okay. He is a homebody, he loves just hanging out and watching tv/ordering in.. which I love as well... BUT there are times when I want to go out with my friends and I think I surpress those wants with the fear that he will be mad at me or say he isn’t but act as if he is. I had a past relationship with a man who was very controlling... didn’t allow me to drink or spend time with any of my friends. I’m not a big drinker in the first place... but he wouldn’t even allow a glass of wine for example. My current boyfriend knows about that relationship... I’m just wondering if my fear is completely irrational?? Am I just having these thoughts because of my past relationship? Would my current boyfriend have any reason to be mad at me for going out with friends or is that not normal? (I’ve never cheated or anything of that sort). Please send advice!! Thank you guys

[Hgolden]

Look up Sheryl Paul on her Conscious Transitions website. Go through her articles in her blog in the archives. I'm sure you'll feel some relief.